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Episode 110

So sweet of David sharing his romantic fantasy with Michael. All this to ask Michael to move in with him. You would think that this is something that Michael wants too. But, no!! There’s something (or someone) in the way.

And there goes Lindsay to make the biggest mistake of her life: ask Mel to support her, so she can take care of Gus full time . Bad, bad idea. Huge mistake. And when Mel asks Lindsay what they would do for money, what does Lindsay say? “Brian?” What a nerve of this woman! I totally support Mel in her anger!

I love that scene where Justin shows off Brian’s loft to Daphne. She is totally amazed with everything (so am I, the loft is beautiful).

(Can someone explain to me the difference between apartment, loft and condo? In Brazil we have only apartment, kitnet (which is a very small studio apartment) and penthouse (luxury big apartment). I really want to understand why they refer to Ted’s place as condo, to Brian’s place as loft and to Michael and Emmett’s place as apartment. I have a feeling lofts have no dividing walls, is that it?)

While Justin acts as a tour guide for Daphne, we have a nice peek of Brian’s butt. I know Gale has a beautiful body, but I think he is too skinny, at least for my taste. I think Emmett is the one with the most beautiful body in the group.

Brian’s fridge is totally empty (pretty much like my fridge here at home, all I have is water! ). I was wondering what Justin eats. Well, in 109 we see Brian coming home from the grocery store with food in a paper bag (well, at least I think it’s food! Maybe it was just beer, toilet paper, tooth paste, dental floss and soap). Anyway, I wonder what Justin eats. Is it possible that he cooks meals for himself and Brian at this point?

Daphne pours Brian some guava juice and Brian says: “You’re gonna make an excellent wife.” What a nasty macho thing to say!!!! Clofa, I’m sorry, but Brian’s comment in this scene makes me like him less. I thought he was different from most men, especially straight men. But here he sounds like any other man.

With a kiss on the cheek, Brian wins Daphne over forever! Emmett is so happy for Michael! And Emmett can’t understand why Michael didn’t accept David’s offer either. Although Emmett is smart, he knows that Michael is worried about what Brian’s opinion on this.

Justin comes home to Molly’s birthday party. (BTW, is that their back yard?) She doesn’t look excited about his gift, which is a beautiful drawing! Justin sounds a little more mature about his baby sister. Here, he tells Jennifer he wants to come home if his Dad accepts him. But Jennifer says she has to do what’s best for the family, not for Justin. I expected more from Jennifer. I think she could at least have talked to her husband about Justin coming home. She didn’t even try! It’s like she is already OK with the idea of Justin living somewhere else. Unless she was not in speaking terms with her husband, I think her behavior was unacceptable. She hurt Justin.

Then, the robbery! Brian is pissed! And it didn’t help to have to lie to the police about who has been in his apartment. I liked that Michael asked Brian to take it easy, he was so angry. However, I didn’t understand why Michael didn’t tell Deb and Vic what happened. He just said Brian was robbed. He didn’t say anything about Brian kicking Justin out. If he had said something, Deb would have done something on the spot.

Brunch time for everybody! We don’t have brunch in Brazil, and it’s not easy to understand what brunch is. I got that better by watching Sex and the City. It looks like a hearty breakfast you have on Sundays instead of lunch, right?

Melanie comes over Ted’s place to talk to him about Lindsay quiting her job and stay home with the baby. It’s lovable that she wants to do that, but it is a great sacrifice. I admire Melanie here for not wanting Brian’s help and for trying to make Lindsay’s dream come true. Despite this being a huge mistake.

Lindsay is helping Brian to make a list of the robbed stuff. By the way I googled the Phillipe Stark juicer and it’s nothing like I imagined. It looks like a very tall spider. I expected some high end electronic appliance. Here’s a video of the juicer: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J__8lbSsB-Q I couldn’t figure out what happens to the orange seeds. It doesn’t look very efficient.

Twelve Armani suits? At US$ 3,000 a pop, Brian lost thousands and thousands of dollars! And he stills blames Justin! Good thing Lindsay is there to defend sweet Justin. This is one of the few times I like Lindsay.

And Justin is a brat! He decides to leave town, but that’s just a trick to get Brian to go after him. I think he had everything figured out when he took Brian’s credit card.

I love Mysterious Marylin!! She’s great! Well, now Brian has to face Daphne and Deb. And there they all go to New York! I love that road trip. Funny moments for our boys. This is the first time Brian follows Justin to New York (I’m sure this won’t be the last time!) Who knew Emmett would be the only one in the group able to change a flat tire? I’m really surprised Brian doesn’t know how to do it. Brian takes the opportunity to confuse Michael with that kiss. Bad Brian!

Finally, Brian finds Justin in a hotel and they have passionate hot sex! How do you go from angry to sex in two minutes? Not only Brian rescued Justin but also found him a place to live (and a job). If Brian wanted to get rid of Justin, this would be the perfect moment. But he didn’t. He placed Justin in a place he could keep an eye on him and could see him often. Michael is not very excited about it. Can't Michael understand that he needs to move on from Brian?

Michael goes to David to tell him the bad news, i.e. that he’s not moving in. The whole episode Michael was encouraged by David, Emmett, Deb, David’s old couple friends, and still couldn’t make up his mind. Just a night with a Brian on the road, and he decides he’s not ready.

Take a look at David’s car plate (CHE-1200). That’s gonna be the plate of Brian’s Corvette in Season 3. Don’t know why they used the same car plate.

I really felt sorry for David when Michael turned him down. He really loves Michael and really wanted to make him happy. However, I think he made the right decision in breaking up their relationship. It’s clear that Michael is not ready. He’ll need a push.





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Eoliver, knowing how busy you are currently, I really appreciate you keeping the marathon alive

And there goes Lindsay to make the biggest mistake of her life: ask Mel to support her, so she can take care of Gus full time . Bad, bad idea. Huge mistake.

Absolutely! And for the life of me I can't understand why Melanie never learns... most of Lindsay's ideas have gotten them into trouble. And the worst is yet to come!

Brian’s fridge is totally empty (pretty much like my fridge here at home, all I have is water! ).

Same here, plus juice and beer, lol.

Clofa, I’m sorry, but Brian’s comment in this scene makes me like him less. I thought he was different from most men, especially straight men. But here he sounds like any other man.

I love it! I actually do something similar with other women and the worst part is that most of them take it as a compliment (causing me to fume and start debating)! I'm glad that Daphne's reply was perfect and I love Brian's reaction to it. In fact, the way he says it (addressing her instead of Justin, kissing her instead of Justin and complimenting her on juice-pouring skills!) then later his reaction to it makes me think he's sarcastically joking about those heteronormative ideas that are ingrained in girls heads (wedding gowns, kitchen sets, dolls, etc). Once she gave him that amazing reply, he didn't ask her why, he just approved right away.

I couldn’t figure out what happens to the orange seeds. It doesn’t look very efficient.

Why would Brian need an efficient juicer? It's elegant and great to look at

I love that road trip. Funny moments for our boys.

Me too! Now whenever I see that episode, I get all excited and start singing along with Ted and Emmett: "Road trip, road trip, road trip"

Who knew Emmett would be the only one in the group able to change a flat tire? I’m really surprised Brian doesn’t know how to do it.

I am surprised about Emmett as well but not surprised about Brian at all. I expected Ted to be the only one who'd know how to change a tire. But then again, I love how Emmett always shatters the preconceptions about flamboyant gay men. He's also the one who holds Brian back when Justin's father attacks him.

Brian takes the opportunity to confuse Michael with that kiss. Bad Brian!

Yes, this is the still-immature Brian, afraid of losing his best friend.

Michael goes to David to tell him the bad news, i.e. that he’s not moving in. The whole episode Michael was encouraged by David, Emmett, Deb, David’s old couple friends, and still couldn’t make up his mind. Just a night with a Brian on the road, and he decides he’s not ready.

The way I see it, Michael has made the right decision in spite of the pressure around him, instead of "he changed his mind because of Brian." He didn't really need much convincing to refuse in the first place. He'd been thinking about it for a week without telling anyone and he still couldn't say "yes." One small nudge toward saying "no" would have been enough for Michael to refuse and rightly so, IMO. The people in the wrong here are David who's obsessed with bending reality to suit his fantasies and Michael's friends and family who are obsessed with David's title.

I really felt sorry for David when Michael turned him down. He really loves Michael and really wanted to make him happy. However, I think he made the right decision in breaking up their relationship. It’s clear that Michael is not ready. He’ll need a push.

Actually I felt sorry for Michael. I don't know if it's because I know David and what's gonna happen next, but I really hate David's complete inflexibility here; he knows that Michael wants to be with him. Why does he have to give him an ultimatum: force him to move in or break up, just because he couldn't fulfill his fantasy right away?

I also have a question. It's something I've always wondered about how it works out in the US family life. I wonder why Michael had to move away from his mother's house in the first place and rent a flat with someone. He could have shared that rent with his own mother instead and helped her out (since it looks that they don't live too far away from each other). But it seems that it's not acceptable to live with your parents? It's quite the opposite here: I'm considered an exception for living on my own. People here usually live with their parents until they're married, and some even after that. I don't quite understand the process. Do all kids have to leave their parents' house when they turn 18? And would they still be able to come back? Would it still be considered their home?
















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Eoliver, knowing how busy you are currently, I really appreciate you keeping the marathon alive.

Thank you, clofa!!! I'm doing the best I can. The marathon keeps me sane! Thank you for taking the time to share your insights!

Same here, plus juice and beer, lol.

Well, I don't drink beer. But I have some fruit and some broccoli (I love it)!

I'm glad that Daphne's reply was perfect and I love Brian's reaction to it. In fact, the way he says it (addressing her instead of Justin, kissing her instead of Justin and complimenting her on juice-pouring skills!) then later his reaction to it makes me think he's sarcastically joking about those heteronormative ideas that are ingrained in girls heads (wedding gowns, kitchen sets, dolls, etc).

I don' know! Not sure yet.

Why would Brian need an efficient juicer? It's elegant and great to look at.

I think it was just a decoration piece.I can't Picture Brian using this appliance. The guava juice he drank came from a bottle, so I guess all his juice comes from bottles and boxes.

The people in the wrong here are David who's obsessed with bending reality to suit his fantasies and Michael's friends and family who are obsessed with David's title.

Maybe. But I think what everybody is afraid of is that Michael loses this oppoutunity because of his obsession with Brian. I really think he should accept David's offer. Even if the relationship doesn't work (as we know it won't), he has to try. He needs to get rid of his Brian fantasy.


I don't know if it's because I know David and what's gonna happen next, but I really hate David's complete inflexibility here; he knows that Michael wants to be with him. Why does he have to give him an ultimatum: force him to move in or break up, just because he couldn't fulfill his fantasy right away?

Some people feel they're ready for a relationship and are not willing to invest in a relationship that has no future. David is protecting himself from serious heartbreak in the future. I would have done the same thing.

I also have a question. It's something I've always wondered about how it works out in the US family life. I wonder why Michael had to move away from his mother's house in the first place and rent a flat with someone. He could have shared that rent with his own mother instead and helped her out (since it looks that they don't live too far away from each other). But it seems that it's not acceptable to live with your parents?

As far as I know, in the American culture the ideal situation is that children leave their parents' house when they finish high school and go to college. So, living with your parents is sort of a turn off. However I rad a book called "The boomerang generation" that says that because of economic crisis, many youth have returned to their parents' house due to unemployment. But I think this is a worldwide phenomena. But you do have a point, clofa. Things would be less hard if Michael lived with Deb. I guess that it's not na option for him.

By the way, my new avatar shows a Golden Gardenia!


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I don' know! Not sure yet.

It's OK, I'm just Brianwashed

Some people feel they're ready for a relationship and are not willing to invest in a relationship that has no future. David is protecting himself from serious heartbreak in the future. I would have done the same thing.

I think it all depends on our perspectives. To me, a relationship doesn't need investment or preplanning. You spend time with a person because you want to, be they a lover, a friend, a family member, etc. In my opinion, David wouldn't have needed to protect himself from disappointment and heartbreak had he been living in the moment and enjoying his relationship with Michael now instead of projecting fantasies and trying to copy other people (the older gay couple and Mel & Lindsay) because he thinks they're perfect. I love the saying: "Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans." If I were in Michael's shoes, I'd say no just because David is insisting so much. I'd worry why the person is being so pushy about it and couldn't let things evolve on their own, regardless of the outcome.

However I rad a book called "The boomerang generation" that says that because of economic crisis, many youth have returned to their parents' house due to unemployment. But I think this is a worldwide phenomena.

Thanks eoliver. I've read a bit here and there about people moving back into their parents' home due to the economic crisis but didn't know that there was a book about it and that it's on such a big scope.

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David wouldn't have needed to protect himself from disappointment and heartbreak had he been living in the moment and enjoying his relationship with Michael now instead of projecting fantasies and trying to copy other people (the older gay couple and Mel & Lindsay) because he thinks they're perfect.

Agree, that would be the ideal, but it is unrealistic for most people just to live in the moment. 99% of people expect some kind of commitment. In David's case, he still thinks it's possible. People tend to think that their friend's relationship is perfect, tending to ignore what is really underneath the perfection veneer. Most people will never learn, because our culture is shaped that way, people tend to loook for partnership according to a certain monogamous cultural model.


I love the saying: "Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans." If I were in Michael's shoes, I'd say no just because David is insisting so much. I'd worry why the person is being so pushy about it and couldn't let things evolve on their own, regardless of the outcome.

There is a huge difference in Michael's and David's backgrounds. David is older, has been married, is already in a successful place in his career and life. Michael is younger, still struggling to have a career, and still in love with his teenage friend. They are in very different places in life. For this relationship to work, one or both of them will have to compromise. Compromising not always means sacrificing. I think the worst problem here is that Michael is in love with Brian and not really to let Brian go. Even when the relationship doesn't work, we all learn something. Actually most relationships work for a while, run its course. If anything, for Michael, a relationship with David could mean getting rid of his love feeling for Brian. It could be liberating.

Thanks eoliver. I've read a bit here and there about people moving back into their parents' home due to the economic crisis but didn't know that there was a book about it and that it's on such a big scope.

Yes, clofa there is vast literature of studies about life transition and youth. What they call the boomerang generation in the US, in Eurupe they call "yoyo" generation. The concept behind the yoo generation is that kids leave home and come back over and over again. They live when they can support themselves, come back when they are unemployed; leave again when they are in a relationship, come back again when they break up; they get a job and a place to live, they move out. So, this is something we observe all over Europe, where young people finish education and can't find a job. In the American culture coming back home means you failed somehow. There's no way coming back home means you are in a successful life trajectory, according to Americn culture. Not so much in Europe, the culture is not so much centered in winner/loser outcomes. In Brazil most people live with their parents until they get married. Many young people don't want to leave the comfort of thei parent's homes, where they have everything and don't have to pay bills. But recently, many young people are trying to live alone and look after themselves. That rarely happens with poor young people, they have to stay home and help to support their parents' household. In upper classes, parents can buy and give na apartment to each children so they can start out.

There are numerous studies about young people's life trajectories, considering gender, race, class, etc.



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Thank you, fairpenguin, it's very interesting to know how Australian young people are doing. This yoyo movement has been a worldwide phenomena because of changes in employent and economy everywhere. I read a very interesting article a few years ago about some of the social changes the yoyo generation is producing. For example, a young gay man leaves home to live with his boyfriend and when they are both unemployed, he comes back home and brings his boyfriend along. So, parents learn how to accept their son's sexual orientation from this experience of living with the young couple. Young people bring new experiences and lifestyles when they come back home, sometimes they can educate their own parents, or know them in a diferente context. I myself recently had this experience, I lived with my parents for three months after my divorce. It was totally different from the time I was a teenager. They are older now and the experience enriched me a lot.

I guess the winner/loser thing is typically American. We don't have that concept in Brazil.

P.S How did you like my "golden gardenia" avatar, fairpenguin??




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Once again, thank you for a great and detailed review eoliver-4,


I have a very different view of David trying to move Michael into his home. It appears pushy and rushed. It's as if David is hell bent on making Michael his partner way too early, and without any real regard for Michael's needs or opinions. To my mind, if someone insisted on you living with them after such a short time, alarm bells should go off in your head.

Totally agree about Lindsay suggesting Brian support her. "What a nerve of this woman!", indeed. Also agree that Mel is justifiably angry. Just wish she would recognize Lindsay's role in the Brian situation.

Also love the scene where Justin shows Daphne Brian's loft. But don't personally care for lofts at all. They're just way too "cool" for me, and too open.

Not an expert on this but here it is: Apartments are sections of a house or building that you rent rather than own. Condo is short for condominium, and is an apartment that you own. Condo owners own the apartment they live in and have the freedom to do as they please with it. But they are still subject to any actions which affect things commonly held by all condo owners of the building such as heating or the grounds. Lofts are apartments created by taking old abandoned commercial buildings and factories, and turning them into huge apartments with one large wide open space. Despite being in old, run down parts of town, they are fashionable and very costly. All this would explain Brian's living in one, as well as why his neighborhood is so bad.

Understand why someone would be upset with Brian's "wife" comment to Daphne. But just figured Brian was trying to annoy her on purpose.

Realize Brian's beautiful, but think it should have taken more than a kiss on the cheek to win Daphne over.

Jennifer's attitude at the party didn't sit well with me either. It's like she goes from fully supporting Justin to almost washing her hands of him.

About Melanie making this sacrifice for Lindsay. Waver between feeling sorry for Mel, and being angry at her for being such a fool to allow her lover to force this on her.

The juicer is so like Brian, it's all about labels. At least the suits function properly.

Her scene with Brian is one of the rare times I like Lindsay as well. And the only time she is not downright despicable in this episode.

Also think Justin planned the credit card theft to lure Brian. It worked, but it was a risky foolhardy move.

Also love Mysterious Marylin, though I can't explain why.

For some reason, it wasn't a surprize that Emmett knew how to change a tire.

Believe a little more than "Bad Brian" is called for. He is deliberatly manipulating Michael away from his boyfriend, just so he can have his friend all to himself. Think people sometimes defend Brian here because David really was being too possessive. But in all likelihood, Brian would have done the same no matter who Michael was with, or what the circumstances were.

Think by now Brian has grown fond of Justin and gotten used to having him around. That or he just really wants the boy to pay off that expensive New York hotel suit.

Why DID they use the same car plate? Did they forget they'd already used it? With this show's poor continuity, that's a real possibility. Hope they didn't just think nobody would notice (though in my case, they were right), that would be insulting to the audience.

Think Michael made the right decision about not moving in with David. It's too bad he only decided this after his night with Brian, but he was clearly not excited about the idea from the beginning.

Didn't feel sorry for David. Also didn't think he was right to break up with Michael. He's willing to fight Brian for Michael but only within a certain fairly short time limit? And expecting anyone to move in after such a short time, not to mention making it a condition of continuing the relationship, shows David has neither patience nor flexibility.

Like your "He'll need a push" statement. A preview of things to come.

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Thank you, dergil!

I have a very different view of David trying to move Michael into his home. It appears pushy and rushed. [...] To my mind, if someone insisted on you living with them after such a short time, alarm bells should go off in your head.

I agree that the time is short. I remember that in Episode 118, Michael says he's been with David for 5 months. So, at this point, they must be together no longer than 2 or 3 months. Even though the time is short, I think it's nice of David to be honest, that he is looking for a partner for a long-lasting relationship. So, I think 2 or 3 months is time enough at least to tell your boyfriend that you expect a serious commitment and ask him if he wants the same thing. This is what David did. They didn't have to move in together immediately. At least you have to know where the relationship is going, in case you have expectations. When I was very young, I was not worried where any relationship was going, I just wanted to have fun. But around my 30s, for me it was important to know what was the guy's intentions, so that I wouldn't let myself get deeply involved and have my heart broken. the same way, if I wasn't serious about the guy, I would make that clear, so he didn't get deeply involved with me. If you both don't want the same thing, it's best to part ways, I guess.

About apartments, lofts and condos, thank you for your explanation, dergil. It's in accordance with Katrina's explanation on her post.

About Melanie making this sacrifice for Lindsay. Waver between feeling sorry for Mel, and being angry at her for being such a fool to allow her lover to force this on her.

Yes. She should have said no to Lindsay. Maybe she was afraid that if she had said no, Lindsay would ask for Brian's financial assistance. That would have been worse.

Also love Mysterious Marylin, though I can't explain why.

I think Mysterious Marilyn is the only transexual woman with lines in the show. The show is all about gay people, they don't have transexuals in their friend groups, which is sad, but meaningful.

Think people sometimes defend Brian here because David really was being too possessive. But in all likelihood, Brian would have done the same no matter who Michael was with, or what the circumstances were.

Agree.

Think by now Brian has grown fond of Justin and gotten used to having him around. That or he just really wants the boy to pay off that expensive New York hotel suit.

I think Brian feels a little responsible for Justin, despite having kicked him out. Making him pay for his expenses creates a bond between them. He found Justin a place to live and a job, so he could keep na eye on him. Home and job close to him.

Why DID they use the same car plate? Did they forget they'd already used it? With this show's poor continuity, that's a real possibility. Hope they didn't just think nobody would notice (though in my case, they were right), that would be insulting to the audience.

Not sure if the audience noticed. I just noticed because there was a Japanese girl on Youtube a few years ago, whose screen name was the Convette's car plate. She used to post a lot of QAF clips. Because of her screen name, I recognized it as soon as I saw David's car plate.

Didn't feel sorry for David. Also didn't think he was right to break up with Michael. He's willing to fight Brian for Michael but only within a certain fairly short time limit? And expecting anyone to move in after such a short time, not to mention making it a condition of continuing the relationship, shows David has neither patience nor flexibility.

He is in a different place than Michael. He might have had previous heartbreak experience that justifies his decision.



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Great review! I'll have lots to say later when I can re-read everything, but for now, a few thoughts:

(Can someone explain to me the difference between apartment, loft and condo? In Brazil we have only apartment, kitnet (which is a very small studio apartment) and penthouse (luxury big apartment). I really want to understand why they refer to Ted’s place as condo, to Brian’s place as loft and to Michael and Emmett’s place as apartment. I have a feeling lofts have no dividing walls, is that it?)

It's not quite that black and white, but I'll try to explain. Brian's home is referred to as a "loft" because it's a former industrial building that was converted into residences. Lofts usually have very open floorplans, and sometimes only one room. Brian's loft is basically one large room, except the bedroom is raised and partitioned off, and the bathroom is a separate room off the bedroom. Brian owns his loft; he's not renting it. I love Brian's loft... it's so 'him'! But personally, I loved Mel and Lindsay's house the best.

Apartments are rented, not owned. They can be in large buildings that have lots of apartments, or as part of a house, etc.

Condos are basically nice apartments or small homes, usually connected to eath other, that a person owns, not rents.

While Justin acts as a tour guide for Daphne, we have a nice peek of Brian’s butt. I know Gale has a beautiful body, but I think he is too skinny, at least for my taste. I think Emmett is the one with the most beautiful body in the group.


I can't help it, I love Gale's long, lanky body and cute, tiny little butt! But I also think Emmett is gorgeous.

Brunch time for everybody! We don’t have brunch in Brazil, and it’s not easy to understand what brunch is. I got that better by watching Sex and the City. It looks like a hearty breakfast you have on Sundays instead of lunch, right?


Brunch is the most awesome meal ever invented! It's a combination of breakfast and lunch, eaten mid-late morning, and into the early afternoon. I love brunch because there can be mimosas involved (champagne and orange juice)!

Actually I felt sorry for Michael. I don't know if it's because I know David and what's gonna happen next, but I really hate David's complete inflexibility here; he knows that Michael wants to be with him. Why does he have to give him an ultimatum: force him to move in or break up, just because he couldn't fulfill his fantasy right away?


I think it all depends on our perspectives. To me, a relationship doesn't need investment or preplanning. You spend time with a person because you want to, be they a lover, a friend, a family member, etc. In my opinion, David wouldn't have needed to protect himself from disappointment and heartbreak had he been living in the moment and enjoying his relationship with Michael now instead of projecting fantasies and trying to copy other people (the older gay couple and Mel & Lindsay) because he thinks they're perfect. I love the saying: "Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans." If I were in Michael's shoes, I'd say no just because David is insisting so much. I'd worry why the person is being so pushy about it and couldn't let things evolve on their own, regardless of the outcome.


I felt sorry for Michael, as well. At this point, David and Michael were in different places in their lives. David wanted a 'life partner', and wanted one yesterday. I don't doubt he loved Michael (in his own way), but I think he was more concerned with settling down and growing old with someone, and had a vision of what his life 'should' be. This is why he rushed Mikey, gave him an ultimatum, and chose to end the relationship when Michael turned him down, instead of giving him more time. To me, he reeked of desperation.

That's not to say Michael wasn't partially at fault. At this point, Brian was still his main consideration in life. He wasn't really ready to settle down with anyone, cared too much what his family & friends thought, and was really still carrying a torch for Brian, and what 'might have been'. He needed to seriously grow up before he could even think about having a mature, permanent relationship.

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Thank you very much, Katrina! Your explanations about apartments, lofts and condos were very clear. I've always thought it had to do the format/size/configuration of the dwelling unit. Here in Brazil we don't have that difference. You always have to say if you rent or own the pace. I love Brian's place too, but the apartment I live in (which I own) is more like Ted's condo!

From your explanation I infer that there are condo buildings (where every dweller owns one unit and lives there) and there are apartment buildings where everybody rents. Is that so?

Here in Brazil there is only one kind of building. Each building has a number of apartments. Every apartment has a different owner. The owner can either live in the apartment or rent it out. It's not common that someone owns more than one apartment in the same building (I think that's common in the US). In the building I live in about half of the apartments are occupied by their owners (like me) and half are occupied by tennants. We have no landlord/landlady. Each owner is responsible for his/her apartment (it doesn't matter if he/she lives there of rents it out). The ownner can sell the apartment whenever he/sh wants.

I wish we had brunches here! Mimosas? It sounds delicious, refreshing and relaxing.

BTW, Katrina: I've just changed my screen name from e-oliver-4 to Golden_Gardenia. Same person, different screen name.


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..................Thoughts on qaf ep 110.....pt1 of 2.............


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To say David is putting great pressure on Michael to move in with him would be a gross understatment. It's a full on campaign, with David presenting Michael with an example of a committed gay couple, recounting fantasies about how good it will be, and a near constant attempt to get an answer right then and there. When Michael isn't being badgerd by David, he's getting the hard sell from Emmett and Deb. But even against this pro-David onslaught, Michael is hesitant. It's significant that Brian doesn't venture an opinion, as the show suggests that Michael is waiting to see what his friend thinks. But after putting David off for for more than a week, Michael almost certainly makes up his mind after a short interlude with Brian during a trip to New York.

In one of the season's most famous Brian and Michael scenes, the pair share a joint on a chilly night along a highway offramp. Love the sparseness of the background, with nothing but lonely highway and the darkness of night. Doesn't seem likely that the road would be this deserted, but it works better for the moment. Appreciate that you hear nothing in the background except the faint sound of Emmett changing the tire. And because this program, which makes such good use of music also knows when not to use it, a very quiet intimate mood is created between Brian and Michael. As the friends talk against the black background of the night, Brian is unusually appreciative, telling Michael he's glad he's there and that he will always love him. Was pleased and surprized that Brian also admitted he was often "a s!*t" to Michael, and acknoweldged that Michael has been there for him more than the other way around. Also unexpected is Brian's resignation at no more "just you and me" time, now that Michael has "the Doc". And in yet another surprize, Brian is uncritical of David, even going so far as to almost praise Michael's love interest. It's worth noting that while Brian appears complimentary about Michael and David's relationship, Michael himself seems ambivalent.

Things quickly take a turn when Brian tells Michael he could never have made it without him, following this up with a short but passionate kiss that's anything bit appropriate for a best friend. Michael respondes immediately, practically pushing his face into Brian's in an effort to furthur deepen the kiss, and later standing with eyes closed in an apparent attempt to hold onto the moment. Always found this a very sexy scene between these two. Makes no difference as to Brian's motives, it's still an incredibly hot kiss. In the end, it's clear that had Michael ever stopped hoping for or wanting a romatic relationship with Brian, he was now back to lusting after his best friend again.

Quite often this show redefined lack of subtlty, hitting the viewer over the head with it's message. Other times the writers were far less clear, leaving it to the fans to decide the meaning behind a character's words and actions. Such is the case here, with widely differing opinions ranging from fans of a Brian/Michael romance seeing this as proof of Brian's love for his best friend, to those that think a calculating Brian was manipulating and lying to Michael from start to finish. Personally believe Brian was manipulating Michael, but am not sure about the extent. It could be that everything Brian said here was to purposely deceive and persuade Michael. Withholding criticsm of David is disarming, as to do otherwise would incite Michael to defend his boyfriend. And feigning nonchalance about no more time with just the two of them would remind Michael what he'd be missing while offering no argument for Michael to refute. Mixing in certain and probable truths such as his frequent poor trearment of Michael and the admission that Brian couldn't have made it without Michael, lead to the deception being even more effective. Because the success of the tactic of mixing truth with lies to make disinformation or manipulation more believable is well documented. But perhaps Brian isn't quite this clever, or at least quite this devious. Could be that Brian meant most or all of what he said, but in the end, he just couldn't help himself. So when the opportunity to reel Michael in presented it's self, Brian eagerly took it, kissing his friend in such a way as to renew or refresh Michael's hopes for the two of them.

Back in Pittsburgh Michael tells David no, giving the excuse that he's not ready. But it's clear to us and to David that the real reason is Michael's continued obsession with Brian. But can't help but think a point is missed. Because the truth is, it really is to early in their relationship for cohabitation. And even if this were not the case, if one of them is not ready, it's wrong to force the issue. Michael's excuse is a valid one, even if it's not the real reason he's reluctant.

Find the closing dialog between David and Michael confounding in a lot of ways. When David breaks up with Michael due to his refusal to move in, the show seems to be saying this is a missed opportunity for Michael. Michael fights back tears at the breakup. And David is shown looking sad and forelorn while imagining how wonderful things might have been. But none of this makes sense to me. Michael's regret at the demise of this romance seems strange, considering that prior to this he appeared less interested in this relationship than most of his friends and family. Also don't understand why the show wants us to feel sorry for David. The man knows Michael a month or two at most, pressures him to move in, and dumps him when he doesn't. Such behavior suggests to this viewer that Michael may have dodged a potentially unhealthy relationship, rather than blew a chance at a great romance.







Melanie's problems continue as Lindsay now decides she wants to stay home with the baby full time for a year. This, dispite earlier plans and the conclusion that the pair can't afford to live on one paycheck. Not surprisingly, Linds has the answer, her own personal fantasy husband/human cash machine called Brian. When this brings forth outrage from Mel, Lindsay is unmoved. Instead she has the gall to say they wouldn't have Gus without Brian. While this is true, it's also true that the pair could have had a different child with a less troublesome, perhaps even anonymous father. But Lindsay seems to be suggesting that the man she not so secretly adores is the only male she was physically able to conceive with. So, having forced Brian's paternity on Melanie, being party to the failed attempt to get Gus adopted, and taking Brian's side over Mel countless times, Lindsay's now willing to degrade her lover further by having Brian support them full time. Lindsay's lack of regard for her partner's feelings is beyond loathsome.

But despite the humiliation of it all, it was still a bit surprizing that Melanie refused the idea of Brian bankrolling them yet again. She was seemingly fine with the the two thousand Brian ponied up in an earlier episode. And Mel was quite willing to take a payoff in the form of a life insurance policy after the scene Brian made at the bris. But suppose everyone has their breaking point, and Mel has come to hers. But no extra help from Brian doesn't deter Linds. And when Melanie tells Lindsay that she'll find another way, she accepts this as a given. Because as far as Lindsay is concerned, the announcement that she fell "in love like this" should be enough to make more money magically fall from the sky.

The insistence that these women can't get by on Melanie's salary alone is a constant source of exasperation for this viewer. Realize not all lawyers are "comfortable", but qaf makes it sound like the payscale is comparable to that of a convienence store clerk. Dissapointed but not surprized that Mel didn't let Linds know how much of a sacrifice she made for her. Also not surprised that Lindsay let it go at that, as the costs of her desires seem of little concern to her as long as things go her way.

This tale ends on a solemn note, with Mel alone in bed while Linds goes off to see to Gus. So once again Lindsay has manipulated Melanie into getting exactly what she wants. And Melanie has given up a great deal for a lover who's affections aren't fully focused on her, and a child she has no legal claims to.


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..............Thoughts on ep110..... pt2 of 2........


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Admire Justin's resilience if not his lack of practicality when he finds himself homeless. Being tossed out of one home right after discovering your family's moved on without you, would throw many for a loop.

Was sorry for Justin's sake, but liked the way the birthday scene was written. Everyting is mildly stilted, awkward, and overly polite. And it's clear that Justin's presence here is seen as unnecsessary and even slighly intrusive. Even worse is his father's refusal to see him. Molly's less than thrilled reaction to Justin's gift was spot on. It was a lovely drawing, but few children would be impressed, particularly the kid sister of the artist. Jennifer is the only false note. In light of her earlier support for Justin, it's hard to believe she could be so quick to let him go. The closing shot where a displaced Justin walks up the stairs while his family goes on with the party, showcases his alienation , and is more than a little sad.

Justin leaves this dissapointing experience only to come back to a worse one, as he's chewed out then thrown out by Brian. But Justin, who has an uncanny ability to bounce back, has a plan. Not missing a beat, he runs off to New York with Brian's credit card. Think it's good that the boy took some action rather than just sit around and whine, but just can't get behind felony theft.

The hotel room scene is a favorite of many Brian and Justin fans, or maybe just Brian and Justin having sex fans, though to me they appear to be one and the same. The scene opens on a white, on white, on white hotel room and the mildly comical sight of Justin sprawled out in a giant white robe, stuffing his face and watching a loud horror movie. Love how clear it is that he's kept the room service wait staff very busy while racking up expences. A knock at the door is Brian, leaning on the doorframe in his white shirt and black tank top, and still looking amazing despite one days beard and uncombed hair. When Brian barges in, adding more white to the room, it's significant that Justin is unphased and unsurprized. Found the dialogue between them to be nothing special. But the head shots of a haggard but still handsome Brian are a little more interesting. Probably the best part of this exchange was Brian looking over the hotel room, almost certainly assessing how much this will cost him.

Having trouble with the idea of Justin successfully "seducing " Brian with the line "You look like #!*t" and disrobing (literally), to present a most unimpressive physic. Yes, Justin has an exceptional a**, but all that's on display here is an underdeveloped chest looking more doughy than usual. Even his near iconic "world's most perfect hair", is lifeless and dull. But though it's a mystery as to why, this seems to be enough for Brian. When they do get down to business, it's actually fairly romantic in the beginning, with lots of body kissing and tongue play from both parties. As things heat up, we get some exceptionally close shots of the action. Soon the earlier romanticsm has become more base and primal, with Brian seemingly trying to suck off Justin's face. The lovemaking is disjointed, frantic, occasionally clumsy and often appears uncomfortable. Which is far more realism than we usually get with a B/J sex scene. And though it still retains a strong music video quality, the scene is less sleek than usual. This, along with a good view of the action should make this a favorite of mine. Unfortunately I'm just not feeling it between these two. Don't know why, but the usual sexual connection between Brian and Justin doesn't seem to be there. So even though they're really going at it, it's still as if they're just going through the motions. So what should be one intense, ultra hot love scene just..........isn't.

In the end Justin lands on his feet and into Michael's old bedroom. But it's debatable how much of this is due to luck, and how much is a result of Justin's own devises, though it looks to be a mixture of the two. Justin admits he stole Brian's credit card in hopes that the man would come for him, which he did. But it was a close call. Justin most likely thought Brian would come of his own volition. Yet Brian appeared ready to cut Justin loose. It's actually Justin's efforts to ingratiate himself with Brian's friends that saves him in an unexpected way, as everyone in Brian's inner circle demands that he go get Justin. So Justin did have luck on his side. But it was luck born of thorough if inadvertent preparation.





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Like the scene with David and Michael walking in the rain and the way the camera rests on the raindrops atop David's car. Few programs make use of rainy weather. Fewer still actually utilize the rain.


Not a big David fan, but thought it was sweet when he suggested to Michael that others may have put him in their fantasy.



The best part of the Justin plot is his interaction with Daphne as he shows off his new home at the loft and the later talk of New York at the diner. Love the ease of their back and forth and the fun they have together. This friendship doesn't appear anywhere near as close as Brian and Michael's. But Justin and Daphne still seem to be there for each otherr to a certain extent and enjoy each others company, which apparently is enough for them. Favorite Daphne bit is her offering to go "shake it up too", with Justin in New York, but then deciding against it because she had to be home by eleven.


Love the split screen where Michael is talking to Brian on the phone from his apartment, leaves to come over, and appears again in the next screen in Brian's doorway.


Watching the mini montage of Brian's latest tricks was fun. But why did he tell the police no strangers had been in his place?



The brunch scene features three very different meals, all of them serving to move the main storylines along. Very much enjoyed the breezy pace of this outing, with barely discernable background music sounding like something from a sixties movie, set in Europe. Especially liked the constantly changing mode of segueing from from one scene to another, from sideways, to top to bottom, and even cutoutss. There's even a "fakeout" switch from David and Michael back to David and Michael. Love it when they play with the viewer this way.

My overal favorite brunch was David and Michael's. But this might only be because we get new blood in the form of the old gay couple they are visiting. Even though this was part of David's relentless campaign to move Michael in, it was relaxed and pleasant. Found the old couple cute, though the one on the left was a little much. Far more irritating was Ted and Melanie. It starts out okay. Really like the normalness of Ted's condo and his friendship with Mel. But then, once again, we get talk of Melanie's supposedly paltry paycheck and Mel's desire for Lindsay to be happy. Lindsay has a child with the man of her choice against her partner's strenuous wishes. Lindsay is happy enough. Brunch number three features a beautiful as usual Brian and a less irksome than usual Lindsay. Though the dialog between these two comes off as overly clever, it wasn't quite fast-forward inducing. Not surprized that Brian's penchant for labels extends to household items. Also not surprized at how good he looks in a robe, which, for me, was the best single thing about the whole brunch theme.



Enjoyed the sight of all four of "the boys" drinking bloody marys together even if the whole thing seemed improbable. This may have been a strange attempt to keep the brunch theme going. Bloody Marys being the closest thing to an alcoholic breakfast drink in existence.


It's rather hard to describe Mysterious Marilyn except to say she is completely awesome. A psychic, even a psychic drag queen, seems an odd fit here, yet it works. And the actor and the writers take this minor character with very little screentime and make her memorable. Maryiyn's statement "God writes the scripts sweety. I just say the lines.", manages to be both humble and show flair at the same time.


Vehemently dissagree with Daphne and Deb's assertion that it's Brian's fault Justin ran off to New York. Just because Brian's actions led to Justin living with him doesn't mean that Brian is to blame for every poor choice the boy makes from here on out.


While singing in the car with Ted and Emmett, Michael can clearly carry a tune. But like the ability to hold silverware, he will lose this talent in a significant scene later in the series.


In a bit of continuity in a show not known for it, Justin still has a nipple ring. And in a bit of subtlety in a show also not known for it, said ring is still there but is not over emphasized, it's just there.


Like the look Justin gives Debbie after she tells him one of her house rules. His face shows all kinds of confusion and incredulity. Justin also appears attractive again here. Gone is the strange bloating at the hotel room, and the "world's most perfect hair" is back.



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Do agree about Justin successfully "seducing" Brian for awhile. And don't think he needs Justin to look his best for this to happen. But the scene seems to suggest that a pissed Brian was in no mood for such activity until he was practically bewitched by the sight of a naked Justin. Just can't see Justin's nude body as all that captivating, especially here. And Brian may have rarely said "no" to a naked man, but all of these naked men were well built, with most very muscular, often to excess. And pretty much everyone agrees that Justin is not Brian's usual type. So, to be redundant, I don't dissagree that Brian and Justin would be sexing it up in the hotel room. Just don't think it would happen as a result of Justin parading his body at Brian.


Don't think Justin looks plain, never said that. Do think he is attractive, though not as attractive as a lot of others find him. But regardless of how beautiful you find someone, there are times they look better or worse than others. And Justin is far from looking his best in that hotel room.


I wish the hotel sex scene worked for me. It has none of the "problems" of earlier and in my opinion, superior scenes. You get a good long close-up dose of the action, things are not cut off too soon as in 101, and you don't have 107's obstucted or distant views with which to contend. It should be every thing a fan of good qaf sex scenes has been waiting for. But for me, it's not. Can't explain why things don't feel right here, only that they don't. And things feel so "not right", this scene does very little for me. All I can say is as said before. Brian and Justin just don't seem connected. Perhaps the actors had an off day and weren't into the scene for whatever reason. Or maybe something else caused the problem. But for whatever reason, Brian and Justin, or the actors who play them, didn't sell me on this couple even in the arena of sex on this occasion.

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Admire Justin's resilience if not his lack of practicality when he finds himself homeless. Being tossed out of one home right after discovering your family's moved on without you, would throw many for a loop.

Yes. I wish life gave Justin a break. It's too much for a 17 year old boy.


And it's clear that Justin's presence here is seen as unnecsessary and even slighly intrusive. Even worse is his father's refusal to see him.

Not so sure. Jennifer never told Craig that Justin was there and never asked him if he wanted to see Justin. She could have tried. She was willing to talk to her husband only if Justin had decided to move back home (and become the boy his father wanted).

Jennifer is the only false note. In light of her earlier support for Justin, it's hard to believe she could be so quick to let him go. The closing shot where a displaced Justin walks up the stairs while his family goes on with the party, showcases his alienation , and is more than a little sad.

Hated Jennifer in this episode. If I had a son, I would be by his side no matter what. Despite having a horrible marriage, she still thinks she has to "think about the Family". BS!!!

The scene opens on a white, on white, on white hotel room and the mildly comical sight of Justin sprawled out in a giant white robe, stuffing his face and watching a loud horror movie.

Funny that despite all the problems Justin is facing, he looks to be having a good fun time in the hotel. I can't understand how a minor with a stollen credit card can so easily take a plane and check in a luxury hotel. In Brazil no one under 18 can travel alone, unless they have written authorization from a Family judge.

When Brian barges in, adding more white to the room, it's significant that Justin is unphased and unsurprized. Found the dialogue between them to be nothing special. But the head shots of a haggard but still handsome Brian are a little more interesting. Probably the best part of this exchange was Brian looking over the hotel room, almost certainly assessing how much this will cost him.[b]

I love Brian's look of disaproval and unbelief!

[b]Unfortunately I'm just not feeling it between these two. Don't know why, but the usual sexual connection between Brian and Justin doesn't seem to be there. So even though they're really going at it, it's still as if they're just going through the motions. So what should be one intense, ultra hot love scene just..........isn't.


Not my favorite B/J sex scene either. But it's hot. [blast]

Yet Brian appeared ready to cut Justin loose. It's actually Justin's efforts to ingratiate himself with Brian's friends that saves him in an unexpected way, as everyone in Brian's inner circle demands that he go get Justin. So Justin did have luck on his side. But it was luck born of thorough if inadvertent preparation.

I have a feeling it was Deb's idea to offer Justin Michael's old bedroom. She even called Jennifer to know her thoughts about it. Jennifer was clearly relieved to get rid of the problem. And I think Brian loved the idea because he would be able to keep na eye on Justin. This was the perfect opportunity for Brian getting rid of Justin forever. But he didn't. And he's happy that Justin will be around.

Like the scene with David and Michael walking in the rain and the way the camera rests on the raindrops atop David's car. Few programs make use of rainy weather. Fewer still actually utilize the rain.

That's good direction!

Watching the mini montage of Brian's latest tricks was fun. But why did he tell the police no strangers had been in his place?

That bugged me too. Why would he lie? He doesn't care about what anybody thinks. The only reason I can think is that he thought that if he had told the police about his hundreds of visitors, he could be blamed for what happened. Like raped women are blamed for wearing tight clothes and are blamed for the rape. If Brian had told the police about his tricks, they could have a better chance to find the robbers.

Not surprized that Brian's penchant for labels extends to household items. Also not surprized at how good he looks in a robe, which, for me, was the best single thing about the whole brunch theme.

He looks GORGEOUS!!

Bloody Marys being the closest thing to an alcoholic breakfast drink in existence.[/b

Katrina told me abou "mimosas",which apparently is a mixture of champagne and Orange juice.

[b]It's rather hard to describe Mysterious Marilyn except to say she is completely awesome. A psychic, even a psychic drag queen, seems an odd fit here, yet it works. And the actor and the writers take this minor character with very little screentime and make her memorable.


She sure is fabulous! They will bring her back in Season 2.

Vehemently dissagree with Daphne and Deb's assertion that it's Brian's fault Justin ran off to New York. Just because Brian's actions led to Justin living with him doesn't mean that Brian is to blame for every poor choice the boy makes from here on out.

Agree that it's not Brian's fault that Justin run off, but it is Brian's fault kicking Justin out of his apartment, when he knows he is underage and has no place to go and it was Brian who took Justin in. I tend to think that Brian expected Justin to come back later, when he was less angry and they could have worked things out. I think that if Justin had come back Brian would have let him stay, despite his anger. I was so sorry for Justin. One minute he is showing Daphne his new home; next minute he loses everything and is on the street.

In a bit of continuity in a show not known for it, Justin still has a nipple ring. And in a bit of subtlety in a show also not known for it, said ring is still there but is not over emphasized, it's just there.

I believe his nipple ring will be there at least until Season 2. I remember he mentioning his nipple ring in 211.

Like the look Justin gives Debbie after she tells him one of her house rules. His face shows all kinds of confusion and incredulity. Justin also appears attractive again here. Gone is the strange bloating at the hotel room, and the "world's most perfect hair" is back.

He looks adorable as always! Hahaha! He never expected the rules to be so flexible!



"If Justin wants golden gardenias, he should have golden gardenias!" Brian Kinney

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Justin being thrown out at such an early age was alot to deal with. And yet he handled it better than many.

Assumed that Jennifer told Craige Justin was there. But actually, there is no indication that happened. And if she didn't tell her husband, it makes Jennifer even more cold hearted.

Justin did seemed to be enjoying himself at the hotel, probably due to his extremely optomistic hope/assumption that everything would work out.

Brian looks as good pissed as he does all other times.

Brian may have approved, but agree it was probably Debbie's idea to take Justin in. And this is probably because Justin took the effort to get to know her as well as the rest of Brian's "family".

Loved how often they filmed in the snow and less often the rain. And the scene with David's car is only one of several times they use the weather as part of the scene, not just the background.

Maybe not mentioning the tricks was because of the insurance risks. Insurance companies will use any excuse to avoid paying off a claim. And as the brunch with Lindsay showed, insurance was how Brian expected to be compensated.

It was pretty harsh of Brian to throw an underage boy out in the street. But Justin had options less extreme than what he did, such as going to Deb's or to Mel and Linds' place for a while.

Don't think Justin always looks adorable, but he does look very good at the table with Debbie.

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Justin being thrown out at such an early age was alot to deal with. And yet he handled it better than many.

He sure did. Not many 17-year old boys are that psychologically strong. Although he has no place to live and no Money, no friends, he doesn't seem to care. His little dventure in New York proves that.

Assumed that Jennifer told Craige Justin was there. But actually, there is no indication that happened. And if she didn't tell her husband, it makes Jennifer even more cold hearted.

I think she told Craig after the party. I expected her to leave Justin downstairs, go upstairs and tell Craig Justin was there, if he wanted to see him. She didn't do that. BTW, is there anything more boring than child's birthday parties?

Brian may have approved, but agree it was probably Debbie's idea to take Justin in.

I'm pretty sure about that. I can picture Deb calling Jennifer to talk about Justin while the boys were in NYC.

Maybe not mentioning the tricks was because of the insurance risks. Insurance companies will use any excuse to avoid paying off a claim. And as the brunch with Lindsay showed, insurance was how Brian expected to be compensated.

Good point. Brian would probably be compensated. Otherwise he would expect Justin to pay for everything he lost. He didn't mention any of that.

It was pretty harsh of Brian to throw an underage boy out in the street. But Justin had options less extreme than what he did, such as going to Deb's or to Mel and Linds' place for a while.

Yes, he could. But, instead, he decided to play with Brian's head.



"If Justin wants golden gardenias, he should have golden gardenias!" Brian Kinney

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Jennifer is the only false note. In light of her earlier support for Justin, it's hard to believe she could be so quick to let him go. The closing shot where a displaced Justin walks up the stairs while his family goes on with the party, showcases his alienation , and is more than a little sad.

I agree. One of my favorite scenes in the previous episodes is Jennifer giving Graig a tongue-lashing after he attacked Brian. It seems so unbelievable now that she'd want Justin to obey his father's rules to keep up appearances or to keep her family from falling apart! If it weren't for her strong attitude in the previous episode, it wouldn't have seemed so far-fetched... actually it would seem the likelier reaction (at the time) while she learns what it means that her son is gay and comes to terms with this.

Thank you for another amazing review, dergil. I especially loved your take on the Lindsay/Melanie storyline and absolutely agree.

I tend to agree with fairpenguin about Justin's attracting abilities and Brian being easily attracted though, lol.

Brianwashed!

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Clofa,


It was like Jennifer's whole attitude toward Justin changed.

Thank you for liking the review.

Lindsay's ability to force her ridiculous ideas and plans on Melanie was infuriating.

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When Michael isn't being badgerd by David, he's getting the hard sell from Emmett and Deb.

Emmett and Deb know that Michael's obsession with Brian can ruin his possibilities of having a real relationship with anyone. IMO, the important thing is not to say yes or no to David, but put an end to Michael's pathological connection with Brian. Whether the relationship will work or not is not the point here, from Michael's perspective. Committing to a relationship would mean taking the first step toward independence and growth. The next episodes will show how this relationship will be an important for Michael. Even Brian knows that. And Brian knows he will have to do something so that Michael takes this step.

Love the sparseness of the background, with nothing but lonely highway and the darkness of night. Doesn't seem likely that the road would be this deserted, but it works better for the moment. Appreciate that you hear nothing in the background except the faint sound of Emmett changing the tire.

Agree. It's like for Michael, there's nothing in the horizon, except Brian. His eyes sparkle just before Brian kisses him. By the way, I never French kissed any of my friends. I wonder if this is something they do often. I can remember a few very light kisses before this episode, but no passionate French kiss like this. After that, Brian didn't have to say anything about Michael moving in with the good doctor. No words necessary.

Personally believe Brian was manipulating Michael, but am not sure about the extent. It could be that everything Brian said here was to purposely deceive and persuade Michael. Withholding criticsm of David is disarming, as to do otherwise would incite Michael to defend his boyfriend. And feigning nonchalance about no more time with just the two of them would remind Michael what he'd be missing while offering no argument for Michael to refute.

Agree. I think that Brian fears that the only way he can have Michael in his life is by never making it clear that their relationship will never be more than than friendship. While he never makes that clear, Michael will always be hopeful that they can eventually become a couple.

Mixing in certain and probable truths such as his frequent poor trearment of Michael and the admission that Brian couldn't have made it without Michael, lead to the deception being even more effective. Because the success of the tactic of mixing truth with lies to make disinformation or manipulation more believable is well documented.

Agree. Excellent point.

Back in Pittsburgh Michael tells David no, giving the excuse that he's not ready. But it's clear to us and to David that the real reason is Michael's continued obsession with Brian. But can't help but think a point is missed. Because the truth is, it really is too early in their relationship for cohabitation. And even if this were not the case, if one of them is not ready, it's wrong to force the issue. Michael's excuse is a valid one, even if it's not the real reason he's reluctant.

Agree. But they want different things. It's not OK to force the issue, this is why the best thing is breaking up. Why would David have to compromise considering this dating thing is not what he wants? He's older, "ready" to settle down. Af for being early in the relationship, I agree that 2 or 3 months for me would be early, but I know people who moved in together within one month and the relationship workled out perfectly. One thing that bothers me is that I don't think David is ready for the dream relationship he says he wants, or at least, he's not ready to give Michael what Michael expects(fidelity for instance, as we will find out by the end of Season 1).

Find the closing dialog between David and Michael confounding in a lot of ways. When David breaks up with Michael due to his refusal to move in, the show seems to be saying this is a missed opportunity for Michael.

Agree. That's exactly what I think it was saying.

Michael fights back tears at the breakup. Michael's regret at the demise of this romance seems strange, considering that prior to this he appeared less interested in this relationship than most of his friends and family.

Yes. One would think that Michael should feel relieved, considering that he is not as excited as his Family and friends about the relationship.

Also don't understand why the show wants us to feel sorry for David. The man knows Michael a month or two at most, pressures him to move in, and dumps him when he doesn't. Such behavior suggests to this viewer that Michael may have dodged a potentially unhealthy relationship, rather than blew a chance at a great romance.

Yes, that's definitely a possible angle to see the situation. That final scene with David imagining Michael coming out of the shower is a little creepy. Anyway, I think the diretor manages to leave us with the impression that Michael is throwing away a good relationship opportunity.

Melanie's problems continue as Lindsay now decides she wants to stay home with the baby full time for a year. This, dispite earlier plans and the conclusion that the pair can't afford to live on one paycheck. Not surprisingly, Linds has the answer, her own personal fantasy husband/human cash machine called Brian.

Hate Lindsay!

But Lindsay seems to be suggesting that the man she not so secretly adores is the only male she was physically able to conceive with.

Exactly. In the pilot Michael said he tried to convince Brian not to father Gus (for his own reasons), but Brian let himself convice by Lindsay's arguments: "Oh, Brian, you're so good -looking, you're so smart, you've got such good genes." If you ask me, Lindsay only wanted to create a neverending bond with Brian.

But despite the humiliation of it all, it was still a bit surprizing that Melanie refused the idea of Brian bankrolling them yet again.

I think she was afraid that brian would interfere even more in their lives.

The insistence that these women can't get by on Melanie's salary alone is a constant source of exasperation for this viewer. Realize not all lawyers are "comfortable", but qaf makes it sound like the payscale is comparable to that of a convienence store clerk.

I can't understand that either.

This tale ends on a solemn note, with Mel alone in bed while Linds goes off to see to Gus. So once again Lindsay has manipulated Melanie into getting exactly what she wants. And Melanie has given up a great deal for a lover who's affections aren't fully focused on her, and a child she has no legal claims to.

I admire that Melanie made a sacrifice to make Lindsay happy (despite this is wrong, wrong, wrong!) but she'll constantly throw this selfless gesture in Lindsay's face. This possibility alone should be enough for Lindsay have never asked this sacrifice from Malanie.


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Responce to eoliver-4/Golden Gardenia,


It's true that Michael needs to get over his Brian obsession and that Deb and Emmett both know this. But I got the idea they were just as, or more interested in David because he seems a good catch than simply as a means to separate Michael from his romantic fantasies about his best friend. Moving in with David would do this. But it could also be Michael moving from one uneven relationship to another.


By never making it clear to Michael that they will only be friends, he keeps Michael hopeful. And by not being too overtly sexual toward Michael, he never has to worry about Michael confronting him about it or acting on it, at least not very often.


Good point about even David not really being ready for the relationship he thinks he wants with Michael.


Michael's apathy for David early on was extreme. Yet he's upset at getting dumped by him later. Maybe it's the "dumped" part that bothered him.


"Hate Lindsay!" That's funny. She is at her worst in this episode. Why does Mel follow stupid idea after stupid idea just to please this woman?


Emphatically agree that Lindsay wanted Brian to be her baby's father to create a permanent bond with him. Does Melanie have a blind spot about this, or will she just not admit it?


Don't think even Melanie being the country's poorest lawyer would explain why they need two paychecks. Not to mention the contrast of Debbie's ability to raise a son without any financial help. Maybe in qaf land, waiting tables pays better than law.


We will of course get to see how well Lindsay's idea works out in future episodes.

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It's true that Michael needs to get over his Brian obsession and that Deb and Emmett both know this. But I got the idea they were just as, or more interested in David because he seems a good catch than simply as a means to separate Michael from his romantic fantasies about his best friend. Moving in with David would do this. But it could also be Michael moving from one uneven relationship to another.

Yes, maybe. I think Deb and Emmett think that the only reason Michael said no to David is because of his obsession for Brian. Even though Brian plays a big part in Michael's decision, we know it's not just that. Michael is not sure if he loves David enough to move in together. As he himself said, they have nothing in common, except for shampoo and conditioner in one bottle.

By never making it clear to Michael that they will only be friends, he keeps Michael hopeful. And by not being too overtly sexual toward Michael, he never has to worry about Michael confronting him about it or acting on it, at least not very often.

Exactly.


Michael's apathy for David early on was extreme. Yet he's upset at getting dumped by him later. Maybe it's the "dumped" part that bothered him.

And he's afraid Emmett and Deb are right. Guys like David don't show up everyday. He is the perfecr dream guy (well, at least until 118).

Emphatically agree that Lindsay wanted Brian to be her baby's father to create a permanent bond with him. Does Melanie have a blind spot about this, or will she just not admit it?

Melanie is blind! Can't she see that Lindsay wants to eat her cake and keep it too?

Maybe in qaf land, waiting tables pays better than law.

I think they expect to live a more high end lifestyle than Deb.


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Hey, fairpenguin!!

Brian is manipulating Michael in the easiest way he knows how. You're right about this too: Brian knows it would not be a good idea to try to verbally discourage Michael from living with David. Brian knows Michael still has romantic thoughts about him (Brian) so he uses that to his advantage.

Totally agree. Calculated manipulation.

Not nice at all. But here is the thing: despite Brian's outward bravado, he is terrified of losing Michael. This is why he stoops to manipulating him.

He definetely is. And this time Brian sees a real possibility of losing his beloved friend. Or at least be second in Michael's life.

Brian and Michael's friendship is so dysfunctional at this point.

Exactly! This is why I (and Emmett and Deb) think Michael should have accepted the doctor's offer. Not because the doctor is a good catch (although that is reason enough!), but because he has to get a life away from Brian.



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I agree that Brian and Michael's relationship is dysfunctional at this point, with Michael wanting a sexual relationship with Brian and Brian not wanting it yet using it to keep his friend.

But this is what I don't understand, be it within the QAF world or outside of it:

Fairpenguin: Not nice at all. But here is the thing: despite Brian's outward bravado, he is terrified of losing Michael. This is why he stoops to manipulating him.

Golden_Gardenia (love the new name, btw ): He definetely is. And this time Brian sees a real possibility of losing his beloved friend. Or at least be second in Michael's life.


Why would Brian lose Michael if he has a boyfriend or even be relegated to second position in his life?

In Brian and Justin's unnamed relationship, no one loses anyone and Brian can love his friends and lover equally but their relationship isn't "right" to most (again within QAF land and outside of it). To me, it's perfect.


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clofa,

It's strongly suggested that Brian is so insecure, he believes Michael wouldn't want him for a friend only. And even if the possibility of a romance with Brian were never there, sometimes when a someone finds a lover, they do lose touch with their friends. A less charitible possibility is that Brian is so selfish, he wants all Michael's attention with no other distractions. I favor the first probability, but think any of these is possible.


Most don't think Brian and Justin's relationship is right? I got the idea that most within QAF land thought it was the greatest television romance of all time.

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It's strongly suggested that Brian is so insecure, he believes Michael wouldn't want him for a friend only.

I know and that's how I see Brian in the first 2 seasons as well and that's one of the reasons why his relationship with Michael (and everyone else) is so dysfunctional at the beginning.

And even if the possibility of a romance with Brian were never there, sometimes when a someone finds a lover, they do lose touch with their friends.

I also agree with this. Personally, I believe in constant change and that life is a continuous learning experience (that's one of the main reasons I don't believe in marriage, but that's another topic). However, it's always implied, be it in real life or in the media that romantic love takes precedence over friendship and that it's normal. That always annoyed me.
Even though I dislike Michael as a character, I do appreciate his friendship with Brian and how close and special it is. And I love how Justin NEVER challenges that friendship or tries to harm it in any way (on the contrary, he stands by it and saves it sometimes... I digress again, sorry!)

I favor the first probability

Me too!

Most don't think Brian and Justin's relationship is right? I got the idea that most within QAF land thought it was the greatest television romance of all time.

Well, I can't speak for the other fans, but I had the impression that most B/J fans (me included) fell for the love story because of the chemistry between the actors and their looks, because they saw how much Brian loved Justin even without saying it and even when they were apart. But while I feel the same way as most B/J fans regarding that, I feel differently about Brian and the relationship itself and I don't know how many would see it as I do, but I'm sure I'm in the minority (or probably alone). I'll try to be clear and concise!
To me, Brian needed to mature in the sense of learning how to love and be loved, to stop being so insecure and to be able to understand his emotions and express them. Apart from that, he was perfect to me: the first character I was ever able to identify with and relate to this much. To most fans, Brian had to "mature" by "settling down," to me, he was very mature and very much settled (Hi cls! Whenever I write that word I think of you )
In my perfect qaf setting, Justin would feel the same way as Brian about relationships, instead of us seeing Justin fighting for their relationship to conform to the usual prevalent understanding of relationships and always trying to get something (a compromise, a sacrifice) out of Brian. Most fans would want them to be in a monogamous relationship or married. I don't, I thought their relationship was perfect and was a bit ruined in order to be viable because Justin had other demands. I wouldn't even mind a romantic relationship with Michael along with a sexual/romantic relationship with Justin. But I doubt that would be positively portrayed on TV any time soon



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Clofa,

Agree that Brian and Michael's friendship was disfunctional, and probably only worked as long as it did due to Michael being all too willing to live compeletly in Brian's orbit. A situation that was so one sided, it may have been a factor in why Brian believed he had to dangle the possibility of romance at Michael to keep him around.


Also don't agree that romance is more important than friendship, yet it's always touted as being so. Some people even think your lover should always be your best friend. Doesn't make since to me that physical attraction, which is the principle difference in frienship and romance, somehow elevates the relationship to a higher level.

Don't get the monogamous thing either. Fans say they like Brian as he is , but then want to change one of the most important parts of his character. Brian was very against monogamy, had many, many different sexual partners, and liked it that way. It might be possible to believe that some of the other characters might be able to manage this. But it would totally change who Brian is. So, don't understand why anyone who says they love the character, would want to change him so radically. Wouldn't be too far removed to make Brian straight as well.

And yet many do want Brian do be this other person. Have read post saying "Why can't he be happy with Justin alone?", and the like. Always thought, why should he need to be happy with Justin alone? Maybe these fans think Brian being sexual with Justin only makes Justin more special to Brian. Or that Brian giving up other men for Justin is Brian being "tamed" by love. Could also be that they are taking the traditional monogamous heterosexual ideal, which itself is questionable, and appying it to a homosexual relationship. Which makes little sense, because while there are similarities between straight and gay romances, there are some very big differences.

Spoilers to follow....There was a problem with Brian and Justin having different expectations about monogamy. Thought the couple they had the foursome with in 504 was meant to highlight this. This was a couple where both men wanted to be with multiple sex partners, yet were still close, as indicated by how physically close they were together. This was in contrast to Brian and Justin were not physically touching and not on the same page about what they wanted from this romance. Don't know if I think Justin could ever adopt Brian's ideas on relationships. But think that is far, far more likely than to have Brian ever limit himself to one man, even if that man is Justin.

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don't understand why anyone who says they love the character, would want to change him so radically. Wouldn't be too far removed to make Brian straight as well.

I feel the same way! It's not just fans who do that, even in real life, people claim they're in love with a person and yet do their best to change almost everything about them. Never made sense to me. I believe you can love someone as they are and do your best to give them advice if you believe their behavior/personality is harmful to them but you do not own a person (neither body or soul, and especially not their heart).
That was one of the main reasons I disliked David, actually.

Could also be that they are taking the traditional monogamous heterosexual ideal, which itself is questionable, and appying it to a homosexual relationship. Which makes little sense, because while there are similarities between straight and gay romances, there are some very big differences.

Totally agreeeeeee

yet were still close, as indicated by how physically close they were together.
Good point.



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Michael having a boyfriend would stop him from being permanantly on call for Brian. Had things gone better at David's dinner party in an earlier episode, Michael may have stayed at David's that night. And he wouldn't have been home when Brian came by in the middle of the night after the visit with his father.

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Why would Brian lose Michael if he has a boyfriend or even be relegated to second position in his life?

I know it's frustrating, clofa, but the only reason for Brian to interfere in Michael and David's relationship (in a very subtle no confrontational but effective way) is because he does not want to lose Michael and thinks the only way he can have Michael is keeping him hopeful that one day they could be together (hence the deep kiss). Brian has never been in a romantic relationship (he hates this idea), but he's no fool, he knows that once your best friend is in a serious romantic relationship, everything else comes second. 99% of people act that way, I'm sure you know that. At this point they have a highly dysfunctional codependent friendship.

In Brian and Justin's unnamed relationship, no one loses anyone and Brian can love his friends and lover equally but their relationship isn't "right" to most (again within QAF land and outside of it). To me, it's perfect.

Sure, but remember, Brian and Justin are not exactly a couple yet. Brian and Justin's relationship will be configurated along Season 2, not now. At this moment Brian doesn't want a relationship, this is out of the question. Once he realizes this is possible in a certain way, he will establish the "rules" for his relationship with Justin. Not in Season 1.

In 105, when Brian meets David, he does everything he can to not let Michael go. He doesn't want to lose Michael. When Michael goes to that cabin with David and Brian has to go alone to Studs'n Suds, he was totally lost and depressed, couldn't enjoy himself and went home. And then he figures out a way of having Michael come back immediately (his head concussion). In the way again.

The separation between Michael and Brian will be painful for both of them and will take the whole Season 1. In the next episode Deb talks to Brian and convinces him to back off so Michael can have a chance of happiness with the doctor. He will unwillingly do what he feels is right because he loves his friend. Michael and Brian's friendship will be totally different in Season 2, once the separation process is in motion. But the separation starts now with David.








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99% of people act that way, I'm sure you know that. At this point they have a highly dysfunctional codependent friendship.

I know. I was just venting my frustration over this because the topic keeps coming up (elsewhere in the media and in real life) and I got annoyed why it never occurs to anyone (Brian included) to challenge the idea that romantic relationships aren't less or more important than other relationships

Sure, but remember, Brian and Justin are not exactly a couple yet. Brian and Justin's relationship will be configurated along Season 2, not now. At this moment Brian doesn't want a relationship, this is out of the question. Once he realizes this is possible in a certain way, he will establish the "rules" for his relationship with Justin. Not in Season 1.

I was referring to their relationship in general, be it now or later, friendships (at least Brian's) are never relegated to second position because romantic love be it anywhere along the story (beginning or end).

As for your third point, I agree. That's why in my above reply to dergil I said that Brian's relationship with Michael is still dysfunctional at this point. I also think this is an important step in Brian and Michael's personal evolution.



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I know. I was just venting my frustration over this because the topic keeps coming up (elsewhere in the media and in real life) and I got annoyed why it never occurs to anyone (Brian included) to challenge the idea that romantic relationships aren't less or more important than other relationships.

I understand! I totally agree with you. It is frustranting!

I was referring to their relationship in general, be it now or later, friendships (at least Brian's) are never relegated to second position because romantic love be it anywhere along the story (beginning or end).

At this point, Brian has a lot of experience in being a friend (to Michael) and no experience at all at being a lover/boyfriend.

Everything was perfect until Justin came into the picture. Brian's feelings for Justin will challenge him to figure out the difference between friendship and romantic love. Before Justin, that was not even a question for him. As a result, he will successfully master the art of giving friendship and romantic love the same importance (although he knows they are different). He manages to balance these two people in his live with balance.



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Great review, Gardenia! I love seeing all the details that I didn't notice on my own.

Daphne pours Brian some guava juice and Brian says: “You’re gonna make an excellent wife.” What a nasty macho thing to say!!!!

My impression of this line was that Brian was being facetious, not serious.

He decides to leave town, but that’s just a trick to get Brian to go after him. I think he had everything figured out when he took Brian’s credit card.

I agree. He could have gone to Deb's or Mel & Lind's.

There are a few points in the series where Justin's manipulative abilities are on display and this seems to play into that.
* Attracting Brian's notice by dancing with the two tricks he's interested in. (episode 1.03)
* Getting Michael and Brian back together after Michael's 30th b-day party
* Getting that employee to back off the sexual harrassment suit against Brian.
* Getting an internship at vanguard when he's trying to get Brian back (that scene between B/J makes me laugh at how clearly thrown-off Brian is as compared to Justin's calm collectedness.)
To me, that's part of what shows that Justin is Brian's equal - he can give as good as he gets, which is something that Michael never could.

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I find it interesting that Brian goes off alone to get Justin after finding out that "someone" has been using his credit card.
Why not bring the others with him, unless he was planning on a quickie anyway? Maybe that explains the easy seduction that some reviewers had issues with.

After Justin finishes recounting how messed up his life has become, it seems like Brian is being unusually honest with his "yeah, well, whose isn't?"

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Thank you very much for your comments pocceygirl! Welcome to our QAF Marathon. Eveyone has been so busy, so the Marathon is going very slowly. So, it is great to have you here!


My impression of this line was that Brian was being facetious, not serious.

Yes, i think he was, at least this once. But throughout the series he makes lots of misogynistic remarks, especially about women's privates!


There are a few points in the series where Justin's manipulative abilities are on display and this seems to play into that.

You have a very good memory! Yes, Justin is a little devil. But as he himself says, he learned from the master.

I find it interesting that Brian goes off alone to get Justin after finding out that "someone" has been using his credit card. Why not bring the others with him, unless he was planning on a quickie anyway? Maybe that explains the easy seduction that some reviewers had issues with.

I have a feeling the boys split (they were already flirting with guys on the street). If they went with Brian, they probably waited for him in the lobby. Maybe they thought Brian wanted to be alone with Justin to give him a piece of his mind. I don't think Brian was planning to have sex, he was so angry (well, not so angry as when he kicked Justin out). I have a feeling that despite being
angry, Brian felt sorry for the boy for having no place and for being pratically rejected by his family (I can't forgive Justin's mother for being so cold at Molly's birthday party). Well, the sex happened because Justin noticed that Brian was not that angry anymore and he knows how to turn Brian on (again, tricky!)

After Justin finishes recounting how messed up his life has become, it seems like Brian is being unusually honest with his "yeah, well, whose isn't?"[ave /b]

I thought so too. He gave Justin another free lesson about life, from the point of view of a more mature person.


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