Firstly, I love Big Eden. It's one of my favourite films. Ever. The problem is that it leaves me feeling so sad after watching it! Sometimes this feeling lasts for hours - sometimes I'm still feeling a little blue days later. I just don't get it. The film has a happy ending, after all - everyone winds up happy and in love.
Maybe it's the fact that I just don't want the film to end. Maybe it's a sadness that a place like Big Eden doesn't really exist. Perhaps the story and characters emphasise things missing in my own life. Or maybe it's simply the sad song that Pike and Henry kiss to, tugging at my heart strings?!?!?
Does anybody else feel this way after watching this movie, or am I alone?
No, - you are NOT alone. Leaves me feeling very wistful. Makes me miss my late partner & the Love that we shared. But how wonderful that it makes us feel something, right? I hope I never lose that feeling or my memories.
The movie ends with two mournful country tunes that might remind us of our dreams and wishes that never came true. Or perhaps these songs stir in us our sense of some un-grieved losses most of us carry with us, such as a lost love or a love we wished for that never was.
1st, the song Wishes lyrics include
And every year I blow out every candle And close my eyes And wish you were mine Oh, if wishes came true Then you would be mine
That's followed by the song Send a Message to My Heart with lyrics Am I still in your dreams
Do your arms reach out for mine In the still of the night Do you wish that I was with you When you turn out the lights
Send a message to my heart On the wings of the wind Let me hear your sweet voice sayin' You love me again Even though we're apart I still hold your memory
These songs also might remind us that a place like Big Eden is really more of a dream place, where the town's people look out for their gay and lesbian friends. They offer guidance, make connections, and hope people like Pike and Henry find their true love, and that they find happiness. This is a fun story but sadly not close to reality. That's sad.
blindvias - I agree it is beyond sad that people can't care for each other like they do in Big Eden, but those songs, to me anyway, reflect on what Henry & Pike's lives WERE and them kissing is what they have NOW. They have achieved the 'goal' of the question "wishing you were mine".