Was meeting men (or women) as easy as the show indicates in the 90's and early 2000's?
Was it as easy as a guy holding the elevator door and by the time you reach your floor he asks you out for dinner?
Notes: yes, I understand the show was created for entertainment purposes so certain things are a little exaggerated.
Also, keep in mind that this was written by someone who was born in the early 90's.
Why would you think it would be drastically different than it is now? Would cell phones and the internet make people just not bother today?
I would guarantee a lot of the ways people meet are different from real life because then and now, most people didn't meet significant others in interesting ways. The show wasn't trying to be accurate, it was trying to be interesting. Interesting is meeting people in a variety of ways, having different types of men to date, and having a high number of them because periods of being single isn't exactly dramatic or funny.
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Consider the daffodil. And while you're doing that I'll be over here looking through your stuff.
Yeah, actually cellphones and technology has changed the way people communicate with each other and it certainly has altered the way people meet new people. It's shocking that you think otherwise...
shareYou've got that right!! Life is very different with cellphones/technology and IMHO not in the best way. Watching people glued to their cellphones while with others is the usual these days. People having dinner at restaurants or at a coffee shop together and still glued to their phones, not even speaking. How weird is that?!
shareHow has a cell phone kept people from meeting? Do explain before acting all snotty this time. People don't tend to date by calling people randomly on cell phones.
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Consider the daffodil. And while you're doing that I'll be over here looking through your stuff.
I think she means that you're often on your phone when there's a lull. Like on an elevator or in a waiting room. Waiting in line for something. Or eating alone at the bar before meeting up with someone. And those would have, in the past, been opportune times to just start talking to the person next to you. If you're on the phone, no handsome stranger is going to interrupt you and start a conversation.
shareI agree, when I am on the train or waiting rooms or walking down the street, nearly everyone is on their phone talking or texting.When I was younger I used to fiddle with my phone not really doing anything on it because everyone else was.It is to the point that I have to have a phone or something to occupy myself or I would be staring doing nothing as opposed to talking to someone. Even in stores people are blocked off on their phones with their Bluetooth loudly talking.
shareYou call HER snotty? Are you serious? Do you SEE what you write?
shareDon't you just love the irony of the statement. Of all people Moonlighty is calling someone else snotty? It is simultaneously sad and funny. Reminds me of Trump, who thinks he has a good disposition to be President.
shareSad and funny is a good way to describe it. I mean, it is kind of hilarious. Wow.
shareI've not been born in the 90s, so I don't have a first-hand experience... but I think that it must not have been that different.
I can see how our relationships are drastically alerted by the technology, but I think that we still meet people in similar ways- through friends, work, parties etc. However, at the same time, I think it is very unlikely that women of the 90s were just walking around picking up guys in the elevators (or very few confident women did). Otherwise, it is very normal to just stop at a bar and start chatting with someone (it happens to me very often). It really just depends on the situation and the person. Most people (both women and men) would be just unable to stop someone randomly and ask them out. In my whole life, I met only one guy that did this.
Also, they had slightly too many relationships for me. I felt like it was quite unmanageable for one. At some moments, I even felt slightly weird that there has been so little men in my life...
I don't know I'm with OP in this discussion. I was born in the early eighties and Sex and the City came out when I was in High School. I can't imagine meeting guys the way these girls meet guys. I mean I was born in 1982 so maybe I'm basically considered old just barely millennial so I can't imagine dating without being able to text someone or call someone on a cell. These girls just outright meet these men and it just is so intimidating I can't even imagine. Even though there was no social media when I was growing up I can't imagine dating without social media if that makes any sense.
shareyou sound like a serious idiot. claim you're born in 82 but sound about 14 yrs old.
also you must not be very attractive because any attractive woman gets hit on and asked out everywhere, yes including elevators, malls, at work, at starbucks etc. every attractive female friend i have is asked out by randoms in real life on a regular basis....ive witnessed it. they actually find it annoying.
the women on this show were all gorgeous and successful professionals in Manhattan and it is not at all exaggerated that confident men would ask them out in ways shown on the show.
i guess it would be hard for shy and/or ugly women from small towns to understand but thats not what these characters were.
Wow,why are you insulting her. So if people aren't throwing themselves at her she must be ugly?
sharenever said she was ugly but if people think that this kind of stuff doesnt happen it is probably because they are not very attractive. thats not really an insult most people are average looking. but beautiful women literally have to beat men away in public. i have beautiful female friends (im a gay man) and every time im with them people approach them constantly. to a point where it is an annoyance.
HE is the child CLEARLY. It's so sad when people are so unhappy with themselves they have to reflect that onto others. Clearly he's not happy with his looks since he's insulting a complete stranger. He obviously must not get hit on often and is a little bitter about it. Bless his heart.
shareHow about the believability of 4 mildly attractive women always dating guys who went into such richly successful careers after their modeling days were over, lol?
shareYes, it was easier in the 90's. I was 18 in 1991, so I can tell. When you wanted to ask someone out and felt the moment was right, you just did. Nowadays you maybe want to check people's social media profile first, and then maybe contact them there, but back then you didn't have these opportunities. So you kind of catched the moment, when it apparead, because it might be the only moment.
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