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Relationships/marriages are a huge responsibility

posted 7 years ago by Verdugo85
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In the case of Unfaithful, Connie cheated on Edward because he wasnt showing any type of affection towards her. Edward was emotionally dry. She was bored of him. Paul gave Connie what she was missing in her marriage (sex, attention, emotional validation).

Connie's infidelity is understandable. She didnt do it because she's a b!tch, whore, she's better than him or out of revenge. Edward wasnt looking out for her needs, so she went out to get hers. The more Edward was dry, the more she comfortably went to see Paul. Connie may have done "wrong" of cheating but I dont blame her. Edward failed as a husband to keep her there..

I've been in Connie's shoes but I didnt cheat, I thought about it but instead I took the time to be away from her and take care of my priorities (school, job, gym, hobby), a peace of mind, and not call/text her. I gave her a week to think what she wants to do with me and eventually we broke up on a good note. I held no grudge, no hard feelings, no headaches.

Being in a relationship/marriage is a huge responsibility.

[–] ilovejnames 7 years ago

What? What movie were you watching? Edward constantly showed affection and initiated romance/sex with her. He was far from "emotionally dry". He was a great husband, father, and provider. I don't see your point.

[–] Verdugo85 7 years ago

What? What movie were you watching?

The one where Richard Gere killed Oliver Martinez because he banged his wife multiple times.

Edward constantly showed affection and initiated romance/sex with her.

Connie didnt seem satisfied and I know he was a good husband but thats not the point..

[–] mspacman75 7 years ago

Agreed. She seemed bored with her husband. Relationships take work from both parties. Perhaps he was distracted or working too much, not that this is a reason in and of itself to cheat. Whatever the reason, he wasn't nurturing the marriage and more importantly her, which is what she needed him to do. She found that in Paul. Not that it's right, but I get it, and I think a lot of happily married women can relate. Sometimes, a loving husband and family aren't enough to keep you happy (or satisfied)

[–] Prelude (1443) 7 years ago

Are you kidding? Edward was incredibly affectionate! He showed her he adored her! All those loving looks, smiles, gazing at her with a smile until she's going "What?" and he just smiles and tells her she's so beautiful -- jeez louise! If that ain't the ideal hubby I don't know what is! That man adored his wife and showed it. They had a great marriage and he was completely in love with her.

If she was bored that was on her, and not him. The writer maybe could have MADE Edward act bored himself, be less loving, then maybe we could say justifiably that we get why she cheated.

But the writers actually made Edward a warm and attentive husband and father, making it even harder for us to understand why she was bored enough to stray. Personally I wouldn't be bored with what she had with Edward.

I do agree with you though that being in a relationship or marriage IS a huge responsibility. You make a moral contract with that person to give your all to making a good life together. Not enough people really think about the moral obligation to their other person.

[–] April-151-CT (10210) 7 years ago

Yes, he was a great husband and gave her no reason to cheat. But sometimes, there is no reason why, other than a supremely handsome and sexy Frenchman was up in her face and made her nether regions pulse and her willpower wasn't strong enough to turn away from such a powerful magnetic force. Simple...

[–] Prelude (1443) 7 years ago

But we are more than just our "nether regions pulsing." Part of the civilized contracts we make among ourselves involve not just acting on every impulse.

If a person *wants" to act on every impulse, don't agree to a monogamous partnership with one person. Nothing wrong with that, but if you're married and committed and just going with your nether regions might disrupt your family bonds, a magnetic Frenchman isn't going to make you just thrwo that to the wind (literally in this case, lol).

I get that sometimes people do things "just because," and if they didn't, there wouldn't be stories to tell and movies to make. But in real life you make more conscious choices.

Besides, personally I didn't find Paul all that alluring. I can see objectively why he may be considered by most women to be irresistible, but some of us think differently. Personally I'd be more tempted by a clean cut nerd with a nice nature and a good intellect, but that's just me.

[–] April-151-CT (10210) 7 years ago

"but that's just me"

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Exactly. I wasn't speaking of YOU, or me, or anybody else. I was speaking of HER.

"But in real life you make more conscious choices."

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Aaaaaaaand, in real life, things of what I spoke about happen every... single... day. But naturally I wasn't speaking about YOU and your perfect life/world that you live in. LOL...

[–] db20db (16140) 7 years ago

Betrayal is one of the deepest wounds one can endure. Compound that pain with the psychological ploy of being made to feel responsible, deserving of it by the perpetrator.
It was understandable that Edward snapped.

[–] [email protected] (1288) 7 years ago

I think once he saw that snow globe in his apt,,,,,,, he snapped. After all, he gave it to his wife as a gift.

[–] Orcsquisher (11) 6 years ago

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