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Just watched it again for the 2nd time

posted 8 years ago by eliz7212-1
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And I still have the same opinion. I am on the side of the daughter Tammy. Who on earth would bring this creature back into their lives. They took some chance. I don't care if the guy went to anger management or whatever. He did this to her for 17 years and she takes him back and subjects her kids to him?

I would have moved far away and divorced the guy. He cheated, he beated (I know, I'm making a rhyme) but honestly, he was so cruel and violent.

I wonder whatever happened to the adult daughter Tammy. It says at the end of the movie she never reconciled with her dad. Don't blame her one bit.

Been there, done that and I left the guy. No going back

Just my humble opinion.

[–] RoadSideAssistance 8 years ago

People make mistakes in life and experience many psychological issues. As it was described Ben was abused by his father before him.

He did his best to atone, seek help, and work his way back into his family's life.

It's really sad about Tammy. She clearly needed psychological help as well to get over the anger from disrupting her life (although that initial anger/hate was justified). Do you think she's really a happy person hating her Dad non-stop?

Hating people is a very strong thing and can cause you to experience a lot of anger and psychological trauma to boot. She would've been a much healthier person if she'd reconciled with her Dad and understood his condition, because it's a condition. It's clearly not healthy to be abusive towards anyone and he was experiencing severe issues as a result, almost to the point of suicide.

[–] eliz7212-1 8 years ago

I hear you. People do make mistakes. And people need to forgive. I completely understand that concept. Hating does more harm than any emotion we can feel.

But once you have been through some stuff, it's very hard to forgive and forget.

I prefer to put the past solely where it is, in the past.

I wish these people luck however. It's a long road.