i don't get it, what problem does mary have?

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First off I'm surprised no one has responded sooner, it just proves that not enuff ppl have seen this movie yet. It's a shame because I personally feel it's a jem.

In response to your question you pretty much hit the nail on the head. All of them were screwed up in their own way and they all carried this baggage with them into other relationships. Like you said instead of showing up as a complete independent person, they show up as quite the oposite and expect their partners to complete them. I think this was true of every character including Mary. Also the yearning for acceptance and approval seemed a constant theme as well. I think in her case she just wasn't emotionally available much like her husband. She also wasn't sure what she wanted. It seemed like she wanted safety and security but at the same time yearned for some excitement, something different then the same old missionary position if you will. But I also think her problem is she's just not a happy person to begin with. Even when it seemed like she finally got what she wanted in the end she still didn't seem happy. I think she was a highly depressed person.

An interesting observation to make and also something that this movie points out is when she did stray, how she strayed. You noticed she didn't go too far, in other words she stayed within the same circle of 'friends and neighbors'. I think this was done on purpose to show that while she did want something new and exiting she did not want to leave the comfort and security of what she had which seems to be a common theme for a lot of women like her.

~What if this is as good as it gets!~