SPOILER ALERT! The husband
I know I am late to the party and there is a lot going on here, but I felt like it was so mean that her husband just glossed over her birthday and seconds later said he loved her more than anything in the world. She asked for something beautiful and he was a scholar and a spiritual man. The Rebbe who passed was his idol and he had way more regard for his wife.
You can live on fishes but you can't live on wishes