Sort of strange reaction...


Let me begin by saying that I'm utterly astonished that a film of this caliber was made for television. I can only surmise that the French insist on much higher standards from their TV movies than Americans do, because this never would have been made for American network TV.

Having said that, and laying aside, for a moment, my deep admiration and appreciation for the film, I wanted to ask if anyone else had my peculiar reaction to it. I'm gay, and came out more than a decade ago, quite easily. My family didn't present any of the problems that Laurent had to confront, and I'm eternally grateful to them all for their ease. Perhaps because of that, however, painful coming out stories never quite grab me the way they seem to grab others -- which is fine. I still empathize with the characters and appreciate their plight.

But imagine my surprise when another element of this film altogether reduced me to tears, both times I've seen it. It comes when Emma can't believe she hasn't heard from her son in two days. The deep concern there made me feel really bad about the many times my family and I haven't been in much contact. (Our dynamic is clearly different from theirs, but still.) Was anyone else profoundly moved or affected by this illustration?

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I think he jsut went to get away, I don't believe it was to pick up me... but hey I'm an old romantic and don't want to think of them with anybody else

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Yo - CBOC - catching up on our conversation on another board and on your posting above, together with some thoughts on some other postings about this movie -

My life experience has been quite different from yours. Even so, I can see why Emma's exclamation might evoke your response. Her part was so beautifully conceived and performed that her outburst was sort of a universal maternal cri de coeur and could affect people for many reasons personal to them.

But I think much of her obvious anxiety in that scene arose from the immediate problem she had - in trying to mend the rift between Cedric and Laurent by outing Laurent to his parents, she had created a chasm. She needed to get Cedric home soon, before Laurent left, which she did very cleverly when Cedric called by fabricating a medical problem (remember, this is the woman who "doesn't know how to pretend"!).

That takes me to Cedric - who insists he can't love a man who isn't totally open about his sexuality. He makes a big deal about having come out to Emma, but it is not clear that he ever came out to his father. And it is clear that he only came out to Emma after his father died and she was emotionally isolated. As Emma knows and tells us, Cedric has had a series of failed relationships (apparently due to his demand for total "honesty") and is in danger of becoming isolated and embittered - an old maid tending his flowers. So she tries from every angle to reconcile Laurent and Cedric, an effort that culminates when she confronts Cedric upon his return from Paris (where he was a. attending a symposium that materialized miraculously, b. strolling the quais/visiting the Louvre to clear his head, or c. boozing and whoring to dowse his anger?).

Finally, thinking she has failed, she stops Laurent in the garden as he rushes for the train and makes a plea on behalf of his mother. The scene is perfectly choreographed as Laurent turns away and Emma's eyes tell Cedric that he has one last chance to get this right. If you're still with me here, you should go on to read or reread the postings under Unconditional Love on this board. They wrap things up much better than I could. Cheers!

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You're right, French TV (the main channels anyway) does decent dramas with good-quality acting.

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I noticed that too about the choreography in that scene just before Cédric goes to take Laurent to the train station, and Emma's look. That was indeed nicely done.

I agree with the rest of your thoughts, too.

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