That type of mature, polite and well-wishing breakup can generally only happen when no serious breaches, betrayals, bad treatment, disrespect, or abuse has taken place.
Kathleen and Frank had a very respectful, calm relationship in which no-one behaved abusively or damagingly. The only reason for their breakup was that they realized they weren't completely passionate about it or each other, even though nothing else was actually wrong.
It was easy for them to break up nicely and probably remain friends.
On the other hand, when a couple are breaking up because they are having serious rifts, terrible compatibility, and either one or both have emotional issues that lead to emotional or physical abuse, shoddy treatment, fiery argument and serious fights, there's not a lot of ways in hell that breakup is going to take place with courtesy, respect or "maturity."
Instead one person is going to storm off forever, or move out in a hurry, or an acrimonious fight is going to be the last exchange.
I've had both nice breakups and a couple of really bad ones. The bad ones took place in a setting that had already become ugly, hurtful and painful.
The nice ones took place in relationships where we never had a bad word, we just weren't really into it.
Also the guy I'm still friends with today had a very sunny personality to start with. We just didn't want the same things.
My worst breakup was with someone pretty much mentally ill and very, very aggressive in nature to begin with, who actually admitted to taking pride in being frightening to people. What a sweetheart.....not..... I'll never get involved with a moody, troubled person again -- I have too much of my own!
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