This is a very interesing discussion. It is so true that many expats of Asian/Muslim descent are so liberal and happy in western culture when they first arrive there, but after a few years they start to 'rebel' and begin to hate it and everything it stands for because it is so different and 'wrong' to the culture they grew up in, so they become like a previous poster said 150% devoted to the culture they left behind.
And so this happens they marry a local western woman when they are still new and then revert to something more fundamentalist/traditional over the years and become ultra conservative, yet they are married to the same woman and horror of horrors their children are growing up to be one of the despised 'them' of the adoptive culture.
This creates a HUGE dilemma and sometimes these men 'kidnap' their still young children and go back to their country for good. The poor western wife is either left behind without her children or has to go to the husband's country as well for the sake of her marriage and children.
There is a blog called Suzie of Arabia which represents a very POSITIVE version of this scenario and the move Not Without My Daughter which is a negative version.
The other scenario is when the man marries a western woman for immigration purposes. This is a horrible act when the woman is unawares of the true motives of her 'husband'. Any man who brings children into such a marriage is plain evil and the poster above whos neighbour had done this deserves this 'biggest regret of his life' he should suffer.
These days such marriages are more of a business transaction when say an East European girl in the UK agrees to marry an Asian guy so he can get residency, but for a hefty sum of several thousands of dollars. This way they both win and never live together let alone have children.
I don't condone the latter but it is far better than a man totally deceiving an innocent woman and then bringing children into such a false bull of a marriage which he hates being in!
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