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deborah's theory about connie and young women


her theory about why connie wants to be with young women instead of those his own age is so right on. it is the awe in a naive girl he seeks. he wants someone to worship at his altar of personal gloriousness. an older, experienced, wise woman and maybe even a younger woman who gets mad enough and permanently takes the scales off her eyes to his ways won't suffer his foolishness gladly.

good little speech she gave and some awesome acting by jean smart, one of my favorite actresses!

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Yes. And Jean Smart was excellent!

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In other words all the best parts have been dried out of the older woman. She hasn't really gained any wisdom, she's just lost her openness and sense of wonder. I mean look at the mother, could she be more unpleasant and hateful? Men of course also become more jaded, but they can still delight in youth rather than resent it.

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Mrs. Sloane is certainly miserable, but that doesn't alter the clarity with which she sees Connie. She sees just what he is. He preys upon young women to satisfy his ego. Unworldly, naive young girls lack the life experience to see his vanity, his need for admiration, his hopeless alcoholism, and his financial exploitation of them.

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Doesn't that sort of cheapen what's great about having someone view you with awe? If she's dumb as rocks or naive isn't that like lowering the basketball hoop? Wouldn't it be more amazing to catch the attention of a worldly, accomplished, and sophisticated woman with a high bar--someone who thoughtfully scrutinizes your work and then finds it remarkable?

Men who prey on young women smack of insecurity and weakness.

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I have friend who only dates younger women. (He's in his mid late 40s and never dates older than 30. Usually mid-20s or younger). And that's exactly it. He likes being the wise one. The one the younger woman looks up and is in awe of.

I should add that he too works as a photographer, but really spends most of his time as a perpetual grad student. And none of his relationships last very long.

He has said, he cannot date women in his own age group because they have expectations he cannot (doesn't) want to meet. (Like a real job and stability).



If you can't walk and talk/text at the same time, do the rest of us a favor and get out of the way.

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