Oh dear! Do we have to communicate so very unpleasantly and critically?
Can we please just remember (or realise) that there are people of a wide age range and very diverse experence who make comments and leave questions on this website. That includes young people (and perhaps older ones) who have no experience with alcoholism whatsoever.
The question that was asked here is a perfectly valid topic of discussion and no-one (particularly a young person) ought to be made to feel foolish for asking it.
About the drinking- Yes, she is almost certainly alcoholic. It is not accurate to imply that she drinks heavily simply because she is in Italy. Or to say that Italians are drunk all the time. While Italians probably do consume wine more frequently than English and American people, it doesn't mean they are all drunkards. What it reflects is that wine is a major food product of the country, and is drunk at most meals. Emily starts at morning tea time.
The reason why she keeps pushing drinks at him is because it is a response to her own guilt. She knows that she has a drinking problem, so she covers it by trying to make it look like a merely social thing. If he drinks, they are drinking together, so that's OK. She's not actually thinking about it, or registering what he says. It's like a triggered response in her because she cannot simply get drunk in front of him.
As for why he leaves the child.... well, Emily really does give him plenty to think about. We have to imagine what is going on in his mind, without ever being shown the turmoil of his thoughts. There's a sort of parallel with another movie-
....in "Love, actually", we see Keira's character visit her husband's friend to pick up a video of her wedding. He is embarrassed about its content and walks out. We then have a protracted scene in which he argues with himself about what he should do. We don't hear him speak. We merely see him walk back, walk away, turn around to go back, walk away again... The actor shows us his indecision and his state of mind....
In this present movie, we don't get to see the uncle's waverings, but to understand his ultimate action, we have to imagine the thoughts and fears, the worry and the guilt that are churning around in his head... The poor little girl is probably standing there with a face as long as a wet weekend... He leaves his decision right to the very last minute. And then does what is happiest for everyone.
He will go home and tell Francine how beautiful it was. They will come back, because he will WANT to come back. He will want Francine to meet this crazy woman for herself, and see the countryside, and the ants' nests. and Emily will sit there with a glass of wine in her hand and watch Francine doing her exercise routine in a skyblue tracksuit and pink joggers and think "How Amazing these Americans are!". and they'll buy Aimee new dresses, and a doll and a computer, but they won't take her away.
"great minds think differently"
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