I feel bad for Buggy =(


Everyone hates her, but this is why she was the way she was:

a. Her husband treated her like *beep*

b. Her sister and mother, when she was a child, burned her diary saying she was not a writer, which really hurt her. She loved to write, and to have your hopes and dreams crushed like that....is something very hard to recover from.

c. Her mother never got her anything, and never loved her as she should have.

My favorite part of Divine Secrets is when Jack plays Buggy a song and Vivi says that "her mother had never had a song dedicated to her before." Everytime I read that part, tears of joy come to my eyes.

My baby he don't talk sweet.
He ain't got much to say.

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I caught myself feeling sorry for Buggy as well. I wanted to reach out to her as I do most under dogs... She was definitely misunderstood.

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There was one little line, I think it was in Ya-Yas In Bloom, that broke my heart. It was when all of the Ya-Yas' mothers were together (Also don't remember why. It's been a while. The little Ya-Yas had started some kind of bad behavior in church or something) and they told each other their first names. The line was something along the lines of Buggy almost telling them her real name, but deciding against it. It was so sad to me. She didn't even have enough of a sense of self to share her real name.
I think that she could have been a good mother if she'd been able to work through her issues before having children, rather than marrying a d$%k just to get away from her family and allowing abuse to continue throughout her life. Very sad character.

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I never read the series so I didn't know all this information about Buggy before but taking that into consideration, is that why she became so devoted to religion? I mean, it would make sense if that was why because that just does not seem like a very happy childhood.

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It's been a while since I read the book this movie was based on (I never read Little Altars so I don't know about that), but Buggy is presented in a far more sympathetic light in the novel. She was treated really horribly by her mother and sister, who, IIRC, was initially engaged to Thomas Abbott. Somehow Buggy nabbed him instead. I think she may have always been pretty pious and just retreated into her religion as the abuse and her life became more and more miserable.

Also, regarding her reaction to Vivi getting that ring from her father, I think it was not SUCH a huge leap to imagine that he might have been making sexual advances toward her. That is actually quite typical of abusers to shower their victim with gifts either to groom them or guilt them into silence. Buggy, however, was wrong to assume that Vivi was the perpetrator, but that was actually a pretty common attitude in those days and even still: that a girl somehow "seduced" her abuser. But anyway, all that to say Buggy's idea that something sexual or inappropriate may have occurred between father and daughter is not necessarily far-fetched, especially considering that Vivi's father typically ignored or beat her. Actually, Callie Khouri in the DVD commentary gave a direction to Cherry Jones (who plays Buggy) during the scene, something to the effect of, "It's as if he's marrying her [Vivi] in front of you."

"A half-finished book is, after all, a half-finished love affair."

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Taylor and Buggy definitely weren’t the best parents.

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