This is for epi season 2 1 every 5 minutes and...
What Sam says at the end, for those of us who have been...Sadly, I think it could really be, 1 at least every minute, as hard as it is for us women to include men in this horrid statistic, was a part of a support group and met 2 brave men who needed to be in the group. We survivors are much stronger than we know, and even though at times we have to live not just day to day, but minute to minute with the hardest part of not letting the ones who did this to us, be it just once or for some of us, over some yrs, continue to keep us prisoners in our own minds.
What Sam says at the end, is true, but some need more, and am typing this as some have never told and are living on the edge even if not on that edge all the time. Does not matter if not talent with these suggestions, with the hope whomever is reading this, will go and seek help, as talking with someone who is able to hear and help is the best, but for now. Art, drawing or painting or sculpturing. Writing, be it poems, short stories or long ones or even just words that just go together at that moment. Music of any kind, be it singing or learning to play anything, or for some can write music and or song. Dance, any kind, any way you want to move, or even learn some dancing. Exercising, (yes, this could be part of dance), again any kind.
Repeating myself, but please, there is NO SHAME in getting help, even if its been yrs since it happened, as hard as it is to talk and remember it when talking about it the first time or even first several times, it does eventually lesson the turmoil inside your head. Not trying to be preachy or anything, just wish I could have read something like this at one time, as was in a town that basically blamed the girl, which made no sense to me as I was just shy of my 10th birthday, though was abused much younger, but was "preached at" that the female had to watch what she wore and talked and whatever so as to not make a man lust after her...so I never told till many yrs later...
Family lived in that town, did manage to change one persons mind that I know of, as had had it over hearing much esp about how to "dress". 1st, told them off, then as never having breast implants and they know that as saw me grow up, talk was about covering them as "makes men want when they see" so dont be revealing yada yada yada, Asked them, am I at fault because I look the way i do, big chested, that i was responsible for what a man thinks and does if he attacks me and also when I was not quite 10, what is the difference, also when abused/raped as an even younger child?
I cant "cover" they way they were saying as cant see my feet because of them and they "stuck out" bigger even than my pregnant bellies. And no, not over weight, was very active and doctors had to tell me to eat, esp because of all the sports played, though loved gymnastics, and was good, still lucky because of flexibility but you cant be top heavy to be "good" at least that is what i was told, sigh. ok typing much, will stop.
Live life to be alive...and may your day be well or find one thing that gives you that little extra, even just a 😄