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I can relate to Will.

posted 13 years ago by d_henderson1810
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I am a single guy and almost 40. I don't have many friends, because all my friends have gotten married, and it seems like a rule that, once you get married, you no longer want to hang out with your single "loser" friends. No, as a married person, it seems that you have to go to weddings and meet other couples and talk about families all the time. How boring!

It used to bother me being single, but now I enjoy it. My money is my own, my time is my own, I can go out with whomever I want, and I am not "tied down" at all. I also enjoy my own company, and can fill my day.

It seems to me that being single bothers other people, because it is like they are saying: "Look, I thought marriage had something to offer, but I was conned. Now, you're going to get married, and be as miserable and bored as me".

I am different from Will, however, in that I work for the family business, and go to sporting events with my brothers. My family is really close, so I see my parents and siblings all the time.

If someone is single, they are not a "freak" or a second-class citizen. It seems to me too many people don't "get" that not everyone finds it easy to find that person. I find that a lot of women these days are "career-oriented" and don't really want to marry and have a family. The ones who do often cave to family pressures, so that their parents can have "grandchildren".

[–] dlmedley2003 13 years ago

I think Will ahd it made and he should never hate his dad's song...Nothing wrong with living life as you see it...

Mob Pranked: "Andrew thinks he's here to meet Brandy, instead we're going to flay him alive!"

[–] sgraf_x 13 years ago

Nothing wrong with that bro. If you are happy and fulfilled with your life that's all that matters.

There is NO Gene for the Human Spirit.

[–] LightningLad 13 years ago

I agree. 38 years old myself and unmarried. If it means I "never grew up", well, it's not my fault I never grew up, it's not exactly something you can just "will", as it were. I mean, I work, I buy my own groceries, do my own laundry, cleaning, cooking, pay my bills. I figure how I live beyond that is my own business.

I was listening to a talk radio show recently and they were talking about how men are portrayed in pop culture, and a female caller very perceptively said how men who are single are portrayed as loser loners, and yet once guys are married and have kids, they are also somehow still losers; they're the uncool dweebs, the butt of the joke. I think it would absolutely kill me to have kids who would expect me to support them, but at the same time look down on me. In my experience, husbands also end up having to be apologetic for their interests that aren't condoned by the wife, even though the wives seem to continue on, full steam ahead, with their own interests. My friends who have allegedly "grown up" seemed to put absolutely no thought into how much they had in common with the person they were planning on spending their life with.

I have also gotten dropped by my friends that got married because they look at me as not being as serious as they are, or something. If you're a certain age and are still interested in music or pop culture, it's frowned upon. Nuts to that!

Thanks for the post.

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Reason is a pursuit, not a conclusion.

[–] cheapfrill 12 years ago

Very well put. And you know, all those married people will someday be hit with the "empty nest" syndrome. No mercy from me. I think single adults are actually more interesting as friends anyway.

[–] HughMungo 11 years ago

I'm with you guys. I'm only 27 so I'm still somewhat in the zone of normalcy for my age. Marriage doesn't scare me as much as having kids. You can always get divorced and be single again. Kids are a huge unending commitment. Unless you go the deadbeat dad route which I could not do.

[–] mankillingshark 11 years ago

I'm female (38), and I feel this way. Is that even weirder yet? While I'm in no way OPPOSED in settling down for the rest of my life with anyone, I'd be VERY content living the rest of alone, just like I am now. I work from home too.

Nowadays, you can access all the books, Internet, movies, TV, entertainment you want, without every leaving your house. I enjoy window shopping and taking walks alone. I have friends to go out and do things with, when I feel like it.

Even 2 years ago, when I lived with my ex-boyfriend, I felt the same way. I loved when he was at work all day and I had the whole apartment to myself. I don't need anyone else, at all. In my experience, most of my friends that are married are putting up with cheating or a bunch of other crap I couldn't stand anyway.

[–] ChrisCuda 11 years ago

I've lived both sides....I spent 14 years with my ex-wife & now I've been divorced/single for the past 11 years. After we split I told my friends I'd never get married again & I still feel that way. I think people who are truly independent & content are much happier on their own. It's great to socialize with co-workers & friends & family.....& just as great to go home & relax & be alone. There's something to be said for having that type of freedom, & being married & miserable is not fun. To each their own.

[–] TeraisaWrites 9 years ago

I'm both happy for you all and envious! I always want to be alone but fall in love. Seriously, I wish I didn't! Keep on enjoying life, all.

[–] brensta16 8 years ago

I'm only 20 but I can relate to you 100%