I Question the Mother - The Truth About Jane (2000) Discussion

[–] DominiqueS1991 19 years ago

Yeah she did.I think every mom can say 'oh i will love you no matter what', but deep down they wish that their child wil be with or marry the oppisite sex.

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[–] Flyergurl 19 years ago

well, unfortunately thats not always how it works. In real life things much worse then that happen when children come out to their parents. I personally got kicked out of my own house, its not a fun thing to deal with, but if nothing else, the movie put too much of a happy spin on the whole deal.

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[–] appaloosalover2003 18 years ago

yeah her mother did show a poor sense of judgement but i went through it first hand good think i had a very understanding mother when i came out that i was a lesbian. ;)

Diane Keaton the most beautiful & Talented Actress ever!!

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[–] tstrausberg2003 18 years ago

the movie put too much of a happy spin on the whole deal.

What do you mean by that? ^^^^^^^^

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[–] Capricorn12 19 years ago

The father was like, "I don't mind her not dating guys" or something like that when his wife complained that his daughter wasn't dating. Well, if your daughter's a lez, you won't have that problem, now will you? I think it's sad that the mother could be friends with RuPaul, but couldn't except that her daughter was gay. What a hyprocrite.

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[–] yoyom98 19 years ago

i don't think it's hypocracy
the mother doesn't care about what her friends do, but when it comes down to her daughter she has a certain image of what she wants her daughter to be, and being gay is not in that picture

No matter how dark the night, day always comes, and the journey continues

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[–] tstrausberg2003 18 years ago

I thought it was sad also

I think it's sad that the mother could be friends with RuPaul, but couldn't except that her daughter was gay

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[–] phild45 19 years ago

I have this movie and here in Canada the Canadian government passed a law that legalizes same sex marriage and the only thing that Janice did was try to ban Jane from seeing Taylor which led to their breakup and it takes a while for Janice to accept Jane's sexuality and for me one of my friends from high school is a lesbian and I am prohibited by the Canadian Human Rights Act/ Constitution from doing anything about anyone's sexuality. Now if my child was gay or a lesbian I would help him or her any way I can.

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[–] tstrausberg2003 18 years ago

Why would you do anything anyway...It's up to them

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[–] shortqt326 18 years ago

Yeah but in the end she proved herself by going to the meetings. It can be very hard for mothers to deal with their daughters being gay. I know my mom was a lot like Janes and kept saying "phase". But after some time, they learn to deal and even now my mom is very proud of her gay daughter.

"I shall call him squishy and he shall be mine and he shall be my squishy"

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[–] phild45 18 years ago

Crimes against gays and lesbians like you are being classified as hate crimes which here in Canada is a Class "AA" Felony punishable up to 12-24 years in prison and a fine of up to $25,000.00. After Matthew Shepard; his killer received 160 years in prison. The maximum legally allowable sentence under Canadian law is 124 years.

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[–] tstrausberg2003 18 years ago

Was he from Canada? Well it doesnt matter he should of got alot more then 160 (Is 160 considered Life) Well if it is thats what he should of got but if he wouldnt of got life or if he didnt get life he should of got death then.

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[–] tstrausberg2003 18 years ago

Im glad to hear that ---> even now my mom is very proud of her gay daughter.

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[–] prncescbb85 18 years ago

I thought that was kinda the point. To show her change in character by the end. Doesn't she go to a pride parade at the end and say that she's proud of her daughter? I haven't seen this movie since it premiered, so I really don't remember.

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[–] [email protected] 18 years ago

I personally dislike this movie. Okay, maybe not the movie, but the demands made by the lesbian daughter were just too overwhelming and completely selfish. She expected everyone to alter their entire lives to accept her sexuality, yet she did nothing in the way of showing her own tolerance. The mother was at least making an effort to try to understand and accept and the daughter just kept demanding more and more. The mother is trying to love and accept the daughter unconditionally, yet the daughter's offer of complete and defined conditions is totally disgusting (love my lesbianism or else!). Would have made much more sense for them to meet halfway and accept that each other is completely within reason to have their own points of view. To expect understanding and acceptance, you should first give it, which the daughter never did. So, maybe, she too should have found a group and learned her own tolerance and acceptance.

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[–] blossom114 18 years ago

whoa whoa WHOAAAAA hold up.
Okay I have to agree she did kind of push her mother in the end because she was at least trying but now you're trying to say we're all selfish people who just care about ourselves?
that's a bit ignorant

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[–] Tracey73 9 years ago

She expected everyone to alter their entire lives to accept her sexuality, yet she did nothing in the way of showing her own tolerance. The mother was at least making an effort to try to understand and accept and the daughter just kept demanding more and more. The mother is trying to love and accept the daughter unconditionally, yet the daughter's offer of complete and defined conditions is totally disgusting (love my lesbianism or else!). Would have made much more sense for them to meet halfway and accept that each other is completely within reason to have their own points of view. To expect understanding and acceptance, you should first give it, which the daughter never did. So, maybe, she too should have found a group and learned her own tolerance and acceptance.

You nailed it. I don't think many people understand the shock that some parents go through when they hear "I'm gay" from their son or daughter. It takes some time for the shock to go away and allow it to sink in. Some parents go through denial ("it's just a phase") and some can accept it immediately. What matters is that the parent loves you unconditionally, regardless of whether they "agree" with this or not.

That being said, I realize that many are rejected by their parents and that makes me so sad. I have a 19 year old son. I admit I would be initially shocked if he told me he was gay. It would take some time for me to allow it to sink in. But I could never kick him out, turn my back on him, or disown him in any way.

The beauty is I'm learning how to face my beast ~ Blue October

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[–] Book1245 18 years ago

sounds like I had the easiest parents to deal with
they did not care one bit : )
they never thought it was a phase, they never tried to change it, they never told me they wanted me to be straight (granted, I do feel atracted to women too ^_~)
but they totally accept me, and they really like my boyfriend ^_^

"Why would they want the Duke's...son killed?"

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[–] tstrausberg2003 18 years ago

Book1245~Well thats really nice to hear. Your parents must be one of a kind

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[–] tstrausberg2003 18 years ago

Yeah I agree

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[–] Book1245 18 years ago

aww thank you

"Why would they want the Duke's...son killed?"

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