Hey, guys !


I wonder one thing : do guys understand / like the movie like women do ?
I don't know if they are sensitive to the same scenes of the movie as us...

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Four years after the original post but who's counting...

No, Ann-Charlotte, we males do not see the movie the way you women do. If we were discussing it broadly we would probably allow ourselves to believe that we both enjoyed the movie for what it was and we would attempt to understand one another's vision of the film. But in my experience of life (67 years) I have finally reached what I believe - and it's backed up by many recent brain studies - that men and women do not process emotion in the same way. We see the same thing, we might agree of the message, etc., but in our hearts we are seeing two different films. We can't help that, it is in the architecture of our brains to process this information - especially emotional content - differently. Men's and women's brains are different, physically different, and therefore when impressions go in they go through different parts of the brain before they reach the point where we "understand" what we are seeing.

Males like the whole idea of having all that sex with Susie Porter, and we do want them to get back together just like the girls do, but there are nuances and subtleties in how we see that and how we think about it. I think most men would like to see the casual sex continue without necessarily falling into "love". Men don't worry too much about the characters taking the next step because we are excited by the no-responsibility sex that they achieve with each other. I kept thinking, every time I get to Oz or she gets to me we will screw and that's it. No strings. It's perfect. Yes, I believe that men also want to see the two get together again, but mainly for sex. I'm not saying all men feel this way, I am only one male, but I think if males are honest with themselves they would have to say, Baby, let's just leave it real loose and casual, OK? See you next time?

Jus' sayin'.

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Not sure if you still care 7 years after your post.

I only made it half way through the film, after about the fifth(?) sex scene I didn't see it going anywhere so I turned it off. I thought if there were more to it later, it probably would involve emotional issues or something which doesn't interest me too much.

Casual sex is okay if he/she can deal with it. But I know that women in particular need some emotional validation after awhile.
But then again, a superficial relationship singularly based upon sex is ultimately a doomed relationship.

But men in general are more adept at the "love em and leave em" scenario more so than most women I think.
Something to do with the primal genetic urge to mate as much as possible I suppose.
On the flip side, the nurturer must be sensitive to the emotions of those around them including whomever they happen to be sleeping with.

I'm speaking in pure generalities here and not addressing possible individual cases where circumstances are likely different and more complex.

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