I don't think I ever understood the dynamic between them. I get that they were no longer together, but he says they were great friends and I tihkn he said ni the mailroom somehting about only three months of being friends? I don't know. Please Help.
shareIt's been awhile since I've watched this, but I think in the mailroom he said that they broke it off 3 days before she died. Not that they knew eachother for three months. He was saying that they were great friends but basically he couldn't marry her becuase of that very reason. He cared for her and most definitely loved her..but only in a friends kind of way. They split up three days before she was killed he was saying. Although it's never actually said in the film I always assumed they had known eachother all their lives. Also he said that he knew he wanted to leave 6 months before her death. Maybe thats what you got confused with?
shareAlso, in the courtroom scene Joe said that Diana was the one who didn't want to go through with marriage. Maybe Joe and Diana had a mutual understanding or something
of their feelings in their relationship and both wanted to be just friends?
He said that Diana had a way of bringing out the truth, and that it was she that told him that _he_ didn't want to go through with the wedding (as in "made him aware of his own feelings").
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Just saw it and thought I'd help fill in the details -
Joe and Diana were together for 3 years (As he established when he took the stand).
Joe realized about six months before the movie that he only loved her like a friend, but continued going with the wedding idea because that is what he felt Diana wanted and needed. The same reason for him partnering up with Dan, Diana's dad. When they moved to the town three weeks before, Joe believed that the rest of the love part would follow, but it didn't. Diana, in her wickedly honest manner, got him to admit that he loved her, but wasn't in love with her. Diana asked him when he knew that he didn't feel that way, he admited that it was six months before. So they broke off the engagement. Three days later, Diana was going to meet with her father to tell him about the broken engagement.
That's why Joe blames himself. He felt that if he had acted on what he wanted six months before (i.e. to break it off) she wouldn't have been in the cafe that day and would still be alive.