edward, I agree with you and have a bit more to offer. I have watched the movie several times, and just finished the book yesterday.
1. Do we really suppose to believe that Betty was really that sugary sweet when everyone she met, she tried to use for her own purposes.
She wasn't trying to be sweet-she was trying to save the lives of her daughter and herself. She very genuinely felt that her (Betty's) life was in danger.
2. Why would Dr. Mahmoody leave all his belongings in America if he was planning to remain in Iran?
See previous posts about raising Betty's suspicions. Also, he thought that it was not going to be a problem getting a new well-paying job in Iran. Maybe he even thought that he would be able to get Betty to convince her family to sell the things (According to the book, they had at least 2 houses-very difficult to sell without the other spouse knowing).
3. When you marry someone from another country, there is always the possibility that spouse may want to go back home.
4. Wouldn't a "parent" who was now safe, encourage the child to write, and maybe send pictures to the absent parent?
Okay, this one is tough. My ex was a lousy dad to our son, but I tried to not bash my ex in front of my son. We divorced when he was four (per the book, Mahtoub was six when they left Iran.) Now that my son is an adult, he admitted to me that he had figured out a long time ago what a jerk his dad is. That being said, Mahtoub possibly remembers her dad and her experiences with him and his family and hopefully has made the best choice for herself whether to contact him or not. She would be about 30 now, I believe. If even half of what Betty describes in the book is true, though, I could not have encouraged my daughter to contact her father when she was still a child, but I also would not be angry with her if she decided to do so once she was an adult.
5. Will there be regrets when Dr. Mahmoody dies and never hear or see his child again. Mahtob was so young when this happened, and if she is not contacting her Father, I think it is safe to say the Mother is the block.
I think that the regrets over this whole situation started the day Betty sat down in the airplane seat to go overseas.
6. Since Dr. Mahmoody has lost all his work acquired belongings, Betty, (who is now wealthy), should makes sure he has enough to live comfortable. (That does not require any direct contact). In America, Betty had herself a Doctor, and lived very well, thanks to Dr. Mahmoody.
Yes, and (according to the book, and common sense to me) by leaving the country and not having any type of power of attorney available to him in the States, bills did not get paid, taxes did not get filed, and I suspect that most of Betty and Moody's fortune was gone when she returned. I also suspect that she spent a very large amount of money on attorney's fees to obtain an overseas divorce from a man with a supreme sense of ownership of his wife, daughter and belongings.
I do firmly believe that wonderful marriages can happen between people of different cultures, but I also believe in educating yourself about the other's culture. Betty herself admits some amount of ignorance of Iranian laws regarding citizenship and rights of herself and her child at the time. IMHO, she is now providing a great platform for people to be aware that societal norms are vastly different throughout the world. Not necessarily wrong, but different. Thank you for your time.