what?!?! (spoilers)

i dont like this movie but does anybody know the name of the song James Gandolfini plays when he takes Sean Penns girl in his apartment and beats her?

I just fail to understand what the point of this film was. I'll admit to being pretty confused at the closing credits because no person with even one decent bone in their body could leave their 3 kids behind and drive off with some nutcase.

"Kids, you tried your best and you failed miserably. The lesson is, never try."

"Which character are u supposed 2 like in this film, in films u have to like atleast one"

I would like to know where this is written, because I would like to own that book to save some money on toilet paper, people seem to have a problem with this film because of the choices the characters make. I do not get this at all. I want to see different types of movies about diverse types of characters, not everyone on earth is going to make the same choices we make, and I want to see movies about these people. It's not an endorsement its just a story, would you not watch a movie with Hitler in it because you don't agree with genocide? Just say "I won't watch movies with murder, rape, drug use, promiscuity, drinking or smoking" and enjoy your Disney films, oh wait Bambi, Lion King, Finding Nemo all have killing in them, well enjoy sitting in your home with the curtains drawn.

I agree with 1011 - it really is all pretty clear. A previous poster said that she left without even sleeping on it, but I feel like she has been thinking about it for ten years. A fantastic movie. Brilliant actors. Makes you laugh and cry.

Remember, though we are supposed to believe that she is terribly in love with Eddie, she never writes or calls a single time for all the years he has been gone. How is that love?

BRAVO!!! At least one person in these forums understands this movie. Damn, I wondered when I was going to find someone who wasn't complaining about the morals in it or bitching about smoking while pregnant, leaving three kids, drinking while pregnant, loving a nut job, etc.

I can't read comments like yours anymore without writing: how in the &*% can you endorse this narcissistic, borderline personality behavior? There's nothing romantic, or melancholy about it. What the hell is wrong with you? No one is meant to be liked in this movie. Get your &%* head together. Families get wrecked like this and we all suffer. This is truly nothing to laugh at. And, also, quit with the "less acceptable for women to leave their kids" bull &^$. Do you have any idea what children that have their mothers (and dads) abandon them do to them? Spend some time with one or better yet, marry one, you wouldn't be laughing. This is absolutely &%$ ridiculous.

I really liked her character, I find it strange that people are so outraged that she leaves her kids.... it's not like she is leaving the country or anything. There are plenty of films were a man leaves his children to go get revenge on baddies etc. I dont see how just because you choose to leave your children in custody of there father (in the home where they grew up and are secure) rather then take them with you to live with a man with a history of mental health problems, you are an irrasponsable mother. Is it that all fathers are automatically worse parents and cannot be trusted??? Or perhaps once married with kids you should just NEVER EVER split up no matter what. Hmmmm it's all very strange to me.

You mean the black screen that was 3/4 of the way through the movie with the big white letters that said in cursive "Ten Years Later..." wasn't good enough for you?

I see this as a very confused woman who does whatever is in front of her. She was forever getting in trouble when she was with Eddie, and when a strong personality like Travolta's character has, enters her life she is like a child. She wants to be taken care of, and Travolta is the guy to do it. She says, when Eddie gets out, that she still loves Eddie more, that Travolta knows this. So they have discussed this situation. Also, Travolta treats Robin Penn in a rather tough-guy way. He's a very good and responsible guy, but I can see how Robin Penn's character isn't really in love with him. He's more of a rescuer. He swears at the kids, treats Penn's daughter in a mean way then apologizes, but he acts like this throughout his time on screen. I think that both of the Penns are playing children in grown-up bodies. Travolta is lucky to be shed of Robin (I cannot remember her character's name). He doesn't feel that way at the time, but he will.

I know a dysfunctional couple just like this. Believe me when I tell you, Robin's character thought she was moving on. But she did know that she was weak to Sean's character. That's why when John Travolta tried to be reasonable and suggest they all go to dinner so Sean could have visitation with his daughter and become extended family, she tried to tell him she is incapable of just seeing Sean. As long as she kept him totally out of their lives, she wanted to stay with John. But seeing him again and his alpha-ness will to be with her, her own will power/reason goes put the Window.