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Do not let wives or girlfriends see this movie......


My girlfriend fell asleep 1/2 way through the movie. I also saw about a dozen walked out of the theatre. It's not that the movie was bad. Well, to them, it was. But to me, it's the shifting perspective that makes the movie confusing. I've seen it three times now just to make sense out of all the characters and how they lend into the movie. It's more than just a movie about corruption and oil.

But for those that want to rent this movie to see it with the wife/girlfriend, I suggest you rent "Ocean's 11" or something else. THIS IS NOT A DATE MOVIE!!!!

What intrigues me is the Robert Baer connection. He's the real life CIA guy. ALthough this is not a true story, you know there are a lot of corruption elements going on in our government today and their desire to control the oil in the middle east.

Overall....a very good movie. The more you see it, the more you will enjoy it.

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obelix99 we are pleased to see another Syriana fan on board.

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Do not let wives or girlfriends see this movie......
...Unless your wife or girlfriend is an economics or geopolitics major ; Or, if you haven't the stones to ask your date if she likes Adam Sandler comedies as a means of determining how intellectually incurious she is, you can screen Syriana (if she doesn't pooh-pooh the suggestion outright) and count how many minutes elapse during the viewing before she nods off.


Lisa : Women won't like being shot in the face.
Homer : Women will like what I tell them to like!

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Wow. What a bunch of pigs.

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I hardly think two posters qualifies as a "bunch of pigs" ; Williams-59 said nothing that reads remotely as sexist. Note I said reads - by you, that is. As though name-calling is any more civil and indicative of your gender egalitarianism.

I don't think of Syriana as a 'guy movie'. As a date movie, however, I think it won't play well as an occasion to get acquainted with someone new to you.


Lisa : Women won't like being shot in the face.
Homer : Women will like what I tell them to like!

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"I agree! Too much TV, too much Adam Sandler, Friends and Two and a Half Men, it seems like.

The widely held American belief that women are morons makes me vomit."

The people I know who are into those shows are women.

"Hey baby, it's okay!"

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obelix99-

I'm sorry all the women you know are apparently 1950s stereotypes.

Are you suggesting that women, in general, aren't capable of understanding 'shifting perspectives' or enjoying an intellectual film? Cuz what, girls are too stupid (or just too darned cute & preoccupied with womanly pursuits like cooking, cleaning & birthing children & weddings & nails & ponies etc) to watch Syriana? They'll nod off & no doubt dream of shopping?

I know plenty of men incapable of enjoying a film as intellectually complex as Syriana, and know plenty of women who not only fully grasped the film but also loved it. Please think for a second about how misogynist your comment sounds. I hope it wasn't intended that way. If the real point of your post was that Syriana is not what you'd consider a 'date movie', then there's no need for the sexist intro.

And frankly I disagree that it's not a good date movie. If Syriana is the type of thing that interests you, why wouldn't you share that with someone you're getting to know? It provokes a lot of discussion- what's better for a date? Of course if you view all women as intellectually inferior by virtue of their biology then I'd recommend you just stay away from them altogether. Both you & women in general will be happier that way.

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Touche'

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I never understood going for a date to the movies anyway...sitting in the dark next to someone...doesnt seem like a great way to get to know someone. I guess this movie gives you something to talk about after. has some good explosions....

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It takes a little bit of the pressure off the date. Especially if it's still in the early days. You can sit close to them in the dark, watch a movie together, and then you instantly have a conversation starter when you walk out. Then you can go wherever and talk some more. And if the date doesn't work out -- hey at least the movie was good?

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You know, it's people like you who make others second-guess their right to speak. Maybe the poster was an 18 year old guy who wanted a nice "date movie", keeping in mind what an ideal date movie could be. Maybe the posters you speak of did not mean to belittle or degrade women. I certainly didn't react the way you did. I, as a woman, love these kinds of movies, and actually prefer watching them alone than with a partner or friend. It drives me crazy that some women are SO absolutely uptight that they will crack at anything that even slightly hints the sheeeer possibility of a "mysogynist" comment, which for your information, by the way, means that they dislike or hate women. I'm sure thats not the case as they are taking them out on dates ;) Chillll

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wallflower88-

From the original post:
"My girlfriend fell asleep 1/2 way through the movie. I also saw about a dozen walked out of the theatre. It's not that the movie was bad. Well, to them, it was. But to me, it's the shifting perspective that makes the movie confusing. I've seen it three times now just to make sense out of all the characters and how they lend into the movie. It's more than just a movie about corruption and oil.

But for those that want to rent this movie to see it with the wife/girlfriend, I suggest you rent "Ocean's 11" or something else."


The comment is blatantly sexist. The OP states his belief that women don't/can't enjoy a film like Syriana because of it's intellectual complexity, suggesting something like Ocean's 11 is better for girlfriends/wives. As I stated in my response, if his point was specifically about Syriana not being a good date movie, there's no need to frame it with a 'women don't get it' argument.

Anyone old enough to date is old enough to know better than to rely on sexist stereotypes. Likewise, anyone posting in a public forum can reasonably expect to have their points debated. The whole point of writing anything here is to encourage discussion & debate.

Calling out the OP on the sexist content of his posting is fair game, and no matter of your personal feelings on the matter no apology is warranted. I even gave him the benefit of the doubt that maybe the misogynist slant was unintentional. Incidentally, assuming all women are intellectually inferior absolutely qualifies as misogyny- or do you think categorizing a people in this way shows love & respect?

You can try to silence debate all you want, but frankly, if differing points of view upset you so much it's probably a better idea to just stop visiting public discussion boards.

Incidentally, a little ironic isn't it that you 1- make particular assumptions about my character, then 2- attack me for the assumptions you believe I've made about someone else? Frankly, it's obvious you didn't really read my post (eg, the part where I was clear that the sexist content may not have been intended) and instead rushed to attack me in a response as one of those "uptight" women who "will crack at anything that even slightly hints the sheeeer possibility of a "mysogynist" [sic] comment." Maybe next time take your own advice: "Chillll." At the very least I recommend re-reading the comments you're responding to before rushing to post.

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Yeah I dont think that geopolitical discourse, Big Oil, the Middle East, Nation building, The Military are topics that interest most women or men for that matter. But topics like these are generally more in the man domain.

So although OP's post may be perceived as sexist, it is true. Instead of trying to defend "women" as a whole, embrace your individuality as a women who is into this kind of stuff and pass a witty remark, or something of the sort, rather than launch into some feminist shpiel that we have all heard a million times.

Noone is saying women cant do comprehend what men do, its just that most choose not to.

You know what the Queen said? If I had balls, I'd be King.

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Kino vamp. Great points.

By the way, for all the posters who keep saying this is a 'guy film' it is not. This is not an action movie, which by the way many woman like to watch.

It's a drama/political thriller and yes it's for people who have a good understanding or at least an interest in politics and foreign affairs. Nevertheless, I just wanted to point out that this film was not made for a male audience. I'm a woman and I watched this movie and loved it. It's a date movie if you are taking out the kind of women who has an understanding or interest in politics and there are plenty who do.

Just as well there are plenty of men on this board who don't understand this movie at all and one poster said the movie was made for 'boring snobs.' LOL.

-Tom Cruise: Listen Matt, You don't know the history of microbiology!! I do!-

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@kino_vamp:

Wow, the sense of insecurity amongst women like you is appalling. Of course if I didn't like Sex & the City and I'm sure more women that men would love it. And chances are more men than women would love movies like the Rambo and Terminator series.

Inferring from the the aforesaid:

Does that mean men are mindless & violent antisocial loners ?
Does it imply that women are sexually frustrated & look for liberation / outlet in movies ?

Of course not.

So if a lot of women *apparently* do not like Syriana, they just don't. It doesn't make them less intelligent.

For instance I loved The Hurt Locker, I gave a copy to a female friend... warned her that she may not like it. She loved it. Of course I was wrong but i was happy that I was proven wrong but if she hadn't liked it, I wouldn't have looked down on her.

The fact is, women and men ARE different. Equal but different. Different but equal (albeit most of such differences being brought about by social conditioning)


So enjoy your girly movies, yes we will call you immature. We'll watch our Rambos and Die Hards and you may call us dumb & brainless....
just don't take it too seriously 'cuz neither of us REALLY mean to offend with those comments.

No offense intended towards you or your kind either.

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rw-aryan666-

My original post was a direct response to the OP, calling him out on his sexist assumption that a movie as intellectually complex as Syriana is beyond the understanding or interest of women. I'd be very interested to hear why you feel pointing out a blatant example of sexism can only be due to insecurity. Let's look at another scenario: say a post appears which states that you shouldn't take any Chinese person to see a film like Syriana, because Chinese people will be bored by such an intellectual drama and would be much happier if you bought them a ticket to whatever kung fu movie is playing instead. If someone were to refute that assumption by pointing out that it's grounded in a racist stereotype and that being Chinese hardly predicts one's intellectual abilities or taste in movies, by your logic that person must simply be insecure. Why else would they protest? I would suggest they might protest because they take justified offense to an offensive statement.

We're not talking about a simple comment like "Sex and the City seems more popular with the ladies." The OP's message was that women are not as intellectually capable as men. A desire to refute such an offensive and ignorant statement hardly grows out of "insecurity." I hope this makes sense to you.

I'm assuming the majority of your post is actually intended to read as somewhat tongue-in-cheek. I trust you don't actually believe that sexist insults are harmless fun, or that a person's gender is in any way an accurate predictor of their abilities and taste in movies. If I've misread your tone, then we'll just have to agree to disagree.

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Just out of curiosity, do you like "Sex and the City"?

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I loathe it as well.

In fact, I do not know a single heterosexual male who likes Sex and the City (now THERE's a sexist comment for you!). Ha!

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great points kino_vamp! but i digress, I only enjoy the company of fresh young 18 year old girls, so your points are not applicable.


just kidding.




for the most part.

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obelix, and others with similar observations: it may be worth stopping a moment to consider whether you have all that much in common with a girl who snores through your type of movie in the first place. The point being, once the "wow" spark wears off, will you still have enough in common that you'd want to be with them anyway? But then if you're the type of guy who's out for tail rather than something more meaningful, do heed his advice and go see a short comedy or a cutesy chick flicky type movie. However, if you liked this movie a lot and are looking for something more meaningful in a relationship with someone you'd like to have something to talk about later - rather than awkward silence - this is a great date movie for you.

I agree with you Obelix, it was a great movie. As a person serving in the US Military, it also resonated with me for other reasons; the questions we all have but are afraid to ask - more afraid, yet, of the answers not being what we want to hear.


oh yeah, and lest I forget, while there are so many girls out there that only want to watch comedies, romances, and chick flicks, for every one of them, there's a guy that will only watch clive barker, die hard, and adam sandler type movies.

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I am SO glad you said that. Yes, boring, boring, boring. I gave it a 2 out of 10. It looked like it tried too hard to be "meaningful," but failed miserably.

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This does sound sexist...

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This does sound sexist...


And it's not even particularly true: Looking at the demographic breakdown of the voters, Syriana has a very consistent rating between males and females in the various age groups. With the exception of males under 18 (7.3) and females under 18 (6.6).

It's not "Buckaroo Banzai" - which is the movie with the greatest male/female discrepancy I have ever seen here (love that movie too, btw).

- Anwar

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Well,

I know women who are probably capable of "getting" this film, as well as I, or you...as well as "us," fellas.

That being said, SYRIANA is, without question, a "head" film, and one for informed, modernist types, and a good degree of education on the Middle East as a region and its history for the past hundred years is quite invaluable in enjoying the full effect, if you can call it enjoyment (and I really DID enjoy this film). There's no reason any woman wouldn't qualify, or be up to the test of what this fine piece of modern cinema offers the viewer! But...

It's also a Guy Film, along the lines of most Tarantino films, the "great" Scorsese films, and any-and-all James Bond films that we might deem Necessary Viewing...as well as THE USUAL SUSPECTS, TRAINING DAY, and PATTON. You could, theoretically, include anything Clint Eastwood has done/acted in before '03 in this list, as well as BRIAN'S SONG and MY BODYGUARD. Um...do we need to make a list, here?

Needless to say, SYRIANA may be the best, most well-conceived Guy Film known to man--or at least, the best one of the new millenium. Right?


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Bobbo

"Only a fool would say that." --STEELY DAN

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I get what you mean by the "guy film" label, but I honestly don't believe Syriana was made for a male audience. It was made for an intellectual audience, if any- it's purpose was education along with enough entertainment/drama to keep you watching through the heavy jargon.

I propose we either drop these lame gender-stereotyped labels, or else redefine them so they fit a little better with reality. We all know that so-called 'guy films' don't just appeal to guys & so-called 'chick-flics' don't just appeal to girls. They're just referring to different genres. If you like romantic comedy, chances are you're bound to watch what people may call a 'chick-flic', and if you like action you're probably watching stuff people call 'guy films'. I'm a woman and I have no intention of seeing a good 90% of the 'chick-flics' out there because I'm not a huge fan of romcoms, but I did enjoy Sex & the City- it was like an extended episode of the show. On the flip side, I love Clint Eastwood from the dollars trilogy right up to his recent work, The Dirty Dozen, The Usual Suspects, and a whole host of what you'd call 'guy films'. And I'm not alone in that- far from it. Us ladies like watching stuff get blown up just as much as the boys.

So if we're going to keep gender-stereotyped labels we'll just have to try & adapt them to the complexity of individuals. I vote 300 a chick-flic (chick porn, actually- hot half-naked men fight for hours, hot king & damn sexy queen have mutally loving/respectful relationship & she kicks ass too). Death Proof & Kill Bill are obvious- strong female characters. Planet Terror is a tough one... the women were definitely there for some male titillation, but were strong & sexy for the ladies too... maybe we need an 'intersex' category? Gender-confused movies? ;p

We know people are complex creatures, it's just inane to think the population can be split in half & our tastes defined with such massive oversimplifications. C'mon boys... I know some of you like Miss Congeniality... ;p

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I honestly don't believe Syriana was made for a male audience. It was made for an intellectual audience, if any
Syriana is gender neutral, with something for both gender stereotypes.

For the guy's guys, you've got a couple of explosions, a kidknapping, some gritty torture, and some cool military hardware.

For the gal's gals, there's tons of fascinating relationships - Bob Woodman and his wife and kids, Bob Barnes and his angry son, Bennett Holiday and his angry dad, Wasim and his dreamer dad, Bennett and and his ex-law school prof. Asst. Attorney General Donald Farish, the corporate execs and their lawyers, Wasim and Farooq at the Madrassa, etc.

However, there's almost zero sexuality in Syriana, the one exception being a few brief moments with the sexy people at the private party in Tehran, in the opening minutes of the film.



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Sorry, I really was speaking in rather broad strokes, and though you disagree, I'm glad no one took my comments negatively; that wasn't my intention, of course!

And you're right: many women enjoy 'guy' movies, and vice/versa. My point was that, rather than not understanding the wealth of subtext in SYRIANA, many women might simply be disinterested in many aspects of the film, as it's a 'guy' movie anyway. I'll stick to that assessment.

"Only a fool would say that." --STEELY DAN

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No worries & sorry if my post seemed a bit like an attack on yours! I didn't take your comments as anything negative. They just made me think of that issue, the gender-labels for movies, which has bugged me for awhile as it just doesn't make sense to me. I understand your point about Syriana, and I'm sure it's true for some women at least. Although, I suspect that those same women were instead drawn in by the Clooney/Damon/Siddig factor- those three make for great eye-candy for anyone not grabbed by the complex plot. ;p

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Hay Kino,

I hear you. In fact, when I saw this in the theater, I expected more of a flashy, stylish spy thriller/drama, because of the actors involved! I think I had something along the lines of SPY GAME in mind, actually.

This film is so much more. I think, in a classroom setting, it could be used to both illustrate the difference between different classes and nationalities of Middle Eastern populaces, for instance. Not to mention the cause-and-effect tendencies of foreign policy and/or "the intelligence community" abroad. Multi-national corporate politics and business/industry, perhaps the true meaning of the impact of control of a theoretically limited natural resource...it's multi-faceted, and deeply textured, of course.

In viewing it again yesterday, I was again amazed at how SYRIANA fits so much into a relatively normal running time. And, you're apparently correct! Girls like it too, eh? Kudos for great posting...selah.


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Bobbo

"Only a fool would say that." --STEELY DAN

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"For the guy's guys, you've got a couple of explosions, a kidknapping, some gritty torture, and some cool military hardware.

For the gal's gals, there's tons of fascinating relationships"

I'll let you know right now I am NOT watching this movie for its "fascinating relationships".

Also, for anyone saying this movie is a "guy movie"; the definitive reason why it is not, is that the action etc in this movie is inherent in the nature of the kinds of political issues covered by the film, which is of interest to anyone who follows politics, regardless of gender. To call it a guy movie either fails to recognise the point of the movie, or implies that politics are a man's realm.

But the whole "guy movie" or "chick flick" notion is pretty flawed and unhelpful in any case.

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Ive seen this movie a dozen times, I know every line and every scene. I understand that this film is not for everyone, but those who appreciate the political/economical connection, conspiracies, shadow economies will love it.

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I love this movie and I am a girlfriend... The only part that I find hard to watch is when the little boy gets electrocuted and dies... I am actually crying right now from watching it

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cheeeez the dude was right for saying girlfriends shouldnt watch this - the death of that boy was symbolic, it should not be accepted as some kind of tragedy or dramatic sequence...

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But for those that want to rent this movie to see it with the wife/girlfriend, I suggest you rent "Ocean's 11" or something else. THIS IS NOT A DATE MOVIE!!!!


It's painfully obvious from your grammar alone, you are NOT the type of person who should be watching political thrillers.

May I recommend Die Hard? Or perhaps Billy Madison? These movies are specifically catered to persons such as yourself, with how shall I put it?

Degraded intellectual capabilities.

When the Defecation hits the Oscillation.

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Women, know your place!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MMb8Csll9Ws

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