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Which of the girls would you be friends with?

posted 7 years ago by finalconfluence
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Which of the girls would you want to be friends with?

All four of them had their merits and their bad sides. I personally would be friends with Miranda. I loved her cynicism and her straight forwardness. Yes, she was a bit judgmental, but she also showed she really cared about her friends. When she walked behind Charlotte for example, when she found out she had a low chance at pregnancy.

Samantha seems like a lot of fun, but she also seemed like a fair weather friend. If you didn't fit into her lifestyle anymore she would ditch you, like pushing Miranda into the cab after she had a baby. I know there were also times were she cared, she did babysit Brady eventually, but this is just a vibe I got from her.

Carrie is also fun, but she's also a bit self-obsessed. I don't know if I could deal with her talking about her own problems and completely ignoring yours.

[–] perfect_lover2012 7 years ago

I could only be close friends with Miranda and I could hang out with Carrie and Samantha but not be super close with them. Charlotte would be pretty annoying so maybe friendly but not friends.

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[–] FlyingTampon 7 years ago

Miranda and Charlotte for sure. Carrie and Samantha were too self-absorbed and over-the-top. They'd be good "party friends" but I wouldn't develop any super close or tight-knit bonds either of them.

[–] loobyhandicrafts 7 years ago

Be friends with Charlotte as my friends say I am a Charlotte. But I did like her from the start. I also be friends with Sam as she can help me out with guy problems if I needed advice. Miranda would be okay but hate her judgment but not be friends with Carrie much as she doesn't connect to me in the show.

[–] lrdcharlton 7 years ago

Miranda had the most sound advice, people call it judgement because she says things you don't want to hear.

[–] HalfBloodPrincess1967 7 years ago

I agree! Miranda is my favorite, and the most realistic. I would be friends with her.

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[–] Princess_Buttercup87 7 years ago

Miranda...That's pretty much it. I wouldn't be able to put up with Carrie.

[–] monstermayhem32 7 years ago

I would prefer Samantha as a friend.

[–] sonomagirl2120 7 years ago

Miranda was easily my favorite, too, plus we shared a lot of the same interests. i.e. baseball, law, reading biographies...

[–] JadedMermaid 7 years ago

Hmm...I honestly think Samantha and I would get along. Minus her sex crazed side, she's very funny and doesn't judge or point fingers because she's no better. She's the kind of person you could tell your most embarrassing, dark secrets too and she'd probably say something like "Hey, we've all been there, don't worry about it" and then buy you a drink

Miranda would be second because I liked her honesty and how she gave it to you like it was
Carrie would be third because, like Samantha, she was never the right one to judge you
Charlotte would be last because she'd just get on my nerves

[–] LovesConfusingJoy 7 years ago

It annoys me when people say Samantha doesn't judge when she totally did whenever someone had a life that wasn't like her own. She's hardly the kind, welcoming person.

[–] Murphed87 7 years ago

Yeah, her supposed non-judgmental side was not necessarily a good thing. She didn't judge when someone did something they should be judge for, in that sense she was an enabler. But if you wanted to get married and god forbid have a baby, you were cliche and she would dump you in a minute. Then to make herself feel better have an "I dont have a baby" shower. She had to be forced to acknowledge Brady. Also, she wasn't into relationships because she was strong and independent, she couldn't handle relationships and was too self-centered, another falsehood of the character, she was the most emotionally weak of the group.

[–] LovesConfusingJoy 7 years ago

Completely agree. I think she built up walls because underneath she was very sensitive. I think it was so clear that if that's not what they intended, they really didn't write her all that well IMO.

[–] Murphed87 7 years ago

Lol, spot on! One aspect I dont think they were clear on was if Samanthas sexuality was reprehensible or progressive. They would have these episodes were it was clear that her sleeping habits were either directly or indirectly linked to bad outcomes, yet the moral of the story was totally lost and she didn't learn her lesson ex. Sleeping with Charlotte brother, sleeping with married men, cheating and using men for sex and then getting offended when the same is done to her. Where they trying to punish her or celebrate her lack of boundaries. She was more human in the beginning and I thought she showed depth when she was with James and went to couples counseling or took that guy with the bad breath and transformed him into a stylish dork. At some point they decided she was better as an over the top joke.

[–] happyphantom9 7 years ago

Miranda and Charlotte. I wouldn't say that I'm "exactly like" one or both of them, but they both have qualities and interests that I strongly relate to. And they come off as very good friends, despite their flaws. Everyone has flaws and annoying traits, but it doesn't mean they're not a good person or friend.

Perhaps I could be friends with Carrie. She gets a lot of flack for being flighty and self-absorbed - which she is - but throughout the show she has been shown to be very caring towards her friends.

Samantha - no way. She can be entertaining to watch and has some hilarious dialogue, but I just can't see myself being friends with someone like that in real life.

[–] blondie27 7 years ago

Charlotte for sure and maybe Miranda. A big HELL NO to Carrie and no to Samantha also.

[–] WishfulDreamer 7 years ago

Agree 100%, happyphantom, with your choice of Miranda and Charlotte.

I don't know if Samantha and I would have anything in common, as much as I love her character and how loyal she is.

Carrie I could tolerate at times...I would have to shut down the Nina Katz-esque talk (regurgitating complaints over and over again). But there were times she showed she could be a great friend.

[–] sakura_droplet 7 years ago

I'd most likely be friends with Charlotte. I'm not quite as... prudish as her, but if I'm totally honest she's the one I'm most like of the four, and thus the one I'd have things in common with to socialise with. Art galleries, sophisticated restaurants, cute little cafés, and so on.

I could see myself being sort of casual friends with Samantha, even though I'm least like her, because I believe in that old saying that 'opposites attract.' I think it's good sometimes to be with people who can take you out of your comfort zone, plus I found her hilarious and admired her brashness.

Although I loved Miranda in the show, I'm not sure I can imagine myself being friends with her if that makes sense. I can relate to her cynicism and often found her general outlook to be both funny and succint, but as far as hanging out with her, etc... can't see it.

Carrie would be last. Way too self-centered and irritating.

Just a Jeannie in a bottle...

[–] kristen1165 7 years ago

I wouldn't want to be friends with Miranda or Samantha. Both are too negative.

[–] LovesConfusingJoy 7 years ago

If I had to chose just one, I would pick Carrie. I'd admire her ability to be so easy going, she hardly every worries.