In defense of this "poor soul"

Okay, we get that you didn't like the film...that's fine, but getting in the last word just to put the rest of us down is really a waste of time.....let those of us who liked it enjoy it, and you can move on to something you enjoyed watching :)

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can't speak for yourself that you have to use other people's quote?!

I just bought the US DVD (the dutch DVD is P&S) and absolutely love this movie.
Money well spent !

" can only say I hope I find someone I can call an a$$hole and they still know how much I love them. I want someone to take the time to find me a mint condition Cornelius action figure, someone I can go to the flea market with and hunt for a vintage martini set."
Although I don't consider myself to be very romantic, I agree with you 100 %...

Thanks! And thanks to everyone for being supportive of this matter and the film! Nice to know there are some folks out there that care! Hugs! :)

I saw the film just once. A good friend entertained me with it while I was sick. The next day, feeling much better, I find myself checking out if there was a dvd or vcd on it. Luckily there was one albeit a vcd. Why do I like it, despite what others have portrayed the lifestyle to be, is its honesty. I think when a film like that "tugs" the heart, it works and is beautiful. I don't think liking it or disliking it makes a viewer bad -- nor does it make a film poorly made. I can't explain it well too, "all or alls" I know is it charmed my heart. Of course it leaves you asking why this too are still at each other's doors whenever they fight. If you've been in love and have lost, then I think SOME of you will get the answers to that. The "poor soul" has somehow "enriched mine" in a world where we lack material that somehow guides us through the dating and mating. It was an honest-to-goodness warm film. Does it qualify for an Oscar -- that's something else. But it surely made a big "win" in my heart.

I am going to agree with you. I am a straight woman in my thirties and I caught this movie half way through late one night on IFC a few months back. I didn't know the name of it. I turned on IFC last night and there it was again. I found this message board because I was checking the internet to see if I could locate the soundtrack for this movie.

I like the message . . . gay or straight . . . relationships are tough, but worth it and I think it has an excellent soundtrack.

Thank you actyk, and to all that have been so kind here! Nice to know you're all out there!

I'm glad that so many people of all orientations could 'get' this movie for what it was, a true reflection of the difficulties of love, without any dreadful, typical sterotypes to swallow. Yeah, it's just a comedy, and Oscar material it's not, but it's so surprisngly fresh, its dialogue so witty, and it speaks so well to my own heartbreaks and happinesses in life that I teared up at the end when the 'alcoholic' guy says, "Eli," and kisses him. I've seen it now (by accident, I claim) three times, and I like it more each time. The first time I worried that it was 'shallow' and 'California,' the second time I didn't care, and the third time I was amazed to find it 'deep' and 'Everyplace.' It's not even worth talking about that nasty person who needed to insult those of us who liked it. A case of arrested emotional development, if you ask me.

I liked the movie because I like Ruccolo--he's a talent who hasn't seen his highest peak yet. But someone will recognize his strengths and find the perfect vehicle to bring him back into the limelight. Been a fan From 2 Guys and a Girl up to the One. I even tracked down Music From Another Room to see him--in a non-speaking role. Sorry to say I missed him on Joey and Reba.

I stumbled across All Over the Guy one night a couple years ago on IFC and managed to catch the last hour of it. It held my attention and I didn't understand why, until I watched the repeat later that night. I liked it because it wasn't the stereotypical role--hips swaying, lisping, screaming queen role--that seems to be so damned popular in TV and movies.

It's fine if that's how you are, everyone has the right to be who they are. But there are some of us in this world who don't fit into the stereotype--we like rock and metal, we don't swish when we walk, etc. And I realized this was the first movie where I didn't cringe at the performances, that's why I liked it. I could deeply appreciate the character of Tom; it's hard to open up and you find yourself closing down when you do find someone who likes you and whom you like as well. It's normal.

Damn, my shrink would be so proud of me right now--I've come so far in my therapy. Just kidding.

Hard to imagine it's been almost two years since I've sat down to watch this film. But I don't know if I can ever do that again. You see, without airing my personal life here, I was going through a very rough patch when I stumbled across this film on IFC. I taped it on the second run and watched it. It helped occupy my mind, get my mind off what was going on in my world. So much so that I--and this is where you can call me a loser or whatever you like--that I watched the damned thing every night for the next twenty-one days, until I got the good news that lifted the weight and worry from my shoulders. It helped me to come home from work and leave my worries behind for that hour and a half and just allow myself to be entertained.

I seriously doubt Richard Ruccolo will ever happen across my comments, but if he should, I would like to extend a heartfelt "Thank You" for helping me get through a rough, frightening time in my life, and for that I will remember you kindly and say may you have many blessings upon your house.

Like I said, I am a fan of Ruccolo and would watch just about anything he makes an appearance in. Hopefully, he'll find a starring vehicle and come back to us. Straight, gay, whatever, he's a helluvan actor and from what I understand an all-around nice guy.

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