Sexist, predictable, and genre-challenged

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Svanen, rights and responsibilities should go hand in hand. I believe that any man whose partner INADVERTENTLY becomes pregnant--or whose partner intentionally becomes pregnant against the man's wishes--should have the right to be informed immediately of the woman's condition. The man should also have the right to have an absolutely equal say in whether HE will be put in the position of having any further responsibility if the pregnancy proceeds to term. Under such circumstances, if the man does not want children, the woman would have three options that I can think of: abortion, adoption, or solo motherhood without the man's financial support. A truly responsible woman will recognize that although she has equal complicity in having sex, she has unequal power when it comes to the result, should a pregnancy occur. I believe that a responsible woman should recognize that her decision regarding a pregnancy affects someone other than herself, and so she bears the onus of making a responsible choice that is also in line with what the man desires.

You're right that sex is risky. You might feel that the man's "having an equal say" starts with the decision to have sex at all. But I don't believe that simply abstaining is a reasonable option.

People are appalled when a man tries to force a woman to have an abortion or carry a fetus to term. Why aren't they appalled when a woman tries to force a man into the position of being daddy? I find these situations equally appalling. I guess you would respond that if he didn't want to run the risk, he shouldn't have had sex in the first place. That's a valid viewpoint that obviously removes the threat from the outset. But I would respectfully point out that when a man uses a condom or knowingly has sex with a woman who is using birth control, his intention to not father children is clear from the beginning. And so is hers. By engaging in sex and using birth control, BOTH partners are tacitly agreeing that they do not want a child.

There are, of course, situations that fall outside these guidelines. Some women lie about being on the Pill or using other birth control. Shame on them, but does this mean that they can do whatever they want after that? Some people have unprotected sex--this act complicates matters, but I still believe that the man should not be forced to become a father to an unwanted child, even if that definition of fatherhood only extends to financial responsibility.

To me, the bottom line is that once they engage in sex, both parties have to be responsible if the woman gets pregnant. And this means that the woman has to take the man into equal consideration and not just make the final decision for him. After all, he can't force her to have an abortion or carry the child to term; why should she be able to make him support a child that he didn't want in the first place? Just because SHE wants it and doesn't give a hang what he wants? That's rather selfish, don't you think?

I don't consider this perspective sexist. I consider it humanist.

I thought it was kind of crummy how the woman disregarded the man's entire life style because SHE wanted to have a baby. SHE wanted him to get rid of his sports car, cat, redecorate his apartment. Apparently someone is supposed to sit back and not be opposed to anything when "a baby" is involved with it. I assume since she's a dance teacher he was paying for most of it. Frankly, when they broke up and he found that other girl I cheered some because he could stay the same. I know it's just a movie, and a terrible one at that and this doesn't matter entirely too much but it entertains me to think about these kind of things. Forgive me, but my job doesn't give me enough hours and school has gotten too easy so I watch the E! channel.

I agree with cashcrop. People look itno that stuff way too much and there are some people who LOOK for things to be offended about. he movie wasn't saying ALL men hate unplanned preganancies and are jerks, it was saying THIS PARTICULAR CHARACTER wasn't dealing with it well. Hugh Grant doesn't represent all mankind (thank god) so suck it up.

Not that i care of course, i hate men. You don't even know what sexism is and just so you *beep* know, "Nine Months" wasn't what made me think men despicable but whining movie junkies are certainly in a drop kick catagory.

Toughen up, thats what your gender is supposed to do. You stupid.