I applaude you for your post. This is something rare that society refuses to speak of.
I currently have a close friend that just became a father to his second baby a month ago. Though he loves both babies immensely, it was the works of his heavily depressed wife that they even exist.
At first they had both decided for an abortion, they are married and had no plans on leaving each other, so waiting didn't seem like a difficult choice.
But the honeymoon stages were passing and slowly the wife started getting back to her depressed self. Fearing that her husband would leave her because of the increasing fights between them, she made a u-turn and vowed to keep the baby. Without his consent ofcoure.
I, ashamedly, stood with my friend and tried convincing her to not keep it, to give it some more time. That's when she said something that made me cold all over. She looked at me and said that it doesn't matter if he stays or not, but if she has the baby, she never ever needs to be alone again. Her eyes looked so incredibly hollow.
I believed for a while that it was her sole reason, but with her increasingly odd behaviour, and another child on the way(forcing her to repeat the pattern of behaviour from the previous time), it was becoming very clear that her main purpose was to not be alone, sure, but it was also to keep her husband with her for as long as possible.
Now they have the most horrible fights where she has stabbed him repeatedly with a cocktail fork and also has choked the father with an electronics cable right in front of the baby.
This is a severe instance, but I've heard similar stories from my sister and girlfriends, which I honestly thought they were exaggarating until I was in the midst of my friends drama.
I'm sure that there are way more bad fathers than bad mothers, and I'm sure that the majority of awful things to happen in this world are the works of men, but that does not mean that there aren't any atrocities commited by women.
For true equality, we must put both genders under the same light .
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