At what age does someone know they are gay or lesbian? Can a straight person possibly go through a phase where they think they are homo-curious (I made that last word up)? A lady friend of mind sometimes feels slight tenderness for a female or a guy (usually actors). Nothing sexual, just some mildly amorous feelings.
sharewell i kno i'm les... known from a young age, i didn't feel any feelings of love for men, just for girls
shareEverone is different,sexuality is so complicated,but if you are attracted to someone of the same sex then you do at least have bisexual feeling,but yes when your a teen you can go through phases of having crushes on ppl and it doesn't always mean your gay or bi.
shareI knew when I was 4. Also, people can have crushes on both, not necessarily being bisexual, but just being flexible. It's taught in many psychology and sociology classes. For example, you have sexual feelings, but no preferance, you are a bisexual(very VERY few people are true bisexuals). Most people, are either straight or gay, and occasionally have feelings for someone of the other team. They know their preferance, but are just occasionally attracted to the other end. Make sense?
The six main forms of sexuality.....
Heterosexual-just attracted to opposite sex with no exceptions whatsoever
Homosexual- just attracted to the same sex with no exceptions
Heteroflexible- straight, but occasionally can find themselves attracted to the same sex
Homoflexible- gay, but occasionally can find themselves attracted to the opposite sex (that's what I am)
Bisexeual- equally attracted to both sexes with no preferance
Asexual- for humans, no existing sexual feelings at all.
I hope I helped.
Anyone open about their preferances?
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I don't really fit completely into any of those i'm more 60/40 towards girls but I wouldn't call myself homoflexible.So I class myself as Bisexual,which I believe is a sliding scale and so you don't need the other two-hetroflexible or homoflexible.Sexuality is a big gray area.
shareWell you see the professional definition of the word "bisexual" means a perfectly equal attraction to both sexes, that's why your average person is considered to be flexible (not everyone). Flexibility comes when you have a preferance but every now and then you find yourself drawn to the other team.
Tiki Tesh, that is so cool you are asexual. I always wanted to know what it's like. Some people say that it's the happiest way to be.
ljr-x25, I personally couldn't classify myself as bisexual, because I'm only drawn to a limited number of the opposite sex, but still very drawn to them emotionally and sexually, while my own sex drives me wild(make sense?).
Most people I asked were straight girls who said "Heteroflexible" because I'm attracted to men, but I'd so be with Mandy Moore, Tyra Banks etc.. That's why the chart is very important to people because when people say bisexual, it's assumed that they'll go for anything with no preferance whatsoever. Almost every man says "Heteroflexible" because they love women but would easily go for Johnny Depp, Brad Pitt, etc..
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I'm glad your happy with who U R Tikki,its always a good thing when someone is OK with not being whats considered 'norm'. there is no 'norm' just B yourself I say.I'm happy with the fact sometimes I like men or sometimes I like women.Celebrate your differences,its what makes us human.
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No not every man is hetroflexible,some men and some women are 100% straight.But it is true most ppl probably aren't 100% straight.
I'm Bi so what!
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Sorry your wrong at least 10% of men are gay and a higher percentage are bisexual or hetroflexible-so your can't say most as that is not quite true.You may be 100% straight but scientific studies show alot of ppl actually aren't.
I'm Bi so what!
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The Kinsey study and many others since were they have questioned thousands of ppl from a cross section of different societies and got those results.It really is a shame you can't except everyone is different and just because you are totally straight,some ppl aren't-my brother for one.And a number of my friends.
I'm Bi so what!
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I'm definitely a heterosexual, but by those definitions I guess some would call me heteroflexible. I would still argue that I'm heterosexual though. I like women. I can however tell you when a guy is hot, but I don't have any sexual feelings for them. However, that being said, if Johnny Depp or Antonio Banderas were interested, I might go for that, but they're the only exceptions.
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I'd just go with the lovely Shane's view from The L Word.
"sexuality is fluid. whether you're gay straight or bisexual. You just go with the flow"
The flow is a great thing to go with as I dont agree with catogorizing sexuality because its such a difficult subject to get caught up in. I'd rather just like someone for who they are.. and let the gender bits be a suprise :P
MERM.
I'm a happy Lesbian :P
I'm not good or real, I'm evil and imaginary.
It is not something you can ask someone else. You just know. I myself am bisexual. I HATE that word. So I call myself Half-Lesbian. HAHAHA I am willing to give and accept love where ever it comes from. Even when I thought I was fully gay, it was never the physical aspects of a relationship that kept me from dating men. I have now found a man who's emotions I am in sync with. That is what I was looking for. You can't always put yourself in a certain category. You just have to experience things for yourself, and go from there. Once you experience certain things, then you can decide in essence, who you could or could not accept love from.
shareExactly that's why I think bisexual covers alot of ground sexuality is one big sliding scale.Having hetroflexible and homoflexible is just labelling things too much.I studied psychology and sociology at college and know all about the Kinsey scale,but I still think they have to label things too percisely sometimes-I just except sexuality is a complicated thing and different for each person.
shareYou see, I always thought I was bisexual but it just didn't work for me. The Kinsey scale/flexible scale helped me and my friends immensely as a "hardcore" specific. In fact flexibility answered all of my questions.
shareMaybe I can't really sympathize, because I know I am straight, but I don't get why everyone needs labels. I think people should just love who they love, have sex with who they are attracted to etc. I think labels might be good in the beginning, but I also believe that there is always an exception. Like, for a gay man or woman, there is at least one person of the opposite sex they would connect with enough to have sex with, and same for straight people. And even if thats not true, I think labels make people worry about things too much. Like, they will be attracted to the sex they aren't usually attracted to and will have an dentity crisis. I think it would be so much easier if it was just... love who you love when you love them.
Plus, what happens if two lesbians are together, then one has a sex change? Are they still lesbians? Are they straight? (I saw this on Tyra) I think it has more to do with essance, soul, if you will, than with a body.
And as for the times you're not around, I wouldn't particularly mind it if you were-Brian
love is love,but it is the body u R sexually attracted to.labels help 2 understand but we should just B who we R whatever that is.2 trans lesbians who become men R then technically gay men.
As Morrissey would say, we are neither heterosexual or homosexual. We are just sexual.
shareThere is no certain age at which people know whether they are gay or straight. When I was a teenager, I was certain that I was straight. When I was in my 20s, I thought I was bi. It wasn't until I was 32 that I finally realized that I'm a lesbian.
shareI convinced myself as a teen I was straight,actually it wasn't until recent yrs mid 2 late twenties that I admitted i'm actually bi.And i'm alot happier,the confusion is gone.
shareThe only way I can put it is you just know. If it's a lingering feeling inside, then there's only one way to find out.
I guess I would be considered bisexual, but I just give anybody a chance.
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"How does a person know . . . "
Answer: Who are you sexually attracted to?
And why are you-all worried about labels? You are attracted to, and love, who you love. That's all.
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This is a good thread, I was worried the original question would be flamed.
I'm totally confused but have accepted it haha. I am female in my mid twenties and have only had relationships with men. However I am on occasion very attracted to women. I went through a phase of declaring that I was bisexual but seeing as I had never been in a relationship with a women or done anything more than kissing I found it wrong to label myself as such.
I had a very beautiful woman who was in love with me and I liked her a lot, but we never did anything more than kissing. It didn't feel right to me, whether it was just her or women in general, i'm not sure but I knew I would never want to use her as a way of finding out. Told you it was confusing haha.
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How do heterosexuals know they are heterosexuals?
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