Why child molestation?


There is a thread called "Child Abuser,(sexual) what is his role in the family?" that discusses the subplot of the uncle abusing his niece and a thread called "Child Molestation" that discusses the value to the film of the subplot and its execution. These threads are interesting reading.

What I'm wondering is why have a child molestation thing at all in the movie? Why not something else, like an accident, illness, natural calamity, crime, etc.? Is it just a coincidence that child molestation was featured in the film or was that a social issue that was emerging into discussion in India at the time the film was made? It just seems that with seemingly so many other possible devices to add some drama to the situation, it seems weird that child molestation would be chosen.

Coincidence or cultural comment?

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I have no idea if child molestation was an issue in India at the time of filming this, but my guess is that it was a random choice. I mean, no matter where you are (west or east) it's an issue that makes people feel uneasy, and adds some kind of dramatic element.

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Child molestation is always, sadly, an issue. The two worlds of the outer, fragile but so important "keeping up the appearances" that is a main theme throughout this picture, and the revealing of the true hidden motives under the surface - often sexual - was what kept the tension going for 109 minutes of screentime.

Mira Nair was spot on target using child abuse as a sub-plot in this superb picture. (The pre-shadowing of the main scene where the molestor is revealed is handled very well, by the way.)

An accident would have been too obvious; too dramatic for this picture, and would not have added depth to this wonderful study of the dichotamy of Indian culture.

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Well said, john-ruffle.

EDITED because Anwar's contribution (see below) rendered my post senseless. <blush>

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PotomacPunchy, that was not Tej's mother, but his wife, and Lalit's elder sister.

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if you take it in a metaphorical sense it probably has a lot to do with the British 'rape' of India. That is if you are viewing Monsoon Wedding as a postcolonial text.

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Child molestation is so common, sadly that it was totally believable that it would have happened and it made the plot more interesting.

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I think it was brave of them to put this in the movie. As open-minded as we say we are it's rare that something so horrifying makes it into movies because people are put off by it, but it's happening in real life. We can't just push it away.

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if you take it in a metaphorical sense it probably has a lot to do with the British 'rape' of India. That is if you are viewing Monsoon Wedding as a postcolonial text.
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He didnt actually rape her though. And since he is Indian, how would Britain's rule in India even fit in this context? I think it was just to make it more dramatic and to show how difficult the father's choice was going to be...

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Other possibilities such as accident, illness, natural calamity, crime or such would not have the incredible emotional stakes that this plot line had. Most particularly for Ria and Mr. Verma, both confronting deep fears and emotions, calling on extreme courage, but very much for the others as well. The realization of this horror done by one of their own, one who has done so much for others, and to whom the central family owes so much, is wrenching to the whole circle of family and friends. Sadly, it is certainly not an unlikely story point. As others have pointed out, there are greater historical metaphors to this as well. Do you object to this aspect of the story? I wonder why, if so. It is certainly disturbing, but not at all wrong for the movie, I feel. What a beautiful movie, in any case.

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I think what was important was that this was a secret shame that Ria had to bear. She suffered all those years and had to watch the perpetrator treated like a family benefactor.

This was also something the she couldn't prove. There were no physical scars, there was no visible damage. And Lalit had to decide whose word to trust: Ria or Tej uncle. The family may have owed a lot to Tej uncle, but Ria as he says, is his family. And in the end you have to stand by, and support, your family.

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cultural comment

it is an example (extreme example) of bad things that can happen in an indian family.. child molestation isn't much of an regular issue in india but it prevails here as in other parts of the world.. indians .. esp the elder generation have a feeling that we are immune from all these evils coz of the family s/m. thats what mira is intending to unveil... its a critique to the puritan hypocrisy many indians have that in india these things wont happen like in other countries.

and gosh natural calamity cant make social critique.

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One way to look at is from the theme or the subject of the movie. Which is love or sexuality(Depends on the point of view) All the plots and subplots are about love. Different kinds of love. Love in different class/caste of the society. Older women talked about their sexual experience with their husbands. Even Mr.Verma & Mrs.Verma, have not made love in long time. And, Pedophilia is sick, twisted form of love/sex and that's what the movie addressed.

In beginning scenes, the movies debates censorship and a porn actress voice-enacted a sexual intercourse. I guess the filmmakers are saying more censorship will only makes pedophilia and other forms of sexual abuse to be brushed under the carpet in India.

So sexuality of modern India is addressed openly in this movie. I think they even allude that their young son might be gay. Having said that, there as no pressing debate about pedophilia in India during the time this movie came out.

PS: For non-Indian audience. In India a "non-vegetarian joke" means a dirty joke. Specifically a sexual joke. And older man tries to tell a non-vegetarian joke but gets cut-off by others. So sex as a subject weaved in to the movie.

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Don't know if it was a theme in India.

Do know that it's a good idea.

Nair is making more than a fluff movie. She's saying, yes, look at this lovely extended family and how warm it is, unlike western, nuclear families ... and look at how sweet love can be (alice) but also look at the dark side of extended families. powerful older men can cross lines and abuse, and powerless younger victims don't have much recourse.

It makes the movie richer, and saves it from being pure fluff

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Western families are not "warm"? What the fnck are you on???

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It was clearly copying the Danish movie Festen.

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