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Why did they have seperate bedrooms?


Did married couples not sleep together in the 1900's?

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I would assume it is because he did not love her and only wanted her to bare him children.
In the Book Rose Red by Stephen King(I think that was the name of it) They also had a larger age span between Ellen and John, He was 20 years older then her.

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I dont recall them saying how old he was in the film. But SB and the other actor who played him in Rose Red wer very different ages.

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In the 2003 movie- Ellen and John looked the same age.

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They slept together, just like they do today. And they fought woith each other, just like they do today.
My grandparents used to live in Hell's Kitchen, and whenever they fought, grandpa slept on the fire escape outside their window.

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(They slept together, just like they do today.)

Most married couples who "sleep together" occupy the same bedroom

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I believe it was customary in the early 1900's for wealthier couples to have separate bedrooms. I'm not sure why exactly. It could be because social constraints dictated that even husband and wife had to adhere to strict rules of propriety (much like Victorian England), or to make a statement about their wealth, or simply because many in the upper class married for status instead of love.


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Intresting. Thanks.

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The thing about wealthy family marriages is that most of them tend to be arranged marriages with "good choice", and rarely out of love. As such, the sleeping together was more out of "socially acceptable only if has heirs" and not out of love or lust. It was not uncommon to have lovers for both sides and it was a sort of public secret, everyone knew but pretended they didnt.
While this changed quite early for the poorer population as chances for "good arrangement" weren't as high to begin with, The richer families extended this tradition well into the 19th century and onwards. We can still see alusion to this on current royal families, they are not allowed to marry who they love if te person is "not high enough".


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