Found It!!!!
I had watched this movie a few years ago. Flipping through channels late one night, kinda drunk--bad break up not too long prior....
I completely forgot about it.
Out of the fcking blue it's in the little strip of supposedly related titles under Revenge. Wow!
I love this movie. I am a guy. Combat vet. And, I can honestly say: this movie was really good.
Now that I got the name I can start looking for the Blu Ray.