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All her Fault

posted 16 years ago by shelbytisha
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Don't you think that Maryanne only has herself to blame for her family falling apart and her father sending her away? All her father wanted was justice but she acted spastically and didn't want to say anything. She kept insisting she was drinking and she wasn't sure what happened but the rape kit clearly showed that she was raped.
If she had pressed charges, the family would have eventually gotten over the incident and the grief.
Instead she became a joke in the school that she was a slut (because she refused to tell the world that she was raped NOT that she readily gave in to the guy).

I've read that rape victims often blame themselves and etc, all that emotional turmoil fortunate people will not understand but don't you want to have some justice for yourself? Your family? Imagine someone calling you a slut because you were raped, ALL because you refused to listen to your family to tell the truth. I think it was stupid, esp when there was medical evidence to prove she was raped.

[–] LaraCroftLegacy 16 years ago

No it wasn't Maryanne fault at all and her father was stupid for sending her away and here something Maryanne was scare to press charges against her attacker and was her attacker fault he the one who a coward

p.s do not blame Rape victims

DarkAlessa now the end of day and Iam the Reaper:silent hill

[–] shelbytisha 16 years ago

her attacker mocked her after what he did, causing the school to mock her, i still think that if she had pointed the finger at him, her family wouldn't have fallen apart that sense.
Imagine your daughter getting raped and you know who did it but she refuses to say it. It would be frustrating, hell you'd want to send her away.

[–] LaraCroftLegacy 16 years ago

how about how town treated Maryanne and her family after her ordeal and family could stll have fallen apart even if she did go to court

DarkAlessa now the end of day and Iam the Reaper:silent hill

[–] whitespirit26 13 years ago

It is the WOMAN'S choice, not her damn family's. Better get your act together.

[–] Livana_Faolan 11 years ago

shelbytisha: You are disgusting, heartless person if you insist on blaming a rape victim (fictional or non-fictional) for anything involving the rape. I hope and pray that if (God forbid) one of your children becomes a victim of this terrible crime, you'll be capable of providing him or her with the compassion and understanding that you currently seem to be incapable of demonstrating.

[–] Joannakathryn 15 years ago

It's easy to say what we'd do in the same situation, but until it happens to us, we don't know.

Rape is the worst kind of violation. If it happened to my daughter, I wouldn't send her away, but the guy had better sleep with one eye open.

Anybody who calls a girl a slut for being raped is just plain sorry.

I love Jesus, but I drink a little.

[–] ChazzJazz 15 years ago

wow thats tough LOL

Her father sending her away was tragic !! why?

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[–] blkqwomyn 15 years ago

Because she had been drinking, Marianne knew that it would have been difficult to prove she had been raped as opposed to having had "rough sex" with the boy. She couldn't remember everything that happened that night; so even though there was proof she had been raped, I think she was more preocuppied with the possibility of losing the case (and being humiliated in court) due to her drinking/memory loss.

But still, I don't think it's fair to blame Marianne--a teenaged girl--for what happened to her family. It wasn't her rape, but her parent's inability to deal with the tragedy that ultimately tore the family apart. Remember, Parick was bitter at his parents for sending Marianne away.

It's unfortunate that Marianne didn't press charges, but again, given the fact that she had acted irresponsibily by drinking, you can't really blame her for refusing testify against the boy. And her actions don't justify her parents sending her away as if SHE is to blame. I think the father was not only sad for Marianne but angry at her because her accusations caused him to lose business and respect in the community. So it was a very selfish thing of him to do. He thought sending her away would make things better but he still suffered--and the rest of the family did too.

[–] whitespirit26 13 years ago

Guys, the MOM sent her away, because she thought it'd be easier for both her and her dad. Her dad couldn't face her because what happened just killed him, and he was obsessed with forcing the town to acknowledge it. The town was full of bastards anyway; even if she HAD slept with him, there were TWO of them, you morons! But the dick football player gets off and the seduced girl gets cursed? URRGH!!

[–] dawn_a_net 13 years ago

The family was already torn apart and didn't define the definition of a family in the first place.

[–] whitespirit26 13 years ago

Listen here Ms. Screech, NO ONE has the right to force a rape survivor to go to court with her trauma. Do you know what courts can do to those women? How dare you blame her. The fault was that of the community's, treating her and her family like that.

[–] MercurialAquarian 12 years ago

I think yours in one of the most awful comments I have read here. The father, mis-treated as a boy by a father that kicked him out, formed an idealized family that cracked when reality took hold. Now emotionally distant and an alcoholic, he abandons his family, leaving a wake of disaster as a result of his emotional instability, erroneous concepts of manhood, and refusal to ask for help to best handle situations that all but baffle him. A real man would have stood by the family in their darkest hours, using love as the tie that truly binds and heals.

[–] renata77 11 years ago

Very insightful post, brennerst1. I still want to scream at that father, and I still blame him for the fact the daughter was sent away, because it was on his account. The mother said he would have "disintegrated; and he did anyway," and he said himself he wished he never had to look at her again. I felt he blamed her for his loss of face in the community (which was also horrid) and he was simply too weak to stand by his family, as you noted.

The mother upsets me as well, since she allowed her support of him to supersede the one who really needed it, the daughter, regardless of how "strong" she perceived her to be. And finally, as I recall, she had almost nil contact with her daughter, even after the father deserted her. She waits until the father is dying, and everyone is supposed to come running to support him after the high school aged child was left to herself to try to even survive, and the rest of them were later abandoned as well. I do believe in forgiveness, and I probably would have come as well, but it still burns me that this girl was made the family scapegoat when the father's frail concept of "family" imploded.

My BP is now about 50 points too high. I think I will pass the next time this comes around.