Is This the Movie With the Flagpole?
I saw a movie several years ago. I din't see it from the beginning, think I found it channel surfing.
The first story featured a young woman who was pretty much ostracized by everyone for being different. She joins the military and comes home years later.
The whole story seems bound together by a flagpole on the town square or something similar and several generations of one family that take care of it and narrate the story.
It does end with a lesbian wedding, but I don't remember if Ellen Degeneres was in it.
If that is not this movie, what movie am I thinking of?
It was on cable maybe in 2001-2003?