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pathetic and boring, at most

posted 15 years ago by ittays
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This movie is about a man that turns feminine - a known phenomenon, however rare and bizzare.

But the real bizzare and un-real part, to me, is the man's wife accepting this. She used to have a real man as a partner (or did she?), and now she has something essentially different sexually. And she accepts it. To me this is pathetic!

It is very difficult to understand how she does this, and the movie does nothing to explain it. She only says she does it because of her love to him. But what kind of a love is this? It seems it is not an errotic love. If she can live with these 2 opposite sexual identities of her 40-year partner and still 'love' him, I would ask what kind of love this was to start with? Probably not a very erotic one - as indeed can be seen from their intimate interactions - they seemed totally non-erotic.

So, this movie is actually about 2 freinds that have stuck together, calling themselves 'married', but substituting errotic sex with dealing with sexual identity .

Like so many movies, it 'flatens' the complex authentic mental and emmotional implications of what is happening and centers around looks and outward behaviors.

This makes the movie quite boring, as the 'flat' plot could easily be told in 5 minutes.

[–] wannabasurfbum 15 years ago

wow... you don't know too much about love do you....

love doesn't revolve around sex. any relationship that does is a short one or a violent one. Ruth is the same person as when she was called Roy but with a different genitalia, once Irma sees this she is able to stay with her because Ruth is the same Roy she fell in love with in the first place. After she comes to realize this the only pressures that are pushing her to leave Ruth are that of the people around her, the same people that are looking at Roy as some sort of nut case, this thereby creates an even stronger bond between them because they have a shared problem and experience that they can help each other with. To me that is love, helping each other out because your problems and outlook go together not about sex that comes later. I don't think Irma was ever upset over the fact that she fell in love with a woman she is only upset that Roy hid it from her and was never honest with her. this is the usual problem with transgendered relationships they never tell their partner thus angering the partner due to their dishonesty not the revelation of the truth.

[–] angela-dees 15 years ago

you're a *beep* idiot ittays.

[–] fificar 14 years ago

absolutely! Get a life 'ittays.' What sort of name is that anyway? I'd have the guy anyday, man or woman. Your name does not indicate your gender, ittays. Why are you hiding behind a non-gender specific 'nom de plume?'

[–] WarpedRecord 15 years ago

I get the feeling a lot of couples who have been together for 40-plus years don't have a great deal of sex anymore ("errotic" or otherwise), and that being supportive partners means more to real-life couples than intercourse once they reach their 50s and beyond. But maybe someone with more insight than I (and certainly you) can elighten us.