Was anyone else disturbed by the fact that Kevin Costners character was only supposed to have sex with the main female character so that her and her husband could have a child; and that the husband got killed defending her and yet at the end she was in love with Costner's character and the husband was basically forgotten? Just wondering.
shareCan it be adultery when the husband is dead ?
shareWell when they slept together he wasn't dead. And since the reason for their whole union was to give her and her husband a child it just seems like she is being unfaithful at the end.
shareKeep in mind by the end of the film, nearly a year has passed and this woman went through hell back at the camp. Yeah she cheated on her husband, but the guy isnt important come the end of the film.
shareI thought they asked him to do it? How is that cheating?
shareThe intent with which the permission was giving changed. Somewhat like if its ok for your friend to punch you on the arm but if you tell him not to do it and he still does it its not ok.
sharewhat the hell are you talking about dude? they wanted him to impregnate her. she went there to seduce him with the husband's blessing. they even show the husband happy the next day when he looks at her and she asks 'what are you looking at" and he says "everything".
i dont understand what you missed in all this. after her husbands death she is no longer legally married. she falls in love with him over time and everythign they went through together.
and seriously, even if it was adultery, who gives a ****. its post-apocalyptic backwards-ass earth. you think people care?
So after her husband was dead she was supposed to stay "faithful" to his memory for the rest of her life? That makes no sense.
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Where is your logic? Seriously.
They could not have children. They asked the postman to help. He did. The husband and wife made the decision together and the husband happy about it afterwards. He then died. For much of the movie she still talked about how The Postman was just the "birth father" and that her late husband was the real father. She developed feelings for The Postman over time, as a widow. Near the end of the movie when she shares her feelings to the postman, she even talks about how hard it was to love him and that she never thought she could love a man as much as (not more than) she loved her late husband.
This whole arm punching comparison makes no sense. No one told anyone not to do anything, and everyone was happy about and in agreement on the postman helping them have a baby. In that post apocalyptic world in vitro was not an option. If they wanted a child that was a reasonable option, and they chose him because they figures he wouldn't be around much like other townsfolk.
Had he slept with her again with the husband being alive then THAT would have been adultery. It took him about a year after his death to even kiss her... NOT adultery.
I am a Reverand and There was no adultry commetted there in the movie, Abby could not get pregnet by her husband, they BOTH asked the Postman to help then have a child, he did with her husbands blessings. no further act was performed after that first, WHILE her husband was alive.She was single for a year before he came back. She fell in love with him after he came back. She is allowed to fall in love and remarry if she wishes. God did not intend us to be single after a husband or wife dies that is why he sends people our way.that's my humbil opion at least.
shareThere was clearly a cultural tradition of using a sperm donor for a 'Body Father' in that community. They had a name for it, therefore it was in no way adultery. In addition, it had been used a sufficient number of times so that it was known to have baggage attached. Evidently, some men who were Body Fathers thought they had parental rights to their children. Perhaps if the Body Father didn't already have sons and a son was born it caused problems, or the reverse?
Why try to make it into something it was not? Abby made it obvious she and her husband wanted a baby from the Postman. She also told him their reasons for wanting a Body Father who wasn't part of her community. Their motives were crystal clear in the film.
A cultural tradition born of necessity. These communities were very small and very isolated. They knew they had to take every opportunity to enrich and expand the community gene-pool or pretty soon they would be having three headed babies.
I imagine it was a good time to be a strong, healthy looking drifter wandering around those parts. So long as you could avoid Bethlehem's goons.
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then you are a *beep* Reverand. the bible is clear that people are not to have sex with anyone other than their spouse for absolutely no reason. Sarah gave a women to Abraham to concieve. this did not please god
shareYes, she committed adultery, by definition.
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Just because she had sex with him and moved on did not mean she did not love her husband, he died while defending her, how can she forget that, I am sure he is remembered by her for the rest of her life, don't think Kevin Costner would mind her keeping him in memory as well. Also, this was maybe a year or so after he was gone. Why not get with someone whom you have at least slept with before. He was a good man for her. One last point, under the conditions she slept with him bare in mind she could have easily just laid there or was simply not into it at all, as would be a woman loving her husband as she did, they just don't go all out with a total stranger under those conditions. She was looking for sperm, not orgasm, so lets stop thinking they sleeping together was magical, at least on her part.
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I was disturbed by this. The husband was made out to be such a pu$$y, first he let Costner creampie his wife and she obviously loved it because of the noises she was making and the look on her face. Then the husband allowed himself to be murdered in front of his wife, making him an even more submissive pu$$y than I initially thought.
No wonder she loved getting railed by Costner so much and ended up with him. After being with such a coward for all those years she really needed to do the dirty with a real man. I'll bet Costner's tea bag was stained brown for weeks after he impregnated her. What's worse is that I bet that while it was happening the husband was peeping through the window and busting a harder nut than Costner.
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Oh yeah, that was one of the things which confused me the most. I mean like... It seems like they wanted a plot twist when we hear that in the end her husband was an abusive asshole. But first, in what world would an abusive guy let his wife have sex with another guy, no matter the reason? And if he would I could guarantee that he wouldn't let her go alone, he would watch her every single moves. Second, let's suppose that he would let her go, doesn't that make him a trusting and honorable person?? Her making statements against him just to justify the fact that she was gonna end up with Coastner was lame. A 5 years old would have have found a better way. He died, right. We don't need a backround story to accept the fact that she needed a man to help her raising the kid, so her ending up with the protagonist because not only he seemed like the best option around, he was also the one who would had put the baby inside of her.
The movie really tried too hard to tell a story using a concept (which if only would had been exploited in the right way would had been a great flick) that was obviously not developed in the right way. I would have enjoyed the movies if I didn't have to stop every 5 minutes to ask myself "why the fuck was it even here? Was it really usefull to the story?"
I don’t recall the husband ever being revealed as an abuser. Could you be mixing him up with Gen. Bethlehem, who beat her because he was frustrated by his impotence?
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