On the contrary, he flatly states, in his first book about her - "Iris: A Memoir of Iris Murdoch" - that she never had any sexual relations with anyone else while they were married. More recently unearthed examples of her correspondence strongly suggests he was either ignorant or naïve about that. Apparently many of their friends and acquaintances knew what she was up to. If A. N. Wilson (a close friend and former student of Bayley's, who later fell out with him) is to be trusted, Honor Tracy found Iris and John to be "ridiculous figures" - She said it was easy to be a perfect couple if you weren't really a couple. IM, she insisted, was basically lesbian, though she had affairs with men when it suited her to inject yet more drama into her life. John did not even know what sex was, Honor would aver, with gales of laughter. "Iris has made a fool of him all her married life". * A. N. Wilson, Iris Murdoch As I Knew Her. Wilson is a deeply unpleasant person, and can be a malicious little imp of man, but I just find it all too easy to believe over the more hagiographical biogs and the 2001 movie.
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