"Totally slow, about 30 minutes longer than it should be, no message, no point, no storyline, seemed like a terrible soap opera. "
That's your opinion...its also possible that the things you mentioned just flew right by you and did not want to look for any of it. If you werent looking for a drama, then you should have seen the genre listed first and quit before starting the movie. I do however agree with the fact that its not a 'mystery' in a conventional sense; it's not a whodunnit movie...
For people expecting fireworks and explosions..please watch something else, you're not going to find it here. However, if you're looking for a glimpse into what life is like the rest of the time, then this is it! The plot is not something out of the ordinary (it deals mostly with the nature of relationships), but I hold this as a gold standard to gauge other similar films by.
To anyone else reading this thread, don't take OP at face value, see it for yourself and decide whether or not you like it.
This is one of my favourite movies. Its very much a movie about man-woman relationships and a damn good one at that, in my opinion. I thought the characters were real. I absolutely loved the scenes between Patrick and the psychiatrist. The acting was good. I would definitely recommend it to anyone who would like a mature drama.
Truthfully, this film is largely misrepresented. Less of a true mystery/suspense film as it's often categorized than a drama than happens to contain a mystery. People compare it to other films with multiple, integrated character arcs (Crash, Babel, Short Cuts, etc.) and that's exactly what it is. Truthfully, the only difference is that the climax is teased at the beginning and thus the audience is in "suspense" for most of the film. If one of the climaxes in Crash was built into the open in the same "gun goes off, we don't see what happened" sort of way, it'd be just as much a mystery film as Lantana.
If Mad Max is one of the OP's all-time favourites then I guess that says it all. Agree with the previous poster: the OP is a retard who can not appreciate serious film.