This was actually the pivotal scene of the movie for me. It illustrated the prime differences in how women and men think. It illustrated exactly how selfish women are. All Andi cared about was how the "relationship" worked for her, and how happy SHE was. She didn't think for a second that the guys may not have been happy and satisfied. It truly shouldn't have mattered that Jeff slept with another woman, but since she was the "Apex of the Triangle" and in control, she wanted to possess and control the men. When he told her "how you feel isn't the paramount issue of life. We establish the rules, and play the game. It's called honor." For women, their feelings are paramount, but they don't consider the feelings of others.
Also, this film showed how women gravitate towards Alpha males like Jeff, while though she had affection for Marty, she wasn't drawn to him the same way because he was largely a weak man. Anytime she started rambling on, Jeff had a retort. He didn't ASK her what she wanted - he TOLD her what she wanted, and she submitted to him. Meanwhile, Marty tried to continually cut Jeff off at the knees to curry favor with Andi (a gutless move, since Jeff did the dirty work with his wife so that he could come on the trip and make some money).
This is one of my favorite films (I've watched it numerous times on cable, and have it in DVD), because despite the setting and certain plot points (them leaving their families, the "triangle" relationship), it really rang true to me regarding relationships between men and women, expectations, how we communicate (or DON'T communicate). I thought the director used those drastic actions on the part of Jeff and Marty to illustrate his point.
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