I have seen the film all the way through but its one of those films that is too difficult for me to watch, its too personal. As a child I asked my parents for dancing lessons, my father called me a *beep* and threatened to beat the hell out of me if I ever brought it up again. Watching this film opens old wounds and the recent Tony ceremonies didnt help, watching those boys from the stage play dance is like watching "what could have been".
shareohhh no, I am so sorry..... really, no child deserves to be put down by there parents like that
shareI'm sorry. When I have a son and if he wants to dance, I'd let him. And there's no way I'd marry a man who will call my son a *beep*.
Besides, when you dance you get to be surrounded by GIRLS. Showing their underwear a lot! Sports means being surrounded by sweaty guys all the time... I don't see why fathers are pro-sport and anti-dance.
Maybe you can take lessons now as an adult?
He said,
"Just put your feet down child,
'Cause you're all grown up now."
I understand a little. I was not allowed to be 'different', as a child. I was just supposed to be 'normal', obedient and to get good grades. Billy was lucky. He had someone to help him start his dream. I never knew someone like that. Even if I did, my folks would probably still say "no". They were pretty much against (even if they could afford) sports, music, dance, acting and etc....classes.
My mom is still trying to stick me into a cubicle. LOL
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Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately even today there's still lots of stigma attached to boys wanting to do typical girls things, like dancing. I'm a guy and I've been dancing since I was young so I guess I'm lucky that my Dad would never call me a *beep* or threaten to beat the hell out of me, he's just not like that. I also don't get how dancing is seen as a gay thing for guys to do, you're pretty much surrounded by girls the whole time, really don't get how that's gay lol. Now I'm older I love how I share classes with mostly girls now, it's great.
Maybe you can start taking lessons now if you haven't already? It's never too late to start.
I'm so sorry. Nobody should ever treat anybody like that, but it's physically sickening when it's a parent talking to THEIR OWN CHILD. There are plenty of straight male dancers - dance in general, and ballet in particular take an insane amount of strength and dedication. It's no less a sport than football or rugby.
As the others have said, do look into lessons as an adult. It is NOT the same, I totally hear you there. As a girl, I was allowed to dance - but never in a studio that competed, and never even allowed to THINK about actually becoming a dancer. I'm dancing again now, as an adult, and I am still full of regrets for what might have been, and probably always will be. But it's still FAR better than not being able to dance at all. There are plenty of studios with adult classes, or even that will allow adults in the kids' classes (with the older kids, at least). Give it a try. It's NEVER too late. It will hurt in some ways, but it will help to heal some of that old longing, I promise.
In my 20s I decided i would (for a laugh and a change) bleach my hair blonde. My dad saw it and said "Makes you look like a poof" Im not gay but was really angry with him.
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I'm so sorry to hear that, Blu. I was fortunate enough to have wonderful parents who told me to "be whatever I wanted to be."
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