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I felt like sobbing (SPOILERS)


I felt like sobbing at the end of this movie. How sad! I felt like slapping Lawrence and telling him to kiss her (at least!) when she came the day before she died. I mean, not that it would have stopped her from killing herself--then again, it might have--but just take her into your stupid arms and kiss her! ARGH.

I still love this movie. This is the only movie I have seen that made me on the verge of crying. My eyes were watering.

Maybe I don't watch enough good movies.

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I saw this last night for the first time, and i DID cry at the end, and i havent actually cried at the end of a film or tv show in ages!!! I thought Lily's story was so tragic, i could feel her pain and desperation at every turn . I thought Gilllian Anderson acted superbly and deserved the award/s she won for playing this role. The script is also elegant and intelligent, i shall probably check out the book.

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The worst is that even I can join you guys in at this. And then I really mean it, I dont nearly ever cry. But tonight, when I watched this movie on television I cried for all the times I never cried and even more! It was just horrible, I probably looked like Charlize Theron in MONSTER cause my face was all red and stuff....This is just too sad, she dies in poverty and she loses her love of her life...And she was a good person and all!

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Maybe your tear ducts were functioning, but your brain must have been out visiting someone else. The performances were, without exception, execrable. Anderson's was the worst, followed closely by Eric Stoltz's totally dim effort.

Apparently, no X File fans are well enough educated to know that the story was shamelessly stolen from Flaubert's "Madame Bovary."

There was not a single professional quality performance in this doggy-bag of a film, not one. The dialog was as stilted and dull as the actors who mouthed the words.

But, despite the general horridness with which this film stank up the set all around her, Anderson still stood out as the worst of the worst, with her breathy, uncertain, and downright nervous parody of a wealthy American woman of the period. When an actor can stand out as a shambles in the midst of a film that is nothing but shambles, then the low point of cinema has been definitely established, and this film is it.

And, no, you do NOT watch enough good movies. If you did, you'd have realized that this one is a powerful stinker.

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Madame Bovary?? Where are the similarities in these two stories? Emma Bovary was trapped in a dull marriage and spent most of that story seeking excitement and diversion outside her marriage. Conversely, the unmarried Lily Bart had already experienced plenty of "excitement" of the wrong kind in her gambling at cards, and was desperately seeking financial security and social status by marrying a wealthy man, which she never achieved.

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There's criticism, and then there's trolling.

Do you really feel the need to attack a user, just because they have a differing opinion to you? I'd expect to find trolls on the more mainstrem movie forums, but not here. The only difference is that you're a troll with a dictionary.

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Say what you will about the movie, Mr. rdconger, but to compare Edith Wharton with Flaubert shows you truly lack a knowledge of the formerly mentioned author. The problems of the main heroines of both stories are truly quite polarly different. Lily Bart is dealing with bad reputation preventing her from acquiring a dull marriage, which in this case, would ironically be what would have saved her life. She has been raised to appreciate the finer things in life, and has a result of having not been trained to do anything else out of common expectancy that her beauty will result in a good match, amounted debt. Madame Bovary is a farmer's daughter who acquires wealth by marriage and finds her life dull enough to engage sexually with "finer gentlemen" to entertain herself. There are similarities, I suppose in their mutual acquisitions of debt (though through very different circumstances) and their suicides, but other than that, it's apples and oranges.

As for your comment about the performances, I could see (having read the book) that you would be able to see it as a little over the top, but accusing the actors of simply stating the lines is not a consideration. Whatever the performances, Ms. Anderson's especially, might have lacked in contrast to the original story, they are not to be found wanting passion. It's all there. I do feel that perhaps a lot of the personal containment in upstart social circles was lost a little, but really, would a movie where people say the things they mean as though they don't want to seem as though they mean them for fear of being judged be terribly entertaining?

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Don't listen to rdconger hes just bitter. A troll that goes around the boards related to Gillian Anderson.
Gillian Anderson is talanted. period.
If she bothers you so much Mr. Rdconger than dont got to her boards go to someone who you think is talented.
And yes I know that you can say what ever you please and state your opinion and you are entitled to it. But your arent doing that anymore you're insulting people for their opinions and thats just rude.

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The comparison with Flaubert's masterpiece only concerns the outside of the two stories, mr. Conger. The flesh and bones of both the novels and their heroines are totally different.

Terence Davies did an intense job directing this film, and though I had to get accustomed with Gillian Anderson's acting (I'm not an X-files fan) she grew on me with her against-the-grain interpretation of the 'talentless' but headstrong character. Therefore I felt grief at the end, because I finally understood what she really wanted (however impossible that was there and then).

Because you did not like this film nor its actors, there's no need to snob others that do like it. That's plain arrogance.





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"no X File fans are well enough educated"

Wow, classy. Such strong arguments!

Actually, it's you who doesn't get the subtleness of 1-the outstanding story, and no, Wharton didn't copy Flaubert; 2-GA's acting: Lily herself acts during most of her social encounters, then her mask slowly crumbles and she reveals her true self. this is very clear throughout the film. As many has already pointed out, GA can express Bart's feelings just through her eyes. To me that's subtle.

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I loved this movie, though many friends and even my mother have not. In fact, my mom can never get past the first five minutes of it...she says it is slow moving and boring. And one of my friends watched it with me and at the end of the movie (when I had been sobing from the last thirty minutes of the movie) she just said, "Why didn't she just get over him?"

I don't understand how they can feel that way about the movie...but I guess to each their own. But, no matter what others think, I loved the movie and it makes me cry every time. It's truly sad...yet beautiful.

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If you loved the movie, then I'd highly recommend reading the book. It's much more poignant than the movie and very poetic.

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True. It's so beautiful. I'm writing my honors thesis on the book, and I can't wait!

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It's one of the greatest novels ever! But the movie does it justice.

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Yes, it has such a sad ending. I've watched it many times, and each time I find myself begging her silently to marry Rosedale, or someone! I keep trying to save her from the fate I know is coming in the end.

Grace was so insensitive -- I couldn't have turned Lily away like that when she begged her for help. Jealousy! I hope none of them had a night's sleep after she passed. She made some mistakes, but she was also taken advantage of greatly
and didn't deserve such a tragic ending.

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It was a heartbreaking end to Lily's struggles. I wanted to grab the bottle from her and give her comfort... when Lawrence first eyes the burnt letters, I felt a sense of frustration only because by that point, we knew Lily was gone and there was nothing Lawrence could have done to bring her back. The acting during that scene, on Stoltz's part, is very tender. The film itself is incredibly resonating... saw it for the first time last night and lay in bed thinking about what I had just seen. The silky smooth pacing, delightfully understated acting, delicate soundtrack, and absorbing story make for one of my favourite films. I was completely consumed by the story and cared very much about Lily. Gillian Anderson's performance is so vibrant and evocative. I felt her regrets of how she handled money, I sunk with her when the settlements she begins to endure start to overshadow the vibrance she exuded in the beginning 'chapter' of the film. Her line delivery is very precise and can be so starkly contrastive... from the tenderness of 'Why is it that when we meet, we always play this elaborate game?' to the desperation in 'I am at the end of my teather' in the hopes of Grace easing her financial issues, she does a fabulous job of portraying Lily's attributes.

We talked between the rooms until the moss had reached our lips.

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The cast did seem out of place at first glance, but each actor and actress dissolved into their characters. Of the supporting cast, I thought Linney and especially Stoltz shone brightest, the former exuding such deceitfulness and the latter resisting the sort of 'heroic leading man' type. Selden is a very ambiguous character and Stoltz captures that brilliantly. There's an impalpable aura about him that works completely in the context of his shared scenes with Anderson, particularly during the conversation when Lily asks why they never see each other, after we know that Selden thinks about her at any rate. I think Stoltz and Anderson had such lovely chemistry.

Why is it that when we meet, we always play this elaborate game?

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My eyes started to mist when Lawrence snatches the letters out of the fire, looks at them and exclaims "Lily!"
I didn't read the book but I really didn't understand the way people acted. I was angry with Selden at the end, but also with Lily! Damned idiots!




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You felt like sobbing??? EVERYBODY felt like sobbing!!!
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