Weigh the Odds


I saw the Movie of Betty Mahmoody and these are my questions.
1. Do we really suppose to believe that Betty was really that sugary sweet when everyone she met, she tried to use for her own purposes.
2. Why would Dr. Mahmoody leave all his belongings in America if he was planning to remain in Iran?
3. When you marry someone from another country, there is always the possibility that spouse may want to go back home.
4. Wouldn't a "parent" who was now safe, encourage the child to write, and maybe send pictures to the absent parent?
5. Will there be regrets when Dr. Mahmoody dies and never hear or see his child again. Mahtob was so young when this happened, and if she is not contacting her Father, I think it is safe to say the Mother is the block.
6. Since Dr. Mahmoody has lost all his work acquired belongings, Betty, (who is now wealthy), should makes sure he has enough to live comfortable. (That does not require any direct contact). In America, Betty had herself a Doctor, and lived very well, thanks to Dr. Mahmoody.
I do not support abuse, and if it happened, shame on Dr. Mahmoody.
If Iranian men are so controlling, why was Betty able to run the streets alone so often, and when she was running from Dr. Mahmoody, Not one man assisted him in stopping his Wife.

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Read her book and you will have the answer to the most obvious questions.

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I'm not spending another dime on this case. We can all give our opinions or assumptions but we never really know if the book or the movie is related truthfully. I am very pleased that eveyone is safe but just hope forgiveness is the end result. It is my prayer that Mahtob will at least write her Father one time because I do believe she loves him and he loves her. When someone dies, regrets can eat you up. I have not heard much on this story lately so it may have changed drastically. Betty has found wealth and an audience and I hope Dr. Mahmoody has some peace and love in his life as well. I wish no harm to anyone.

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I just saw the movie myself and i agree with you, I hope one day Mahtob will speak or at least write to her father.

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It takes so little to put a little sunshine in a persons life.

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gsharon: Ooh , Your tune's changed a bit, hasn't it? Do you think Betty M would ever trust that man again? Do you think she would want her daughter to have any contact with him?. do you think she would be willing to allow her daughter to go to Iran and visit him?? And possible end up being detained there permanently??

And do you think he really cares?? All he cares about is getting revenge on Betty, and you know as well as I do that daughters are not valued nearly as much as sons in Iranian/muslim culture. Thankfully he will never be allowed back into the US again.

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>>It takes so little to put a little sunshine in a persons life. <<


Clearly the motto of the fundamentalists in Iran during that time.

Regardless of the "true" story here, being a woman in Iran back then was not a good thing. Being a woman in that country now isn't much better.

Betty did Mahtoub a favor by getting her out, regardless of her reasons. Mahtoub has the freedom of choice now to go back to Iran to live if she wanted, thanks to Betty.

And to GSHARON710: When you marry someone from another country, and they decide they want to move back to the homeland, you should have the freedom to decide NOT to go with them (and divorce if necessary). Marriage is not a prison, it's suppose to be a commitment of mutual love and respect.

-Jane

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gersharon: Still harping on about Betty's 'wealth' aren'y you?? Look, she's made some money out of her and her daughter's ordeal, and she deserves every cent, and Dr M is not getting penny one of it. OK?? suck it up and live with it!

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Mahtob speaks of forgiving her father in this video on YouTube:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WSLjOGRg9Y8





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gsharon: I told you on the other board - quit whining about the money. Mrs Mahmoody was entitled to everything she got from the marriage, anything owed to Mr or 'Dr' Mahommody would have bene sent to him. You would obviously like to see Betty M living in poverty, wouldn't you? Tough s***! Not gonna happen - now as to how Dr M is doing I wouldn't like to guess, but at least he's at home, isn't he??

'Dr' Mahmoody forfeited his rights to his daughter when he attempted to force her to remain in Iran having conspired to rid himself of Betty by allowing her to return to the US alone.

Also, the reason he did not take all his assets with him would have meant disclosing both to the INS and the IRS(he wasn't a citizen) that he was leaving permanently. And his wife would have discovered his nasty little plot and refused to accompany him or allow him to take his daughter. He chose returning to his home over retaining his assets, so serve him right.

And Betty was obliged to use some subterfuge, including letting the awful family think that she was going along with it all, or she would have been found down some well with her throat slit - and you know that very well. She was totally defenseless adn had to live by her wits. She will be eternally grateful to those few iranians who risked their lives to help her get out.

Why would Mahtob want to see her father, when he treated her the way he did?. She probably has a very nice American step-father now, whom she loves.

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Chill before you have a stroke. The events are what they are. I do believe I said I have questions. If you use as much passion for forgiveness the world may be a better place. Not one time did I suggest that Mahtob should go see her father. Everyone has a right to question and have opinions. Someone suggested I read the book. Why is the story different in the book? Where does the truth lie? More people view the movie than read the book. I have since read up on other supposedly true stories of some of the famous and remembered events when they happened and it was so different. The reason I mention money is because Dr. Moody had a job here in America, and according to the movie they lived pretty comfortable and yes I do think he is entitled to share the profits of their property. Does anyone know if the people who assisted Betty escape still have lives? Is he now able to assist other women who are in Iran and wanting to come home. I do not rule the world or the people. I cannot make Betty, Mahtob nor Dr Moody do anything. The comments are my own, and if you have different opinions, that is what you should voice, but I won't stoop to the level of defending Betty nor Moody to the extent of blasting someone else's opinion. The today is what is important. Whatever happened to Betty in Iran is over, she and Mahtob are safe, and life goes on for them. Convert the talk of money to love. Even if Betty is truthful in the story, the thanks for a nice life when Moody was here and working providing for his family should be appreciated enough to share. Most people who have viewed the movie have no idea of Moody's story and opinions are based on a one sided story. I wish each of the well.

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"Most people who have viewed the movie have no idea of Moody's story and opinions are based on a one sided story." <---Do you know which discussion board you are on? This has to do with Moody's documentary and not the Sally Field movie.

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The book answers all of your questions. Don't want to give Betty another cent, as you say? Use the library. It's there for a reason.

I have never seen the movie; just read the book. There are parts where the author's tone does bother me, and I think, "gee, that sounds a little racist" when she describes how "unhygienic" Iranians are, and there are parts where I think I would've done some things differently than Betty did. Then again, I've never been to Iran, so who knows.

But yes. Read the book at the library. In divorce cases, each side is bound to present only his or her side of the story, so the truth probably lies somewhere in the middle.

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Good idea!

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As for Bettys wealth she deserves every dime she has and deserves more for having to endure his abuse.

It's true when you marry someone from a different country they may want to go back but be honest with your spouse don't deceieve them and lie about your intentions.

If it were me I would never encourage my child to write a child and wife abuser in fact I would do everything in my power to keep my daughter from such a person. And I'm sure that's what Betty did with her daughter.

It's not Betty's fault that he chose to go back to a backward country and live his life. If he has wanted to live well and have his money he should have stayed in America. Betty never has owed that bum anything.

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edward, I agree with you and have a bit more to offer. I have watched the movie several times, and just finished the book yesterday.

1. Do we really suppose to believe that Betty was really that sugary sweet when everyone she met, she tried to use for her own purposes.

She wasn't trying to be sweet-she was trying to save the lives of her daughter and herself. She very genuinely felt that her (Betty's) life was in danger.

2. Why would Dr. Mahmoody leave all his belongings in America if he was planning to remain in Iran?

See previous posts about raising Betty's suspicions. Also, he thought that it was not going to be a problem getting a new well-paying job in Iran. Maybe he even thought that he would be able to get Betty to convince her family to sell the things (According to the book, they had at least 2 houses-very difficult to sell without the other spouse knowing).

3. When you marry someone from another country, there is always the possibility that spouse may want to go back home.

4. Wouldn't a "parent" who was now safe, encourage the child to write, and maybe send pictures to the absent parent?

Okay, this one is tough. My ex was a lousy dad to our son, but I tried to not bash my ex in front of my son. We divorced when he was four (per the book, Mahtoub was six when they left Iran.) Now that my son is an adult, he admitted to me that he had figured out a long time ago what a jerk his dad is. That being said, Mahtoub possibly remembers her dad and her experiences with him and his family and hopefully has made the best choice for herself whether to contact him or not. She would be about 30 now, I believe. If even half of what Betty describes in the book is true, though, I could not have encouraged my daughter to contact her father when she was still a child, but I also would not be angry with her if she decided to do so once she was an adult.

5. Will there be regrets when Dr. Mahmoody dies and never hear or see his child again. Mahtob was so young when this happened, and if she is not contacting her Father, I think it is safe to say the Mother is the block.

I think that the regrets over this whole situation started the day Betty sat down in the airplane seat to go overseas.

6. Since Dr. Mahmoody has lost all his work acquired belongings, Betty, (who is now wealthy), should makes sure he has enough to live comfortable. (That does not require any direct contact). In America, Betty had herself a Doctor, and lived very well, thanks to Dr. Mahmoody.

Yes, and (according to the book, and common sense to me) by leaving the country and not having any type of power of attorney available to him in the States, bills did not get paid, taxes did not get filed, and I suspect that most of Betty and Moody's fortune was gone when she returned. I also suspect that she spent a very large amount of money on attorney's fees to obtain an overseas divorce from a man with a supreme sense of ownership of his wife, daughter and belongings.

I do firmly believe that wonderful marriages can happen between people of different cultures, but I also believe in educating yourself about the other's culture. Betty herself admits some amount of ignorance of Iranian laws regarding citizenship and rights of herself and her child at the time. IMHO, she is now providing a great platform for people to be aware that societal norms are vastly different throughout the world. Not necessarily wrong, but different. Thank you for your time.


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