It is kind of preposterous.
Who would believe that a woman like Jennifer Aniston could not find a decent man to be both her boyfriend and father of her child? And she would have to settle for a gay guy? It is kind of preposterous.
Not sure she is settling. It's harder to find a good guy when you are pregnant or have a kid and you are in your thirties.
Besides, she did end up with the cop.
Inside every cynical person is a disappointed idealist.
I disagree. There a lot of "good guys" out there. If the woman is a "good woman", she can easily find many good guys, especially in a big city like New York. The key is to be honest, a good judge of character, and not to force the "child" in a guy's face.
But first of all, she shouldn't be worrying about a boyfriend until after the baby is born. Then --- I know of many single mothers who have great boyfriends. And/or healthy social lives.
She wasn't looking for a boyfriend, she was looking for a roommate and just happened to fall in love.
Unless you've been a single mom, you have no idea how hard it is to find a man willing to take on kids who are not his, especially if you are in your thirties. You may know some lucky women, but that doesn't apply to everyone. It doesn't matter how good a woman is, its still tough.
Inside every cynical person is a disappointed idealist.
She found a roommate. But he wasn't romantically available.
No single mom should be looking for a man who will take on kids. The single moms I know --- date, have boyfriends and the eventually find a man who accepts them as a mother.
They don't need a man to help. They take care of their own families. But they have a social life and a love life. Eventually they find a man worthy of a relationship.
But they don't "need" a man to help. They take care of their own kids.
Wow is that clueless. The man would be a stepfather, he should have lots to do with the kids. I didnt say she would need him, but its absurd to think the man would have no role in a kids life.
A lot of men out there with no kids don't get that the kids come first. You can't just hire a sitter and go. They can't deal with the idea that in group activities, they have to share attention. It's easier once they have their own, but finding someone willing to make those sacrifices for someone else's kids isn't easy.
I reject your reality and substitute my own.
The single mothers I know (at least the happy healthy ones) don't introduce their boyfriends to their kids until they have dated a while and they know they are serious. Sure, they tell their dates they have kids, they just don't meet. So no, their boyfriends are not allowed to be stepfathers and they have no role in their children's life.
If they can't go or don't want to go anywhere because of their mother responsibilities, they just tell their friends --- male or female --- they can't. If their male friends can't deal with them having parental demands then they know they are not stepfather material. But their kids come first, before their boyfriends.
Many of these women are not looking for a stepfather for their kids. If they do find someone, it is after a long process of dating, getting to know him well, him putting up with her having parental obligations, and him slowly starting to spend time with her kids. Nobody said it was easy.
Lose the 'tude, Sarah.
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