I have never seen "a person" more SELF-PITtYing than these two sisters! Gawd, they were so annoying with their resignation and hypocrisy I could hardly watch the movie. You know what they really needed? Someone ought to kick their asses!
shareYou obviously don't know anything about eating disorders. You are the one who needs their butt kicked, thankyouverymuch. :)
shareHaving bordered on anorexia, I can understand how they felt.....but at the same time I have to say Shelley was one whiny gal. She was very troubled, okay. But when in the hospital that SHE INSISTED she sign herself into, she claims she hates it and how easy it is to break the rules.
Make up your mind! Either you want to be well, or you do not.
And she just should have told her mom that she didn't apply to school yet, that she wasn't ready...and would do it IF and when she wanted to.
"Look! Its a cross between a druid and a monk!"
"You mean.....a drunk?"
You can't "border on anorexia" there are criteria for diagnosis of anorexia, either you meet them or you don't.
As for why she checks herself in and then hates it, anyone with an eating disorder can tell you that it is a struggle within you. Sometimes you want to be better, and sometimes you just want to be thinner at any cost. Sometimes your eating disorder is the best part of you, the only thing that makes you special, others it is your worst enemy, and you just want to be "normal".
She didn't tell her mom about law school because she didn't want to dissapoint her, that is kind of the underlying thing that makes both of these girls the way they are, they don't want to let thier moter down. She ultimatly does tell her mother, and her mother supports her.
And maybe in the medical world, you can't "border on anorexia". But you can have early signs of the diease an realize it in time to ward against it. And sometimes a person might have some of the mental issues that would usually lead to anorexia, but they have enough common sense to not act on that. So, essentially, you actually can border on anorexia. It's one of those gray areas.
shareNo, you can't border on anorexia. That's not an illness. Anorexia is an illness. It's like pregnancy. I can think I'm pregnant, but if I turn out not to be, I'm not pregnant. Or like having poison ivy. I can have some symptoms, but if it turns out I don't have poison ivy, I don't have it. Yes, you can have early signs of the disease that are non-specific, but a component of anorexia is the mental part that consumes your thoughts of weight and body image. By nature of the fact that you don't let it get to anorexia, it means that you have the mental capability to control it. Therefore, you don't have it and you also didn't border on it. I mean, if we're counting plain old crash dieting now and then as bordering on it, then 95% of women out there would border on anorexia.
sharevgrace I totally get what you're saying--unfortunately the "criteria" for Anorexia is only 50% the mental struggle. So someone can be diagnosed "ED-NOS with anorexic tendancies" and be "borderline anorexic." I agree though that if you can "realize what you were doing" and suddenly stop, then you probably were never mentally ill, just misled.
For the record, the criteria for Anorexia is rapid weight loss in a short period of time, a BMI of under 17.5 (Underweight BMI is 18.5, Normal is 18.5-25), refusal/fear of gaining weight, and loss of menstrual period.
Technically the only criteria that makes me ED-NOS instead of Anorexic is that my BMI is currently 18.1. Kind of sucks, if you think about it. It's like the doctor is saying "You're still too fat."
I flip flop all the time....there are 2 parts of you, the eating disordered one and the logical one, they are in constant battle, it makes sense
shareSo, just because she signed herself into the darn hospital doesn't mean she couldn't dislike how it was run. Plus, Shelley was very clever; it's possible she saw ways to break and bend rules that other patients didn't and which slipped right under the noses of the staff.
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