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just saw this because something similar happened to me...

posted 11 years ago by maxine_mitchell
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When i was 20, my long term (26 year- old) boyfriend left me when i told him i was prego, immediately ran off to another girl (the girl knew about me and didn't care at all). At the time, I had been raised in a third world country, i was upper middle class and he was well... very rich. I wasn't "good enough" for him. I moved to the USA with plans of abortion or adoption but ended up keeping my child. I'm happy I kept him. For a while i struggled but I met my own Forney. I have continued my education and I haven't had more children until I'm ready for it.

So I was feeling a bit down remembering what that man did to me. Very painful. I endured all those nights pregnant and alone, I was miserable. I had never seen this movie and my sis (another single mom) suggested I watch it. Definitely helped cope with some emotions I went through but Novalee was way stronger for sure.... and younger! Men who do this really have no right to be in the child's life... totally selfish.

I hated Lexie...! Reminds me of so many dumb women that keep getting pregnant. She isn't giving her kids a better life by just adding more to a broken home. Happy she found a good husband in the end, maybe not the hottest but definitely has a heart.

[–] jorgemgarcia25 8 years ago

I understand the feeling of devastation that comes with being abandoned by the person you love most. I see that you still have lingering pain over it. I get it. But it troubles me that you might be focusing too much on the rich and hot guy who hurt you, and not enough on your Forney. I hope that you're treasuring him the way you should. You should consider yourself lucky that you came across a good man and you were given a second chance at the right love. Not everyone is so lucky. I've been waiting 12 years and I haven't had my "second chance". I'm hoping you love your Forney enough to put aside the past and have more children. If not, let him go, otherwise you're being as selfish as your ex boyfriend.