I'm on Tamora`s side!
Honor the memory of this great Lady and curses upon Titus Andronicus and his family of bloodthirsty murderers and scheming politicians!
We have a situation here where a vicious imperialist has been waging a decades long war of conquest. Imagine the bloodshed and destruction. This is a psychopath who loves war above all else and has encouraged the great majority of his many sons to die in battle.
OK,Rome was warlike and maybe had to expand in order to survive. Give him the benefit of the doubt for a second. Many cultures have glorified a noble death.
But wait, there's more! He really is a horrible nut job. He practices human sacrifice--condemned in Western civilization since early Greek culture. Furthermore, his victim is a nobleman who had surrendered to him.
He also tries to set himself up as the power behind the throne by becoming the emperor's main powerful supporter and son in law. But when the marriage to his daughter doesn't go off as planned and his few remaining sons disobey him, he kills one of them. Just strikes him down like it was no big deal!
I don't blame him for avenging the rape and mutilation of his daughter, but with all the shown and implied horror and carnage in the story, it's myopic to see Lavinia`s suffering as the worst thing going on here.
Tamora, on the other hand, merely had the bad luck to be the queen of a perpetually invaded nation. She must have run things very well to keep Titus and his larger, wealthier army at bay for so long.
Finally, she's defeated and dragged back to Rome as a trophy. She watches one of her sons be chopped up in a hideous ritual archaic even in those times.
Then she's given as a gift to the Roman Emperor who like an idiot gives her a great deal of power. She bravely exploited this to subvert Rome from within as much as possible, rather than simply living out her life in luxury as she could have.
Here are the usual charges against Tamora:
--She's committing adultery against the Emperor and is thus a traitor.
My answer: She chose Aaron as her lover. Her "husband", though he got sentimental about her to his detriment, is her captor and rapist. In fact Tamora and Aaron are the only examples of consensual sex in the story.
--She and Aaron encourage her remaining sons to do bad things like rape, murder and framing people for crimes.
My answer: Again, she's lived her whole life at war, has suffered a devastating defeat and is fighting back the only way she can. What's happening to Goth women under Roman rule?
--She loves Aaron and he's bad, so she must be bad.
My answer: Aaron loves her, her sons and his own son. I think his claims of being motivated by evil for evil`s sake are merely boasts made to shock moralistic hypocrites. He's a ruthless fighter like she is, but not evil.