Coming out


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This film is a rare gem. It takes a story that--although true--seems nearly incredible and renders it with such authenticity that it is entirely believable. Between the visuals, e.g. war-torn Berlin, 1940s styles, etc., and the utterly convincing performances from every actor in the cast, it never strikes a false note. Among the many powerful scenes, for me the most gut-wrenching and ultimately beautiful is the scene when Felice "comes out" to Lilly as Jewish. As a gay man, I immediately noted the parallels with my coming out: putting oneself in an utterly vulnerable position, revealing a long-held, potentially explosive secret to a loved one and waiting for the reaction with hardly a clue what it will be. Even though I've seen the film several times now, when that scene occurs, I relive it (and my own experience) each time like the first time. I can hardly hold back the tears of joy and relief when Lilly embraces Felice. Any anti-Semitism the surrounding culture might have instilled in Lilly is burned away in the intensity of her love for Felice. A great story made into one of the greatest homophile films. I only hope that Aimee and Jaguar are together again wherever they are.


"Tell you what . . . the truth is . . . sometimes I miss you so much I can hardly stand it."--Jack Twist

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Very beautiful analysis. :-) I've been wanting to see this film for some time now, I've read the synopsis on Wikipedia, and it says that a character named Ilse had an affair with Felice but then was caught by Lilly with her husband? Or something like that? I thought all of the female characters were suppose to be gay. But then I figured that they probably don't explicitly say what their sexualities are, so I guess Ilse is suppose to be bisexual? I know, I should watch the film and see for myself, but I'm curious to know if that character is known for being bi and having affairs with men and women. I like to see more bi characters on film since my brother is bi.

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Watch the film so you can stop speculating. You will sound more thoughtful.

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You make a great point! The nature of professing or confessing to be "Jewish" ... at this time and place ... is remarkably similar to a gay coming out. Remarkably they are completely different things (sexual preference vs ethnicity/religion). This unto-itself makes this a very special film that could generating intense discussions.

Let me add that Nazis were almost as heavy handed to Gays. This is a little discussed aspect of WW2 ... like the Roma ... and recommend you check out films ...

A love To Hide (2005 French)

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0444518/?ref_=fn_al_tt_7

Bent(1997)

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0118698/?ref_=fn_al_tt_1



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