Autism


I see many posts asking about whether people in this movie are autistic or have aspbergers.I have aspbergers. People with aspbergers or high functioning autism most likely would not be allowed to compete. I am married to a "normal" not on the spectrum woman and we have a child together. Most high functioning people live normal lives but have their little quirks that make them different. Point being these people wouldn't be considered disabled enough to compete. I excelled in sports in high school and I know others who have too. Also I don't think this movie discriminates on mentally challenged people whatsoever. It shows that faking a disalbity is wrong and the consequences of your actions if you do so.

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Congrats to you on getting a "normal" woman to actually marry you. I use to work with mentally disabled people and many were high functioning and I would NEVER marry any of them. Althought they are high functioning they still have behaviors that make it impossible to cope and many of them cant get a license to drive which means if they ever get married their spouses would be forver doomed to drive them around everywhere, and some of them dont even know how to take a bus. I have a friend who has aspbergers and autism and we all collectively stopped inviting him to karaoke everytime we went because he was difficult to handle in public and would never contribute to gas eventhough we all talked to him individually, all he could say was that he didnt have the money and could never understand that if you don't have the money then you cant do anything.

n e ways, there is a difference between the levels of MR or any other disability. I dont think it discriminated against handicapp people at all.

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Thank you. I do have a license to drive but rarely drive unless needed and do not own a car this is by my own choice because I don't trust myself. So yes I rely on her and others. We do have fights a lot due to my sometime erratic behavior sometimes according to her I am too loud in public or say embarrasing things. I of course know how to take a bus lol. Money wise I do fine I own a sucessful DJ business for the past 15 years, its fitting because it allows me to share my love of music and also to use my loud personality. My website for further reference http://djkane01220.tripod.com/ . I have a few friends and there have been times when they wouldn't take me out with them because they were afraid of being embaressed at least I always chipped in for gas lol. Money is never an issue with me cept I like to spend and not save. But my orginal statement was that people with my conditon or similer would not be allowed to compete because we are not considered retarded by any means and most of us have high IQ's.

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I see what you mean. However I dont understand how you are not disabled enough to be allowed in the special olympics. One of the guys in my group did not have mental retardation but did have a low IQ and he was allowed to compete in special olympics, so i really dont know how to explain it, whats your IQ?

Also, he pissed a lot of us off because we didnt think he was "bad" enough to have it so easy. He wanted more of course and was greedy. To break it down, he had fragile diabetes, no MR but a very low IQ that he was borderline at best, poor judgement with females. He only worked maybe 2 hours a day mon-thurs, was 34, had his own room, never worried about a thing. He went to his day program for only 5 hours a day at most and then came home and did nothing. I valued a lot of the people in my group because at least they went to school or enrolled at a community college, but him he was lazy. I picked him up one day and to my surprise he was eating and said to me "I made my own breakfast all by myself independently without anyone helping me." to which i said "where is it?" and to my surprise he said "here" and as i looked it was just toast. I said to him but you are 34 and its just toast why would u need help? He had 3 meals guaranteed, a roof over his head guaranteed, a cell phone and internet guranteed, and a chauffer to take him wherever he wanted anytime. In my opinion, he was not "bad" enough to have it so easy. He had what many of us don't.

I am 25, a college graduate and in no way do i have all of which he has, I have to share a room, i dont have 3 meals a day in fact most of the time i dont know when my next meal will come, and i dont have internet, i barely have a cell phone. Growing up I slept in someone's garage because my mom who worked 2 jobs somehow never made enough to have a place.

I had no sympathy for him, because he wanted his own place but yet didnt want to actually do the work that it takes to get one, did not know what it was like to have rent due and not have a way to pay it, don't know what its like to be hungry or what its like to have a mountain of student loans to have to pay back. I have looked for jobs and put in over 200 work applications but with this economy I am stuck at a low paying job working only 2 days a week. But him it doesnt matter if we are in a recession or not he has his whole life made.

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My IQ is 129 which is slightly above average intellegence. I have a friend with aspbergers who's IQ is about 150 which is near genius, has a masters degree but yet can't keep a job due to her behavior. Which is why people in my postion would not be allowed to compete due to most people with aspbegers having high IQ's. I understand your feelings about this man. It seems he does have it too easy. I don't know excatly what his diagnosis is but even a person with borderline MR can live and work independtly. So he most likely is just lazy and having fun living off the state and having things handed to him. I would feel no pity as well. I stay at home during the week with my daughter, while my wife works. Then on the weekends I work doing my DJ business and make pretty decent money. I give her a large amount of what I make for rent, bills,the baby etc, only keeping a small amount for myself. I don't recieve any support from the state other then health insurance. When I was about 17 i did get SSI however I make way to much income now to get any SSI benefits. I am 30 now. I make between $400 and $1600 every weekend at my gigs. If you looked at my website you would see my prices. A lot of people exploit their disabilty's for their own benefit. It makes me angry. Most people in my postion should be able to find their niche and do something they are good at. Most people with Aspbergers usually obsess on a subject till they are an expert at it. They could use it to their advantage like I did. Those that don't most likely are lazy and just want things handed to them.

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Yes you hit the hammer right on the nail, he is lazy just enjoying getting things handed to him. I asked him why he didnt go to college he said that when he graduated high school at 20 he asked his mom if he should go and that she told him no because you dont need it. I seriously doubt his mom would say that, he was one of the biggest liars I have ever met in my life. He did exploit his diability to his advantage. He had the maturity of a 5 year old, not exaggerating. He had a job with the IRS doing janitorial work, and he stole a CD player from another worker and when they questioned him he denied him then they showed him the video. Then he got a job working at Home Depot, and he stole customers credit card numbers and ordered a lot of stuff from the internet writing his name and mailing address, he was also fired. The sherriff went to his house with the intention of arresting him but his care taker convinced him that he was too "dumb" to have known what he was doing. and when i asked him why he did it he stated "I wanted the stuff but didnt know how to get it." oh and then there was that time when he had access to his own banking accounts and went into porn sites and then later when he had over drawn on his accounts they questioned him why he had done that and his only defense was "it said it was free." and then we showed him how it said free for 2 min, anything after that cost money. And he spent thousands of dollars and then his father was called in and let me not even begin to say how embarassing it was to show him the images he had downloaded. and this guy was also the weridest guy ever he enjoyed looking at pictures where men were peeing on women. It was so gross. i couldnt handle him anymore and while the other people in group were fantastic he was not he started making up lies about how he and i had gone out and that we were boyfriend and girlfriend. I was so upset. Everyone at work had all agreed that he had it way too easy. his diagnosis was borderline MR, fragile diabetes, and having poor judgement with females, thats what his report said. He started talkin to a girl in Africa and she convinced him that she wanted to be with him and wanted to come out to America and see him. He tried to buy he a plane ticket but somehow it didnt work and he was dumb enough to give her his account info and she took out thousands of dollars and from that point on he was not allowed to have a myspace of access to his accounts.

this guy also has a big flat screen TV that cost over 3 grand, and like i said i at 25 dont have that, and i am a college graduate, working full time, and only works 10 hours a week at most and has everything i dont.

i have to ask you to explain something to me. how can you have a high IQ and
have behavior problems? How do you have a high IQ and not realize what is socially acceptable and not? this guy I was talkin about, he "acted" like he had moderate MR more so than those who did, he was also less mature than those who did.

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Wow that seems like he is perhaps a little smarter then he lets on to be commiting online fraud using stolen credit cards. He is a mooch who wants everything handed to him and when he gets in trouble hides behind his parents and his disabilty. He seems like a real piece of work. I hope you disasscoited yourself from him. That african scam cracks me up they are actually mexcian men in Texas using coded accounts in Nigera. They IM me all the time I lead them on then turn them in to the FBI as soon as they ask me for money, been doing it for years actually the FBI caught 2 of the guys I reported. But anyway. Some of our smartest minds in history had social disorders. Thomas Edison's parents were told he was retarded and look how he turned out. Albert Eintstin was dyslexic and very socially withdrawn. Many others too like Edger Allen Poe and more. People with very high IQ's are usually very eccentric. When dealing with my DJ business clients I come across as normal because its a subject matter that intrests me. Like if you were to call me on my business line to hire me for a job you wouldn't notice anything wrong with my speech other then the fact I talk a little fast and I wouldn't say anything out of the ordanairy because I love playing music for people and making a lot of money while doing it. But in other social settings like out with friends or just shopping with my wife I tend to talk about the wrong things at the wrong time. I also have trouble controlling the volume of my voice and because of this people are always asking my wife if I am abusive to her which I am not in any way. I also tend to try to dominate conversations with friends and even people I don't know with subject matter I am interested it. (Music, Ancient and Medevil History, Titanic the ship not the movie, Eletronics, and espically my own achivements IE: owning a business having been on TV, use to DJ on the radio and more) This has caused many women to break up with me in the past. Also when I am in public alone with no wife or friends I am very shy and I tend to play with my hair or talk to myself without even realizing it which has lead to embarssment and even a fist fight on one occasion(I don't like being made fun of and I work out so bad combo for that guy.) I use to fight a lot back in grade school and high school its been about 10 years since I had a real fight thank god. When I was in eight grade at age 14 the 12 grade captin of the football team who was 18 called me a retard and blew a snot rocket in my face. He ended up in the ER with a broken nose and a shattered jaw. I was even stronger then, then I am now I dont work out as much now. Thats why I started lifting weights at age 13 in the first place cause I got physically and mentaly abused by my peers all the time. I am very book smart but I have been told that devlopementally I am 14 years old by a psychologist. I believe it too I get along great with children and teenagers, mature adults not so great. I don't know why I say and do the things I do sometimes and I beat myself up over it(not literlly lol) I guess its just how my brain programs me to be I try to fix it but I never can and look like an even bigger jackass when I try. I only have 4 close friends all of whom I have been freinds with since high school and my best friend since kindergarden. They are all normal not on the spectrum. But they get annoyed with me a lot too. My wife is 31 older then me actually I am 30 and she is mature but we balance each other out. Don't really know what else to say hope I didn't bore you. If you have any more questions feel free to ask hope I anwsered them as best I could. For more insight on me if you want it check out my myspace. Have a good day

www.myspace.com/djkane01201

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Well I added you onto myspace you do seem like a very accomplished man. You have a really cute baby!

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Thank you very much. You are the Duchess I assume? Thanks for the add. I know she is a little doll. Thank you.

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Yes I am Duchess, :-)

I have a rather strange question to ask you, do you take your daughter to doctor appoinments and such by yourself or does someone accompany you?

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Well we usually go as a family so we all know whats going on and if there are any issues to be addressed with her. However I did take her alone one time when Jenn couldn't get out of work. I take her a lot of places for walks and to resturants just the 2 of us. I stay at home alone with her most of the time I see her more then Jenn does. Hope I anwsered your question. I believe I am just as responsable as any other parent. :)

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ah well as i was kinda wanting to ask if you are trusted with her, but I see that you are. Do you have judgement problems?

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Well somewhat in some areas. Like driving I have trouble judging distance and I have had a few fender benders. Thats why I don't drive very often. But as for judging emotions and what not I am very blessed to have a very vocal and intellegent child with the vocabulary of a 2 year old. She tells us what she needs and if something is wrong. I have always been able to connect better with children and teens for some reason. As for adults sometimes I have trouble reading people and I tend to misinterpet things, an example is thinking someone is making fun of me when they are not or vice versa. A typcle sign of aspbergers is lack of empathy or inabilty to sympthise with others. Well as always anything else just ask :)

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I dont mean to be rude but do you have problems with handling money? Can you cross a street? can you do math? do you give out private information to strangers? that sorta thing?

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Well about the money question yes and no, I make decent money as stated before, I give her whatever she needs for bills and the baby, but once expensises are covered I tend to spend whatever I have left. However I never allow myself to get into debt and never spend more then I have. The crossing a street question cracks me up. I can cross a street no problem, however my mother doesn't seem to think so she tells Jenn to hold my hand all the time lol. I do have trouble judging distance but its not that serious where I need my hand held lol. Math I have always had trouble with I have an accompnying condition called dyscalculia which is trouble doing more then basic math. I am at about a 3rd grade level math wise. I can add subtract multiply and do simple division and do basic fractions and decimels and can figure out a precentage but thats about it. MY strong point was always reading I began teaching myself to read at age 2 yes you read that right, by kindergarden I was the only child in my class that could read and by second grade I was reading at a high school level and was in the advanced reading program. By high school I was reading at a post-college level. Spelling is not my strong point however its more comprehension though as you sometimes see. I also have another conditon called dysgraphia which is a fine motor skill disorder my hand writing looks like that of a small child hence the computer or typewriter which I have been using since I was about 8. Giving out private info lol I kinda have been with you lol. Well at times when I was younger maybe I did on occasion however as of late I try to keep things under wraps who would want to hire an autistic DJ lol. If you were to come to one of my shows you would see no diffrence between me or any other DJ its just the idea of an Autisic DJ thqat might turn people off. I rarely tell people about myself anymore unless directly asked. I am also not 1 to fall victim to scams and people have tried scamming me on both the internet and in real life and I see right through it. At my old apartment a guy broke into my house while I was at work and robbed me and me having a photographic memory called the police and every pawn shop in a 50 mile radius and gave a detalied list of what was missing. I got my stuff back the next day when the guy was caught at a pawn shop with my stuff and the guy served 4 months in jail. So yeah other then what I am doing here for your research purposes :) I usually keep my conditon to myself unless asked because of my sometimes quirky ways. Again hope I anwsered anything you wanted to know feel free to ask more. Have a nice day.

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how did u come up with your screen name?

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I have Asperger's also.

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requiredfields,

Sorry didnt mean to ignore you its jut that that momma and I have been having conversations for some time now. Tell me how does Aspergers affect you in your day to day life? love life? job?

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You have Aspergers but can't even spell it. *sniff sniff* I smell bullsh*t.

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English may not be the first language for the person.

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"People with aspbergers or high functioning autism most likely would not be allowed to compete."

Actually they probably would.

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