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Confused about J Lo + Gere's relationship (Possible Spoilers)

posted 18 years ago by yttimsmc11
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Did Gere have an affair in mind or was he simply reaching out to someone (paraphrasing) "who looked the way I felt inside"? Did he only sign up to dance to get with Jennifer Lopez or was she just the trigger that broke the stale routine he was in?

I'm confused because he asks her out to dinner and she rejects him. Now, he may just have wanted to talk with someone who knew the "NEW" him or he may have been "asking her out." He contemplates not returning to dance class due to this, but realizes he really loves dancing. He also makes a point of telling her that he returned because he didn't want to confirm for her what she thought of him originally. So I'm confused!

Did he (WANT J Lo) or not????

[–] velcronewsletter 18 years ago

i think it was just a trigger to make his re-evaluate his life with his wife

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[–] Cyberella 18 years ago

It is obvious to me that he was intrigued with Paulina after seeing her standing at the window and sought to engage in a relationship.

[–] CoffeeGoddess 18 years ago

I have to respectfully disagree. I think he was more interested in what made Paulina tick, what was the cause of her melancholia. He felt that way and he wondered what would make another feel so. There may have been a touch of 'like to get with her' but that was no more than a spark that would never go to flame. He was a man who was very much in love with his wife but very much bored with the way his life was going.

The inner machinations of my mind are an enigma -- Patrick Star

[–] daneldorado 18 years ago

Any married man beyond a certain age knows the feeling Gere's character had when he first stepped off that el train on his way to Miss Mitzi's Dance Studio.

We love our wives, we love our families, but at some point we get to feeling we are "missing out" on something, being locked up within a secure relationship, unable to roam freely in the "outside" world. That doesn't mean we love our partners less; it means, simply, that we are human and want to explore the world outside our nuclear family before we get too old to enjoy it.

And when a hot babe like Jennifer Lopez happens to be the trigger for this "wandering," the urge to roam becomes irresistible.

Not to worry though, because at no time in the film did John Clark (the Gere character) want to leave his wife. He just wanted to taste a whiff of freedom. We all do.

Dan N.

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