I misremembered this as having Gweneth Paltrow playing Pam

It's funny how that happens. My sister and I constantly got two actors mixed up, and they really don't look similar at all. We called him 'the actor who is in everything' which is kinda funny when you think it was two actors, so had double the portfolio :)

Mandela effect? ?

It's the Mandela effect.

I thought Rosamund Pike played Pam. Also, I thought Little Fockers came out in 2013-ish, when it came out in 2010! It's so creepy.