Unbelievable


This film had every idiotic "let's all get along" fantasy rolled into one: Germans and Israelis forming friendships and marriages, a homophobe befriending a gay man, a homophobe defending gays against skinheads, etc., etc., etc. Some idiot posted it was the Americans fault for the saccharine ending which is totally ridiculous: most Americans have not not seen this film, although it does depict German gay men as promiscuous and leaves American gay men out of that scenario thank God.

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Gay men are known to be promiscuous ... nothing wrong with acknowledging that stereotype if it's true.

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Very true. Gay men aren’t ashamed of their promiscuity, they aren’t ashamed of sex.

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See, I think you can validly measure whether gay men are promiscuous. There have been countless studies on it, tons of anecdotal evidence, and a lot of news about how that has erupted into public view as in Rock Hudson's gay exploits.

But, I do not think it is right, or fair, or valid to assume anything about how "they" feel about it unless you or someone has studied that, and that is tricky to audit people's "feelings" about sensitive emotional subjects. It's like a lie detector ... can you believe it all the time, or can people fool it or mislead it. Only the hard data in science is valid ... and no pun intended.

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My best friend is gay so I’ve spent a lot of my life around gay men. There is a danger of over generalization of course, but for the most part the shame that religion put on sex is rejected by gay men under 40.

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So is it doubly cynical for gay men to gravitate towards the priesthood then?

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Yes, although there are men who grew up brainwashed as children to believe that it’s their calling, religion is a heinous subject not easily explained.

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I would no say religious is heinous, just those who infiltrate and corrupt it. The two most often abused institutions are government and religious ... the last refuge of the scoundrel as they say.

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That is a nice way to think of it but the in the Bible and Koran 'God' condones some pretty heinous acts and those have become a part of the religions, forcing good people to condone those acts as well.

Of course, these are my opinions.

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That's reasonable to think. I think of religion as the extension of evolution into the social dimension. The basic idea is that in order to make the social unit more fit for survival it behooved the members to have a similar outlook on life into the intellectual and emotional milieu. It meant trust, ingrouping, and teamwork compared to social groups without that. But that meant taking existing beliefs and reinforcing them, and all the while it's not like human's brains could not perceive individual profit. That is why virtually all societies have some form of religion and how over time religions mutate in a special cult with powers that supersede even the military and physical and intellectual prowess.

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Oooo, I love what you are saying.

I agree that it has been an extension of evolution, it has helped us as a people to be more decent to each other and has helped in many ways, (those you mentioned I agree whole heartedly with) but I think humanity has evolved past religion being helpful to us.

It's nice to have an adult conversation on here, thanks for that.

You are speaking a lot of truth and maybe I am too hasty to just cut the religion cord and get past this 'training wheels' part of our emotional evolution. That's what I'd like to do though, I wish we could just throw it into the dustbin of history.

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> but I think humanity has evolved past religion being helpful to us.

I have to really disagree with that. I think the loss of "faith" is the malaise that has inflicted the US since the Korean and Viet Nam war, and then the assassination of President Kennedy.

There were two major ( I'll use the term religion but I mean social cohesive forces in the USA ) religions, the idea of America, the myths of our country and being an American, and religion. Over the past 50 years religion is still pretty high in America, and the ideals of America have taken a violent hit from all the BS we have collectively experienced, but individually tried to parse.

Then we have business who calculates their gain when they can cause social anomie, disconnectedness. Religion has been corrupted. TV also used to be a common experience for people, but that now long gone too except for a few shows that a lot of people watch, but which are still divisive.

To fix this problem with the country we need to have a unified healed theory that is simple and transparent enough as to be understood and audited publicly by the people ... like our local town hall meetings used to be. Things are vastly over complex these days and people feel helpless.

When the whole attacks on religion started happening ( and to be honest here, I am not religious. I was raised Christian, and for a few years went to a Catholic private school, and did a lot of reading about religion and psychology, but I do not subscribe to any religion. If I did I think it would probably be Quakerism or Judaism ) I saw books coming out about how horrible religion is, Christopher Hitchens, and others. I even read some of them. I always thought they were misguided.

For example, I'd agree religions are or have been corrupt. The Catholic Church Pedophile Priests, the cooperation between religion and empire, mostly from the Pope and Catholicism. There is a ton of room for criticism of Islam and it's radical low tech decentrism, and its alienation of members and taking over the government and law.

BUT, look at the economy and how absolutely corrupt it has gotten. Our private sector has used its money and influence to corrupt all the other institutions in our lives ... so it is not religion per se that is a problem, it is just that it is a more visible and easier to discuss thing that to question the basic workings of our economy and status.

I say people are being too hard on religion ... in a general term, though I agree with a lot of the specific criticisms but that is pathological human behavior that the function of religion used to positively reinforce. We have worked hard and difficult to isolate each other from each other ... by the very problems with religion.

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I would not be against throwing religion out ... but we must figure out what it did for us to begin with - and what to replace it with. It is innate to every human society that has existed - they've all kind some kind of metaphysical common structures in their brains.

But I bet what would happen should anyone suggest that, is that Right would accuse them of being communist insects trying to mechanize everyone and turn them into a collective beehive - because it would be a source of democracy and a challenge to the authority of their leaders.

I agree ... very refreshing to hear an actual thinking person on the other side of the conversation. Thank you.

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Yeah, that is why it is called fiction ... or theater. Geez, the best movies virtualize and idealize reality in order to make some comment on it.

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Oh no! people getting along!
the horror!


Germans and Israelis forming friendships - only 70 years after the war
a homophobe befriending a gay man - homophobe sees past his prejudice
homophobe defending gays against skinheads - homophobe defends new friend

If you think that is "Unbelievable" its a sad indictment of humanity

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