no sympahy for connie whatsoever

of course i dont believe people should be murdered or put in jail for cheating i meant IF anyone in *this* particular film was going to end up in jail, character wise Connie was the one i would have liked to seen accidentally murdered or gone to jail for something else if the director wanted jail and murder in the movie, i was saying if only it were connie since she was the only one who got out of it other than feeling guilt and shame and regret for the rest of her life, though because she has a child her motherly instinct would hopefully kick in and connie as shi**y as she was seemed to be a strong willed person she prob would have gotten herself together after awhile as a person to be a good mom, so ultimately she did get out of it mostly unscathed where as her husband will be in jail for life and her lover is dead. but i was not saying at all i think when people cheat they shoulg go to jail or be klled LOL. i meant IF anyone HAD to in THIS movie. come on now. im not some barbaric idiot.

I liked the movie. She was a little bored with her life. There was no sexual chemistry between her and her husband -- maybe they could have fleshed that out a bit to make Connie more sympathetic. But what I like is that these are real situations -- right or wrong, people stray. She was tormented by it and she did finally stop it. But this is how life is. People cheat. People love. People forgive. Her husband was a weak -- he never even confronted her -- maybe he didn't want to lose her. I felt SO bad for him when he commented, "she goes to the movies with him"? It also shows that there are things missing in their marriage. He doesn't know anything about her -- and even when he suspected something was up, he never asked her. And I liked the kid :-) Big ears and all. We're so used to wise cracking kids in movies (which I DETEST). It think this character was an honest portrayal of a normal kid. Good looking people have ugly kids. Not all kids are geniuses. Many peoples lives are mundane and unremarkable. People have affairs. And this is the story of one.

I liked the movie. She was a little bored with her life. There was no sexual chemistry between her and her husband -- maybe they could have fleshed that out a bit to make Connie more sympathetic. But what I like is that these are real situations -- right or wrong, people stray. She was tormented by it and she did finally stop it. But this is how life is. People cheat. People love. People forgive. Her husband was a weak -- he never even confronted her -- maybe he didn't want to lose her. I felt SO bad for him when he commented, "she goes to the movies with him"? It also shows that there are things missing in their marriage. He doesn't know anything about her -- and even when he suspected something was up, he never asked her. And I liked the kid :-) Big ears and all. We're so used to wise cracking kids in movies (which I DETEST). It think this character was an honest portrayal of a normal kid. Good looking people have ugly kids. Not all kids are geniuses. Many peoples lives are mundane and unremarkable. People have affairs. And this is the story of one.

Yeah I pretty much agree on everything you had to say about the character of Connie in this film. And I think it's also quite obvious, particularly when you consider the fact it's an Adrian Lyne film, that Connie was/is essentially the female counterpart of Dan Gallagher in Fatal Attraction. They both had wonderfully loving and caring spouses whom they both willingly cheated on for really nothing more than simply wanting to engage in sexual thrills and excitement with another individual.

I'ld still like to point out though the few differences between the two characters in each film if I may. Firstly you could see and tell that Connie, for whatever particular reason or cause, seemed to be somewhat unhappy and unfulfilled with the life she had with her family. Dan on the other hand seemed perfectly happy with his family and with the life he led in general. Secondly Dan was very much willing to commit the act of adultery with Alex Forrest. Connie however seemed to be just a bit more hesitant and conflicted over her ultimate decision to have an adulterous affair behind her husbands back though she finally submitted, quite willingly, to having the sexual affair with Paul. Thirdly, while Dan saw has affair with Alex as a mere weekend fling and nothing more, Connie wanted very much to continue on with her and Paul's sexual affairs. So in essence, while Dan wanted absolutely nothing more to do with Alex after their sexual encounter(s), Connie wanted to continue seeing Paul to prolong their sexual relationship.

So we could I suppose argue and debate as to which one of these two characters was/is 'worse' as far as cheating on their respective spouses is concerned. But it more than likely would prove to be a rather futile discussion as, in the end, neither one of these two particular characters should be allowed to be let of the hook in any way whatsoever over their consensual decisions which led them into their consensual actions.

"Life IS pain highness. Anyone who says differently is selling something".

I don't think she planned the affair nor was she supposed to be seen in a sympathetic light, I think the movie just wanted to illustrate how vulnerable people can be and the consequences basically of being human. I do believe she loved her husband and later her lover as well. I often wonder if she would have left her husband in the end, had her lover not been killed. .?