*Spoilers* Janey + Cady, what really happened?

I have never said that I have so many experiences, but I had more time to look around, more opportunities to contact people etc. I don't presume anything except what you wrote about yourself (and I believe is true, though it is not a rare situation when people on Internet lie about who they really are); also you can only believe me, and I hope that you do.

But I really can see anything that I've written what would make your opinion look less worth than mine. Opinion is something equally worth for any person regardless of gender, age, education, I.Q., job or anything else.

When you officially claim something you have to prove it. It is probably something within your professional qualifications or something that you deal with a lot as a leisure. But then you must have arguments, you must prove something. And you can't be so strong in too many different fields of life. However, opinions are not that strong, you can have opinion about anything (and the more you look around, observe, talk to people, consider and think about something, the more things you'll have opinions about). I'm happy to discuss with people who have their own opinions, the more the better, and not with brainwashed demagogues who'll only repeat what they think they are supposed to. So please don't think I find your opinion less worth in any way. But I'd appreciate if you tell us a little more about the way you developed your opinion (through good or bad family relations, or talking to friends, or reading, or... no need to go in details that you'd find embarrassing or unpleasant of course).

Now, my opinion... The bonds that you mention are legends. They never exist by default. They are as strong as we build them, as any other bonds among people - family members, friends, coworkers, members of same party or religion, members of opposite party or religion... In parents-children bonds it is almost everything the way parents create it. When children grow up, they respond their way, they give their share of emotions, but they do it as persons that were made mostly by parents. Sometimes parents blame the influence of media or society, but it were parents who made those kids more or less submissive to those influences. Of course, as kids grow parents can do less day after day, but if making not to many mistakes in early years they'll have a good relation with children later and still be able to make some corrections (I don't like this word either, but I guess you understand).

So I'd say that all family bonds in "Rain" have been ruined or destructed long ago. Every character in movie lives his own life neither caring nor respecting the others. There are no deep emotions, and therefore there is no real comfort in the end. Everyone wants to keep illusion about him/herself both in the eyes of others and in own eyes. So, it is a false, affected forgiveness making mother look better, generous, for her own better feeling; Janey has experienced a lot of these fake emotions and won't trust her. Though, as you say, she will have her own burden no matter what her mother says because she has a conscience of her own that will be a burden for a long while before she will be able not to understand (I believe she already does) but to emotionally accept the fact that her brother's death was not her fault at all and finally forgive herself.

It's not a wonder that so many sexual problems exist, because many people have difficulties understanding the issues of sexual consent, even when they are not 'in the heat of the moment.' Children need protection from engaging in sex -- an experience that many adults do not know how to handle.

Legally, and in reality, a child cannot consent to sex when they are under a certain age (with each jurisdiction attempting to decide a correct age) and when they are adolescents with a person who is seven or more years older. Unconsented non-forced sex with a child is called statuatory rape - even if the child is willing, the adult must not engage in sex with the child because being willing has nothing to do with consent. There is also forceable rape of a child, and fortunately most people understand that is illegal.

Beyond the issue of any law, sex with a child is immoral and unethical. You may not LIKE the restrictions -- but the laws, ethics and morals about sexual consent are created for constructive, not destructive or prissy, reasons. Personal opinions, desires and fantasy are one thing, and the real need of children to develop in a healthy way until they are adults is quite another.

I am a U.S. psychologist -- most of the world has laws, morals and ethics that are similar to those in the U.S. except for countries that have child marriage. Note that countries with child marriage do not accept unmarried sex, and in many of the coutries/cultures with child marriage, the marriage is a legal union of families -- the children are not allowed to be with each other until they are deemed to be old enough, usually late adolescense. Most of these coutries do not have the same longevity as the developed nations -- so the adolescent consumation of a marriage is not unexpected.

People who fanticize that children should be 'allowed' to have sex may have themselves experienced child abuse -- and might do well to discuss their experiences with a professional who is skilled in the area of child sexual abuse.