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What the hell is wrong with Bobby?!


He had EVERYTHING!!!! An astonishingly beautiful, loving sexy wife, a great career, a lovely house, a good-natured son. And what does he do? He destroys it!
For what, power?
I know this is just a film, but it happens all too often in real life.
It happened briefly to me. Don't these men (and sometimes women) know how lucky they are?



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Bobby was a PUNK! Men who beat up on women aren't man enough to deal with their issues so they beat up on women to make themselves feel better. Hate me if you want to but the women are also to blame if they continue to let it happen. If he hits you once, he will do it again because you have given him the OK to do so.

I was so hoping she was going to beat the crap out of him when he showed up in Florida, she should have been prepared with baseball bats, guns, knives...etc. One good A$$ whooping and he wouldn't raise his hand to hit nobody else.

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Hate me if you want to but the women are also to blame if they continue to let it happen. If he hits you once, he will do it again because you have given him the OK to do so.

I couldn't agree more. Many women and even some men hate that I believe that. But YOU are responsible for your own safety, and must take responsibility also for your own decisions. Often a spouse will *test* you when you are first dating, to see what you will put up with and what you won't. If you allow abuse of ANY kind to go on for very long, they will figure you'll take anything and may not allow you to walk away easily.

The only thing I wonder about is how abusive cops are portrayed in films. They are always shown as giving one another a 'break' when in domestic violence situations.
I wonder if this is actually true, or is true in this day and age. Once upon a time domestic violence was looked at as a private or 'family squabble', and police were unwilling AND unable to often arrest anyone.

But I wonder if cops still cut one another a break there, or if that is a stereotype of television. I imagine plenty of cops despise abusers, cops or not.



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"Didn't he discover America?"
"Penfold, shush."

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I know what you mean ssalley2-1. I watched this last night and was really hoping that she would somehow end up *beep* him up. After she hit him with the phone on the head and sprayed that stuff into his eyes, I was hoping there's be more stuff she'd do to mess him up big time. I really hated how the movie ended seeing her laying there beaten nearly to death and barely consious, and the fact Robert was taken away and she didn't see him again for 5 years. Very sad ending to a very sad movie. I wish it would have ended with her shooting Bobby the wife beating pig, putting that psychopath out of his misery.

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I agree, I'd hoped too that she'd beat him up. But at least she fought back finally.
I thought it kind of odd how her face didn't look worse after she was beaten up both when she goes to Grace's house and when Mike finds her on the floor. The way Bobby backhanded her in the NY house and beats her up for a while, and when he finds her later (he was beyond furious, after all) you'd think her face would have been even more purple and black, with her eyes swollen shut.


"I'd say this cloud is Cumulo Nimbus."
"Didn't he discover America?"
"Penfold, shush."

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